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Further to my previous mytake on the benefits of hard rough anal I thought I'd do one on soft anal. This is the form of anal I do the most and derive the most pleasure from. So why do I actually like it and why should everyone be doing it?
PENETRATION ISN'T EASY
That may sound a strange reason for liking anal but the fact it's difficult is what makes it satisfying. It is difficult to anally penetrate an unwilling, uncooperative woman and is likely to be very painful for her. Getting penetrated up there requires the ability to control your own sphincter and the willingness to trust his skill. A good lover knows when it's relaxed enough to be entered but even the best often need your hand to guide them in while in certain position such as missionary. Poor lovers will get frustrated if penetration takes more than one attempt. Anal penetration is an achievement, the result of cooperation and trust, it is a moment of pure satisfaction.
Take a typical penetration scenario. You're BOTH well lubed up and through a little finger probing he's determined you're ready. On your back with a pillow tilting you just right you guide him to your hole. He pushes and you respond by pushing out your sphincter opening it up. You both keep it steady and unrushed, the pressure builds until the inevitable happens. There's what I call the popping moment where the head of the penis suddenly pops in. It's the moment you truly know if you were ready and can range from a little gasp to a oh fuck moment. Once past the sphincter a strange physiological thing occurs. Rather than trying to prevent entry your bottom actually sucks him inside. It's a natural reaction, we do it all the time when we can't get to a toilet and need to hold our faeces inside. There's a moment of mutual satisfaction of your achievement that you both rightly savour.
THAT FILLED UP FEELING
Even before any thrusting starts there's a wonderful sensation of fullness. It's like when you eat one more pie than you really should have. Some say it's a bit like when you desperately need the toilet but I disagree. You become distinctly aware of your own rectum as it molds itself around him. It's like an unfurling rippling sensation that finally settles into an embrace of his cock. I'm convinced many a sceptic of anal could be converted by just lying motionless and enjoying the intimate sensations you experience when full. For slow sensual anal I like to hold still for a few moments and concentrate on the slightest movements and how they're amplified inside.
I was doing anal long before I lost my real virginity and the fact I actually had someone inside of me rather than just rubbing on top was a very special feeling to me.
MAKE LOVE NOT WAR
Unlike hard anal, where the man simply thrusts with the intention of cumming as quickly and as powerfully as he can, slow anal is more about delaying his orgasm. This isn't easy due to the tightness or the psychological fact he's in your ass. The forceful ramming back and forth piston style is replaced by gentle smooth movements that vary in depth and angle. He works your ass like a violinist player bows his violin. There should be no pain or discomfort, no thud, thud, thud knocking just a gliding, wavy, squirming massaging sensation.
Girls don't scream or yell during this type of anal but that is not to say it is silent. It is hard not to moan a little but most of the time it's more gasping and heavy breathing.
One thing it does have in common with hard anal is a feeling of being dominated and surrendering your body to a man. You may have cooperated in helping him penetrate but once he's inside he's very much the driver. While the sensations are highly pleasant you are under no illusions that he is getting a lot of physical pleasure from having sex with you. The fact he's not banging you like a whore makes you feel he cares or at least respects you. That is not to say this type of anal need be restricted to boyfriends but is best with guys you know and trust.
THE VIRGINITY ASPECT
mentioned earlier that I was doing anal sex long before I lost my vaginal virginity. Around here anal does not carry same value as vaginal and is popular among virgins waiting for mr right as well as more experienced girls who simply enjoy it. Like so many others my sexlife started with intercrural sex ( holding penis between thighs, ideally so it rubs your clitoris). While enjoyable, occasionally orgasmic and was a wonderful introduction it was never deeply satisfying.
Anal sex changed all that, it's the closest thing to real sex you can get yet is miles apart. It perhaps helped that my first anal lover was quite experienced and to be honest far from impressive size wise being of average dimensions. More importantly I knew and trusted him impeccably, ok he was hot as fuck too. He took his time and guided me step by step. Penetration although not easy and taking a few attempts was relatively pain free, no more than passing a hard stool. But actually having a man inside me rather than just rubbing on top was amazing. As he glided back and forth I expanded and constricted inside with his thrusts and felt what it was like to be taken. The new sensations were intense and if I'm honest a bit strange. Nevertheless he was gentle and I held on and took it. I can't say I was in ecstasy but it was good. Perhaps if this first experience wasn't so enjoyable I'd have been reluctant to repeat and would have missed out on so much.
ANAL ORGASMS
Although I grew to love anal more and more with each session I never actually orgasmed. This is no surprise as girls lack a prostrate gland. Orgasms occur when anal sex is combined with masturbation or when the clitoris rubs against an object such as a pillow. The combined sensation of anal sex and clitoral orgasm is incredible and compliment each other perfectly. Slow anal definitely produces more orgasms than hard fast anal.
TIPS FOR GREAT SLOW ANAL
Double lube. Make sure both of you are well lubed up not just the girl. Thicker lubes are better.
Drink alcohol. Not to get drunk, just a small amount to relax her muscles, it'll make penetration easier.
Go slow. The clues in the name SLOW ANAL. Probe and explore with the penis, let it slide naturally, we want to feel every twitch, bump and bulge.
Go deep. Slow doesn't mean shallow. Although you should explore every inch don't be afraid to try and penetrate as deep as possible. Simply filling us deeply and letting it twitch inside feels good to us even without moving.
Prone bone with his hand palming your vagina is most likely to give you an orgasm but missionary feels nicest overall. Positions like doggy or standing are more suitable for more assertive thrusting.
Lightly dominant us. Show your in control and take your pleasure but in a caring way. Firm but gentle.
Let us know when you're going to cum. I don't always feel the ejaculation due to all the lube but it's a moment I like to share. Some men orgasm during slow thrusting while others temporarily lose control. It's nice to be warned.
So stop being a prude and discover a whole new level to sex
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