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How To Have A Safe One Night Stand

WHY HAVE A ONE NIGHT STAND

One night stands are an excellent way of releasing sexual tension and are far more effective than simply masturbating. Sex is a basic human need so why should it be restricted to people in relationships? You can have one with anyone, even people who would never date you. I see it as no different than playing tennis with someone or going out for a meal.

ARE YOU ONE NIGHTER MATERIAL?

How To Have A Safe One Night Stand

WHERE TO FIND THEM

I get most my one night stands at my local bar which doubles up as a rugby club. A fresh coach load of men gets regularly delivered for the village ladies to prey upon each weekend. Alternatively I meet a lot through social events organised by the young farmers club. The main thing is look in places you feel comfortable and know well, being relaxed in your surroundings really helps.

Picking up people is easy
Picking up people is easy

I get most my one night stands at my local bar which doubles up as a rugby club. A fresh coach load of men gets regularly delivered for the village ladies to prey upon each weekend. Alternatively I meet a lot through social events organised by the young farmers club. The main thing is look in places you feel comfortable and know well, being relaxed in your surroundings really helps.

EVALUATING A GUY

Trousers like this are a warning sign
Trousers like this are a warning sign

When deciding if it's safe to go with a guy there is no room for equal rights. You must discriminate. Never be afraid to discriminate. Discrimination is what keeps us safe. Imagine two short cuts. Down one you see some black guys in ghetto clothing, lurking suspiciously in the shadows smoking crack. Down the other you see some white old men in suits drinking coffee. Which one do you go down. ( ok if it's harvey weinstein you migh want to reconsider) it's the same with choosing a partner, if alarms go off that they're not quite right and unsafe it's best to walk away.

Some position are just asking for a migraine
Some position are just asking for a migraine

I never go with a man wearing a baseball cap, or wearing a tracksuit Such men are the bottom rung of society, are usually involved in crime and have a reputation for violence when they don't get their own way. (The fact they look gormless is also a big no no).

Watch how they interact with other men, do they throw their weight about, barge through people, act in a confrontational, combative manner? Some girls like the badboys but remember it's that sort who will murder you. If they can't respect people in public don't expect it in private.

Over confidence is also a warning sign, such men have an over inflated sense of self worth and entitlement. Such men, once they have you alone may want more than you're prepared to give. I'm not saying confidence is bad but when its unrealistic it's time to walk away.

Always ask their occupation. Are they vague and secretive? Often a sign they're really criminals. I've slept with labourers and professional and non has evaded the question, I'm very suspicious of those who do.

Be wary of those with more money than their intelligence justifies. You can bet 9 times out of 10 it wasn't honestly earned. You know the type, big wad of cash bit they need help to read the menu. Do you really want to let such people into your home?

Avoid guys who continuously ask what you're into sexually. Asking once or twice is good, it helps set limits, but continuously pressing the question means he's after some sick shit or looking to fulfil a fantasy.

You can trust a man who keeps kittens
You can trust a man who keeps kittens

WHERE TO GO FOR SEX

There are several options each with their pros and cons.

PUBLIC PLACES

PROS. Neutral territory so neither feels out of place. Easy to call for help if things go bad. Ideal if you want to keep your address anonymous. Thrill of risk of being caught.
CONS. Risk of being caught. Best to remain clothed. Limits sex positions. Often rushed cum n go type sex.

Common places could include toilets (careful as entrance may be covered by cctv) alleyways, shop door ways, bus stop shelters. Look for places that are discrete and offer privacy but are close to safe areas you can flee to. One big disadvantage is the missionary position is often unsuitable due to dirty floors or lack of space, but standing or bent over are excellent choices. Sex is usually very basic with the intention of cumming hard and quick. This is why it's important to be the type who orgasms easy because he isn't going to wait for you. Be clear what you're offering before you sneak into that "quiet place" is it just a BJ or more. 99.9% of men will respect your limits and are very happy.

THEIR PLACE.

You've got him now hopefully his beds clean
You've got him now hopefully his beds clean

PROS. They don't learn your address. Nosy neighbours don't see you bring someone home. If you live with parents they won't know. He's the one who has to deal with the wet bedsheets.
CONS. Ideal place for them to murder you in privacy. Risk of hidden cameras. Could easily be forced to do things you don't want. May have housemates who want a go.

Their place can be tempting especially if it's close but you're on their territory and can feel extra vulnerable. If they show any creepy signs it's best not to go. However if you feel it's safe then it can be an excellent choice.

Does he live in a nice area or one with a bad reputation? It's often a clue to his real personality. Remember when you leave his place do you want to be walking alone in a rough area full of criminals.

YOUR PLACE.

Reward for your hard work
Reward for your hard work

PROS. You know the bed will be clean. You have the psychological advantage. If your parents are home you have added protection.
CONS. He knows where you live. He might steal stuff.

Make sure your not disturbed
Make sure your not disturbed

If you live with parents it's important that they're ok with you bringing men home for sex. Most guys don't want to be greeted by your father upon entrance so hopefully they'll have retired to bed before you get home. Return the respect by keeping the sex noises to a minimum. Remember some guys will feel uncomfortable sharing breakfast with your parents.

WHEN THINGS GO WRONG

OOPS WRONG HOLE.

Even though you should make it clear what you will and won't do, once naked and alone in bed you may find some guys pushing for anal, or even just taking it. I always prelube even on the nights I don't want anal just to be safe. Should you find yourself being analised in private there is little you can do but take it. It is recommended you do not have a one night stand if you're an anal virgin.

AW SO SOON

One common problem with one night stands is you take the risk of getting a twopumpchump. The best course of action is not to antagonize him but to simply offer to rest and retry. Some will recover or satisfy you in other ways, while others will leave out of embarrassment.

It happens to us all
It happens to us all

HAVE I BEEN RAPED

No you haven't. I see this a lot on GAG. "I met a guy and asked him for sex. He took me home and we chatted about sex on the way. We undressed, got in bed and after I sucked his dick for half an hour he fucked me for 30 seconds. It was rubbish, have I been raped?" NO. Just because he didn't live up to his own bullshit promises doesn't mean you were raped. Nor can you change your mind the next day.
It is rare to find a guy who won't stop if you have a real problem. But if you suddenly get a change of mind, or realise there's a good film on TV, or he just isn't that good then it's best just to let him bang you until he's done. Being temporarily inconvenienced is not rape.

CONCLUSION

The vast majority of guys are not murderers, violent or wanting weird creepy stuff. In truth they're happy just to have a bit of harmless fun. So instead of going home alone and having a finger while he goes home for a wank, why not go together and enjoy the real thing?

Occasionally things go wrong but not often
Occasionally things go wrong but not often
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Most Helpful Guys

  • PLAIN_SPOKEN

    Cuz guys & girls are "wired" different. Females are more emotional & sex makes them become attached quickly (not all) but I've been in this sitch & friends with benefits & next thing u know it's "dont leave & sleep over" next thing u know she's asking u to move in & planning my future... Lol

    Is this still revelant?
  • Nik1hil

    Girls please read this every girl need to read this...
    They are like Golden Rules..
    - Sex is a basic need.
    - Sex isn't always going to be great.
    - lousy sex or temporary inconvenienced does not implies rape..
    - Not every Guy is going to be Great..
    - & Stay safe..

    Is this still revelant?

Most Helpful Girl

  • Jammers14

    You never mentioned STD’s.
    Not even condoms.
    Your definition of a safe one night stand could lead to a gift of lifelong viruses, becoming infertile and a whole bunch of other bad news.

    Is this still revelant?

What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Robertcw

    You are easily the most sex positive girl on this site. I hope that I might find girls like you one of these weekends. You are exactly what I'd look for in a hookp -- young, open minded, positive and presumably not rude.

  • AD240pCharlie

    I'm not comfortable having sex with people I don't know, no matter how sexually attractive they are, so I can't have one night stands. But the cats were adorable!

  • WalsallGuy90

    This is a really good MyTake. Well written, well thought out, and hey, it's promoting good fun between consenting adults ;) What's not to like?

  • DWornock

    That's all find and dandy, but regardless of the fact that you are very attractive and sexy looking, if I knew you were fucking that many men, I wouldn't fuck you.

  • Chuck21

    It's just what a woman do when they are feeling like a slut.
    Dinks a lot, Halloween, and roll play. Are all times I remember a girl gets to let loose.

  • BillieJean1070

    Good information... a ONS is not a bad thing handled properly.

  • Passinggas

    I agree with one night stands. I don't agree with all of your techniques, logic but it doesn't matter. My best ons have been the local bar, sailboat races, and in Eastern Europe.

  • missyme3

    Thats fine an well but if ur in a relationship its not ok. One night stands can lead to 18 years jus remember be safe an make sure ur ready for the what comes next!

  • lickem1961

    I love to go down on wemon I love it A lot so If you are A one night stand be clean I won't stop until you are satisfied and I know what I am doing

  • Holy_Ghost_Fire

    I only believe in sex within marriages.

    I don't know what sexual night stands are but if not within marriage, it's immoral.

  • PositiveNote

    I like your very positive take on an old subject. I have a question for you: How can I tell that you want to take me home for a night?

  • Damn... I didn't know you were such a naughty girl poppy. I'm guessing that explains the handcuffs...

  • DDpsy

    TLDR... the kittens entertained me for 5 mins though.

  • Soooo... how many men have you slept with? 🤭

    • Who's counting? I don't get this whole keep a tally thing guys do

    • Oh alrite I was just asking just in case lol

  • Napoly_Lover

    The girls machine and the vibro cat omg 😂😂😂

  • jimboy

    U have pretty good opinions

    • missyme3

      T. y im just saying how i feel.

  • I am so glad I dont do hookups

  • vald9inches

    Well said

  • lostxgirl89

    Love the information here. Thanks!!

  • Let's play ball!!! Lol

  • SeanshterMonster

    By not having one.

  • JennieF

    Excellent tips!

  • Games_

    Hopefully I can have sex before I go to college

  • interesting read

  • With oral sex you can save one night stand

  • scottu73

    I totally agree

  • 0uttaLuck

    I'm snipped who'se game?

  • givemeyourwife

    Any ladies wanting a ONS let me know

  • Can we talk privately

  • SilverRain92

    Hope that I would never have to do that

  • Anonymous

    I’ve had a lot of ONS thanks to Craigslist, Tinder and POF. Nothing like releasing a load in a strange woman.

  • Anonymous

    The two major points in your post are:
    1. have I been raped?" NO. Just because he didn't live up to his own bullshit promises doesn't mean you were raped. Nor can you change your mind the next day.

    2. The vast majority of guys are not murderers, violent or wanting weird creepy stuff.

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