Sexual Relationships 
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WHY HAVE A ONE NIGHT STAND
One night stands are an excellent way of releasing sexual tension and are far more effective than simply masturbating. Sex is a basic human need so why should it be restricted to people in relationships? You can have one with anyone, even people who would never date you. I see it as no different than playing tennis with someone or going out for a meal.
ARE YOU ONE NIGHTER MATERIAL?
WHERE TO FIND THEM
I get most my one night stands at my local bar which doubles up as a rugby club. A fresh coach load of men gets regularly delivered for the village ladies to prey upon each weekend. Alternatively I meet a lot through social events organised by the young farmers club. The main thing is look in places you feel comfortable and know well, being relaxed in your surroundings really helps.
I get most my one night stands at my local bar which doubles up as a rugby club. A fresh coach load of men gets regularly delivered for the village ladies to prey upon each weekend. Alternatively I meet a lot through social events organised by the young farmers club. The main thing is look in places you feel comfortable and know well, being relaxed in your surroundings really helps.
EVALUATING A GUY
When deciding if it's safe to go with a guy there is no room for equal rights. You must discriminate. Never be afraid to discriminate. Discrimination is what keeps us safe. Imagine two short cuts. Down one you see some black guys in ghetto clothing, lurking suspiciously in the shadows smoking crack. Down the other you see some white old men in suits drinking coffee. Which one do you go down. ( ok if it's harvey weinstein you migh want to reconsider) it's the same with choosing a partner, if alarms go off that they're not quite right and unsafe it's best to walk away.
I never go with a man wearing a baseball cap, or wearing a tracksuit Such men are the bottom rung of society, are usually involved in crime and have a reputation for violence when they don't get their own way. (The fact they look gormless is also a big no no).
Watch how they interact with other men, do they throw their weight about, barge through people, act in a confrontational, combative manner? Some girls like the badboys but remember it's that sort who will murder you. If they can't respect people in public don't expect it in private.
Over confidence is also a warning sign, such men have an over inflated sense of self worth and entitlement. Such men, once they have you alone may want more than you're prepared to give. I'm not saying confidence is bad but when its unrealistic it's time to walk away.
Always ask their occupation. Are they vague and secretive? Often a sign they're really criminals. I've slept with labourers and professional and non has evaded the question, I'm very suspicious of those who do.
Be wary of those with more money than their intelligence justifies. You can bet 9 times out of 10 it wasn't honestly earned. You know the type, big wad of cash bit they need help to read the menu. Do you really want to let such people into your home?
Avoid guys who continuously ask what you're into sexually. Asking once or twice is good, it helps set limits, but continuously pressing the question means he's after some sick shit or looking to fulfil a fantasy.
WHERE TO GO FOR SEX
There are several options each with their pros and cons.
PUBLIC PLACES
PROS. Neutral territory so neither feels out of place. Easy to call for help if things go bad. Ideal if you want to keep your address anonymous. Thrill of risk of being caught.
CONS. Risk of being caught. Best to remain clothed. Limits sex positions. Often rushed cum n go type sex.
Common places could include toilets (careful as entrance may be covered by cctv) alleyways, shop door ways, bus stop shelters. Look for places that are discrete and offer privacy but are close to safe areas you can flee to. One big disadvantage is the missionary position is often unsuitable due to dirty floors or lack of space, but standing or bent over are excellent choices. Sex is usually very basic with the intention of cumming hard and quick. This is why it's important to be the type who orgasms easy because he isn't going to wait for you. Be clear what you're offering before you sneak into that "quiet place" is it just a BJ or more. 99.9% of men will respect your limits and are very happy.
THEIR PLACE.
PROS. They don't learn your address. Nosy neighbours don't see you bring someone home. If you live with parents they won't know. He's the one who has to deal with the wet bedsheets.
CONS. Ideal place for them to murder you in privacy. Risk of hidden cameras. Could easily be forced to do things you don't want. May have housemates who want a go.
Their place can be tempting especially if it's close but you're on their territory and can feel extra vulnerable. If they show any creepy signs it's best not to go. However if you feel it's safe then it can be an excellent choice.
Does he live in a nice area or one with a bad reputation? It's often a clue to his real personality. Remember when you leave his place do you want to be walking alone in a rough area full of criminals.
YOUR PLACE.
PROS. You know the bed will be clean. You have the psychological advantage. If your parents are home you have added protection.
CONS. He knows where you live. He might steal stuff.
If you live with parents it's important that they're ok with you bringing men home for sex. Most guys don't want to be greeted by your father upon entrance so hopefully they'll have retired to bed before you get home. Return the respect by keeping the sex noises to a minimum. Remember some guys will feel uncomfortable sharing breakfast with your parents.
WHEN THINGS GO WRONG
OOPS WRONG HOLE.
Even though you should make it clear what you will and won't do, once naked and alone in bed you may find some guys pushing for anal, or even just taking it. I always prelube even on the nights I don't want anal just to be safe. Should you find yourself being analised in private there is little you can do but take it. It is recommended you do not have a one night stand if you're an anal virgin.
AW SO SOON
One common problem with one night stands is you take the risk of getting a twopumpchump. The best course of action is not to antagonize him but to simply offer to rest and retry. Some will recover or satisfy you in other ways, while others will leave out of embarrassment.
HAVE I BEEN RAPED
No you haven't. I see this a lot on GAG. "I met a guy and asked him for sex. He took me home and we chatted about sex on the way. We undressed, got in bed and after I sucked his dick for half an hour he fucked me for 30 seconds. It was rubbish, have I been raped?" NO. Just because he didn't live up to his own bullshit promises doesn't mean you were raped. Nor can you change your mind the next day.
It is rare to find a guy who won't stop if you have a real problem. But if you suddenly get a change of mind, or realise there's a good film on TV, or he just isn't that good then it's best just to let him bang you until he's done. Being temporarily inconvenienced is not rape.
CONCLUSION
The vast majority of guys are not murderers, violent or wanting weird creepy stuff. In truth they're happy just to have a bit of harmless fun. So instead of going home alone and having a finger while he goes home for a wank, why not go together and enjoy the real thing?
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