The rumour about guys wanting only one thing, let's talk about that shall we...

[Anonymous]

I want to clarify beforehand that I am NOT targeting ALL women or saying they all talk with this mind set, I am simply saying that I have seen TOO MANY posts about this woman saying this.

Calm down woman, you are pissing off a lot of my guy friends you know... -__-

I have seen videos and reaction vids where guys react to hearing women saying it too, but that's just too F*ckin difficult to find, I might try and find it later in the post but for now I will just elaborate on what guys want.

"Guys only want one thing" refers to saying they only want sex, which is utter Bullshit.

I'll start with SEXUALITY

Assuming guys only want one thing when there are SO many different sexualities is actually bullshit, how can you be so blind to believe all guys only want one thing when they all have their own preferences?

I know guys who

-Like guys

-Like girls

-Like girls and guys

-Aren't attracted to either

-Like girls but aren't interested in doing anything sexual with them

-Like guys and girls but aren't interested in doing anything sexual with them

Being primarily sexually, romantically and/or emotionally attracted to men, males, and/or masculinity.

Aromantic

Experiencing little or no romantic attraction to others and/or has a lack of interest in romantic relationships/behaviour.

Asexual

Bicurious

A curiosity toward experiencing attraction to people of the same gender/sex.

Bisexual

A person who experiences attraction to some men and women. This does not have to be equally balanced, they can be attracted to one of the genders more than the other, but if they are attracted to both in any way, they are bisexual.

Gay

Experiencing attraction solely (or primarily) to some members of the same gender.

Heterosexual (Straight)

Being attracted to the opposite gender only.

Pansexual

Sexual, romantic, physical attraction to all sexual identities.

Polyamory

The desire for relationships including multiple people. Ethical, honest, and consensual non-monogamous relationships.

Crediting website:

https://www.itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2013/01/a-comprehensive-list-of-lgbtq-term-definitions/

Guys who have tastes ranging from

-Tights/ Leggings/ knee socks

-Short girls

-Tall guys

-Tall girls

-Small chests

-Large chests

-Dominant girls

-Dominant guys

-Submissive girls

-Submissive guys

-Polite girls

-Aggressive girls

-Polite guys

-Aggressive guys

-Girls with certain accents

-Guys with certain accents

-Certain haircuts

-Girls who don't wear makeup

-Shy girls

-Shy guys

-Extrovertal guys

-Extrovertal girls

There are SO MANY more preferences and tastes, with all this evidence it is actually stupid to claim guys only want one thing when they all have different tastes, some having different sexualities all together, therefore meaning they might not even be interested in sex AT ALL.

I know from experiences that the ones who have said this to me in person, are always girls who have had one shit relationship with a guy and now refuse to believe any guy is any different, kind of insulting to the whole gender don't you think?

Like I said at the beginning, I am not targeting all girls, but I have had face to face conversations with over 20 girls who have this ideology and putting them in there place, telling them why they are wrong is just both insulting and troublesome to explain to them when they are so damn stubborn.

I mean, how would those girls feel if us guys always said

"Oh, girls only want one thing from guys, they only want sex and it's F*cking disgusting"

They would get immediately pissed at us and tell us how rude we are being, so why can't they see why they are in the wrong here?

Okay, I genuinely have to wrap this up, otherwise I am just going to get more aggressive and more verbally abusive, so I am just gonna stop now.

Thanks for reading and take care everyone! <3

~TheSnekHandler (Jack)

[Felinegirl]

I agree that most guys aren't that shallow, but queer people are a minority hence not a great argument.

Most guys are straight and not asexual. I think girls who generalize, mean those 90% of guys who are interested in women and who would enjoy sex.
Typically they mean: 'all the guys who express in me only want sex and nothing else'.

I think those girls don't put enough effort into getting to know guys, they presume, and they don't realise that wanting sex doesn't necessarily mean they don't want anything else.
Furthermore, they seem to forget that most guys don't try to hit on them. Those few players who try to hook up with everyone are the only ones they notice, because those guys are very forward and noticeable. I think that's where the stereotype comes from.

[myTake Owner]

This was an amazing comment, you went so in depth and worded your views so greatly, I loved reading it, thank you for taking so much time to write such an amazing and descriptive comment :)

[Felinegirl]

Thanks for the reply, it means a lot to me that you said that! :)

[myTake Owner]

Well you deserve it and continue with the great work :)

[ChiTown33]

She gets it.

[gaurwaith]

yes! very perceptive of you

[DaMack999]

There is a reason a women has a vagina. Lol to say he doesn't want it is to be hypocritical.

[KaitieSearching]

“ All guys want 1 thing. “
For me, this phrase was not born of bitterness over a bad relationship.
My dad says it’s so. I grew up with him telling me that he knows how boys think because he was one of them, and that’s why he doesn’t trust them with me. Maybe it’s not universal that men are that way. I don’t know. But it’s not always malicious that women think it so. Sometimes we were taught that.

[myTake Owner]

Well I would like to believe it was something they were taught at a young age instead of the ideology that I have come across, thank you :)

[WalterBlack]

I think parents are right to caution their offspring, especially daughters, about having sex right away in a relationship. While I do believe that the majority of young men have good intentions, there is no doubt that some men are trying to use women for sex. (It's worth mentioning that not all women are innocent. Women can use guys for sex too). It takes time to get to know someone and fully understand their intentions. Teenagers often lack the experience to be able to pick up on the cues that the other person is only in the relationship for sex. So I think that fathers who teach their daughters "all guys want one thing" are right to protect their daughters, but phrasing the message this way paints a bad picture of men in general.

[Chris4744]

I want sex but I also want a committed relationship and a family. I typically abstain from sex outside of relationships. That should say more than enough. On another point... women are just as fucking bad as men. I can’t tell you how many girls just treat guys like sexual objects, only it’s worse, because they want your money too.

[FeministDestroyer]

What your dad taught you was wrong. hate to break it to you. but that is a terrible thing to say

[Galaz]

Well kinda goes to show ut dads character and how he used to scheme for the nookie ^^

[lernulo]

It's a great point the one you put... I have one question, was your dad a player when he was young? Im not blaming, but... I Have heard it to many players who after have a daughter and don't want their daughters to be played as they did with tomen. So, I would ask myself if it's the case, if I were you.

[KaitieSearching]

@lernulo I don’t know. He was a marine so maybe, but pretty religious, so maybe not.

[charlie_all_night]

I care less about physical encounters yet am addicted to the act of sex.. I am recovering from many issues an can't even get excited honestly.. Broken an confused discarded an used nothing forgotten an unamused.. Make my memory blank an erase the yesterdays can't forget anything please let me rest and change my ways

[Badballie]

Ideology has got nothing to do with lust orgasms and the fact men want as much sex as they like. It is the way men are wired. I know that if men did not want sex from any woman, none of them would get married. SIMPLE LADIES GET IT INTO YOUR HEAD. Or are you too stupid? The movies have their own agenda, simple lies in their agenda. So Romance etc

[Evil_Chuck]

While this saying is not entirely false, women should understand how and why it applies. Contrary to popular opinion, there are two ways to a man's heart: his stomach and his dick. Not to be crude, but that's the reality. We have needs. We understand love and romance, but we realize them most effectively through having those needs fulfilled. At least I do. Sex is a conduit, not a destination (unless you are a teenager or simply uncommitted). Trying to maintain a mental connection without a physical one is difficult for us, and often unsustainable. A relationship starves without sex as surely as a body does without food.

[myTake Owner]

Well explained, good job :)

[shinka1y234]

Stomach? What do you mean?

[myTake Owner]

@shinka1y234 Food, a lot of guys love food and when food is made by others, it feels even more warming, for some reason if someone makes something for you, it makes it 10 times better <3

[Kiroi]

Sounds wrong to me

[MrxPranav]

For me who are single for all of his life I just want love and trust in relationship n nothing else

[myTake Owner]

That's beautiful man :) I want that too, I hope you get what you want and I hope you are happy ^_^

[MrxPranav]

Only when any miracle happens then I could get what I want

[MrOracle]

The vast majority of men want sex, with or without a relationship. That's a biological drive that is heavily responsible for the success of the species.

Most women don't want sex outside of a relationship (yes, there are exceptions), and they have trouble dealing with the fact that men don't need to be in a relationship or have an emotional connection to have sex - even if many of us prefer a relationship.

Again, exceptions exist, but you cannot deny the truth of what I wrote, and it's understandable that women have trouble understanding it when their brains and instincts work so differently.

This also speaks to why gay men are so promiscuous (there is no woman involved to say "I need a relationship first") and why many lesbian couples struggle with "lesbian bed death" (lack of sex drive) without testosterone in the mix.

You may be one of the exceptions - guys who need a relationship before wanting sex - but most guys are not that way, and to say otherwise is to be naive or just dishonest.

[myTake Owner]

Your description was certainly well explained and fair, I'm happy how you didn't get defensive but rather explained the reasoning for both sides and made a passive comment :)

[Kiroi]

Doesn't seem right to me

[Screenwriter]

Very young men, teens, early twenties, often have sex on their minds... As they reach their mid and late 20s, they ease off the accelerator and start balancing sex and emotional connections. It takes some time and maturity. The hormone dump of puberty is at fault and it includes some women too, but probably far fewer than guys. Testosterone is the sex drive drug!
But ultimately, humans seek love and support from friends, family and partners. There are a minority of men and women who never settle down or want a longterm partner for awhile. But even if they don't stay permanently with one person, they will stay for many years with one person. Humans seem to be serial monogamists. Do the best you can to find a mate who matches you.

[AuroraRoseat]

I believe there isn’t a significant number of men who are asexual or disinterested in sexual. I think the majority of men want it. Is that bad? No. What is is if he hustles after sex at the expense of the person.

[NumaleSoybeans]

You mean you want to get your vagina's worth?

[AuroraRoseat]

I’m not understanding.

[NumaleSoybeans]

"he hustles after sex" You're saying he makes fake promises to get sex. It means women never give sex for free, a vagina always costs something. Most women expect to be paid in commitment and money, only then do they tolerate sex.

[AuroraRoseat]

I’m saying that he manipulates the woman for his base pleasure without understanding her needs; treating her as a sexual object or conquest and not an individual in which he can be in a fulfilling relationship with.

[NumaleSoybeans]

I'm other words, vagina costs a price and he must may for it.

[AuroraRoseat]

No. Because some women won’t put out no matter what. What’s so difficult for you to understand?

[Lady_Frost]

[Red-Blaze]

All means a lot, obvsily nothing really mean all, just like your post dose not mean all, same as if someone tells you "Everyone has 2 hands" even that in the end its not true, but its most, and that is the meaning
Same when they say that, and honestly, I have to some what agree with the statement, its not everyone obviously, but there is a fair share of guys out there, at least loud or pushy guys that only want sex
And this is how it feels from personal experience just for one example lately, had someone that I told them for ages that I am not interested, finely it got into there mind that there never going to have sex with me period, and there response? "So all this time was a waste, good bye then for the last time!" and that mind you is after a few times I told them I am not interested, and they respond that its fine they only want to be friends and they understand

I had sooo many cases of guys being nice and stuff, and in the end honestly its just ended up in a way to get into my pants, that at this point every nice guy around for me I am stuck in my mind with "Are there trying to just pull me for sex? or are they really just nice?" and really its really hard to tell some of this guys are really prasitent you will find sometimes even that after year or 2 they suddenly really get that I am not into them sexually, and they just leave basically, as now I am only a waste of time for them

So I can completely get why someone may say it and I can someone agree that its how it feels a lot of the time, if you agree to it or not
But if possible try to think how it is to live to a state that you feel that you almost can't trust any guy around as he may just be doing something to get you to have sex with them, and maybe you understand why someone says that, even that they clearly dont really think that (most of them)

Beside all that, what dose sexuality have to do with anything, fish can go on ground, just look at baby frogs
Most of the people have straight sexuality and just if someone is into other guys or cars dont mean they are not interested in sex
And that is beside that again its not on everyone clearly

And about
"I mean, how would those girls feel if us guys always said
"Oh, girls only want one thing from guys, they only want sex and it's F*cking disgusting""
The answer is I think that guy must have meet some really rare girls out there, as that is not what I see commonly, and not what I have heard from friends (I am a bi)
or that the guy is just saying BS

Just like for you this feels like everyone is saying it (and likely its more because movies say it, then real people say it)
Girls that say it are talking about how it feels, just like you are saying on how it feels for you

[Moonchild714]

Both Genders Generalize aboutvtge opposite Gender way too much especially here on GaG. Guys on here over Generalize about Women saying we only want Money ehen some a Minority that's a Fact but tge Majority of Women it is Not Factual and Women get Angry about that Generalized Statement. Also, I've seen on GaG guys saying Women are more Promiscuous than Men first time I ever heard that ever in my whole life... Anyhow Women Generalize Guys only want Sex, Hot Women, and Young Women. Guys Generalize Women only want Rich Men, Bad Boys, & Trap Guys... Not Factual Statements with Either Gender. There are Minorities that think and act in these manners but we don't all do this. Just this morning I commented on a different post saying Another Generalized Statement...

[Katerina_Belle]

You haven’t really addressed anything except taking it out of context.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I'm trying to figure out why the rumor is quite accurate. Not for all men of course.
Please just focus on straight and bisexual. In my opinion, men who are married and dating, they expect a sexual relationship, so they chase women (or/and men). They put effort to get what they want even sometimes they seek out from others who are not their own partner and girlfriend/boyfriend. (which I am disgusted.)
I think it's our responsibility to state what we want. Personally, I would like to be mentally connected to someone, as a life partner. I don't want to be approached by men who don't want anything else but my body.
Women, you need to be courageous to speak up for what you want. What you don't want. If you don't want to be viewed as a sex object. Be assertive. Make it clear.
I believe one day your prince will come.

[myTake Owner]

I agree that both women and men should say what they want and what they don't want, ironically it is actually more common for women to say what they don't want because if a guy says what he doesn't want, he is shunned, I am talking about sexual things here of course. But I totally support that both genders must make it clear what they do and don't want. I just don't want the genders making claims that they know what the other gender wants, that completely goes against the first rule, does it not?

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Sure. Everybody should. Assumption, discrimination close our minds.

[nerms123]

Yeah you are right but the problem is guys who just want sex number a lot and are also the most vocal so that’s why girls feel that way. But I’ve also seen a lot of relationship minded men on gag. But they tend to be more quiet.

[myTake Owner]

You are indeed right, the ones who only want sex are often much more extroverted and that is likely because they care less about how they are seen whereas the ones who want a relationship based on love, care, affection and general trust are shyer as they are somewhat scared of how they are viewed, as such they are overlooked more by others :'(

[WalterBlack]

All guys (except for the very small number of asexual or voluntary celebate guys) want sex. However, I believe that the majority (at least 50%) of guys want sex in the context of a loving relationship.

[myTake Owner]

I got a little concerned for a bit that you were going to say all guys are bad and just want sex, it's only after I read the rest that I confirmed you actually made it clear that the majority want a loving relationship, well said :)

[WalterBlack]

Yeah, I'm basically saying that having a sex drive doesn't make someone a bad person.

[myTake Owner]

Precisely :)

[candyaurora]

Consensual sex in the context of a loving relationship (marriage in my view!) doesn't make guys disgusting at all. I would actually want my husband to be like that (but ONLY for me).

[Cherokeehp]

I don’t believe that guys want one thing. I just know that sex is something that heterosexual males really want. If he’s a guy, and he’s into women, and he’s into the idea of having sex, and he’s nice to me, I typically always assume he wants to have sex with me. It may not be the ONLY thing they want, but I’m pretty sure they want it, and if the opportunity arose I’m confident they’d take it.

[myTake Owner]

That was a really politely explained opinion, thank you for that :)

[Cherokeehp]

No problem

[Kurαȷ]

It's not a rumor it's a statistical reality.
I have been dealing with my own gender for 29 years and I can easily confirm that the only motivation in the life of at least 70% of men is sex.

Most men do not care about women outside of their ability to have sex, and they only lead relationships so they get convenient access to it.

And that is not an exaggeration, it is just a fact rooted in the nature of their reproductive behavior which is promiscuity.

[TheFarStar]

I hv sm guy friends who got d offer of FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS, but they just rejected it saying *m not dying for this shit.
I just wanna hv a nice relationship n cute moments with d person i like.

[myTake Owner]

Well that's nice, being friends with benefits can ruin a good friendship so it is sometimes better to stay safe and just be good friends.

[TheFarStar]

Yeah, exactly. N i definitely think guys don't only think abut that shit. Coz they hv feelings too.

[Dali-chan]

Same as men who claim that girls only want money.

But the truth is you’re the one who wants money! Isn’t it yato?

[myTake Owner]

1) Yes, it is Yato from Noragami :) 2) I think that the ones who claim that are the players that are giving the bad reputation of men, I for one don't believe they only want money as a gender of the whole, but there are ones out there who do which are giving your gender a bad reputation. I want to make it clear that A) Not all guys only want sex, just like women, we are misunderstood and because of that, it is both genders responsibility to clear the clouds as such and say exactly what we want, be more honest and that way make it easier for both genders to have a better understanding of each other <3 2) Not all girls want money, they are in the same boat as us essentially, being misunderstood based on a couple of females who do want that and as such giving them all a misunderstood image.

[Ellie-V]

No matter what gender you are, I personally believe that if you cannot have a romantic relationship without sex, then that’s the main thing you do want.

[somethingcoolio]

I don't think guys are after only one thing. Saying that is just as silly as saying women are only after your money. I think people who think that have had bad experiences and maybe don't attract the best men. It's a shame that it's almost a socially accepted stereotype.

[myTake Owner]

Well said, well said indeed, you took the words right out my mouth :)

[Badballie]

Men are very good at roleplay, but unfortunately ladies, men will not marry you to be a best friend or a companion. All men 90% will just want sex as much as the they can get. So they marry to have lots of sex. But unfortunately, as time goes on women lose interest and they let their bodies go to shit. No self-respecting man will like that, so he will have affairs and get divorced. Or the husband starts drinking excessively, so he does not think about sex. To all naive ladies who propagate these urban legends about men, it is not true.

[CubsterShura]

There are LGBT dudes out there but of course for us straight women our concern is straight men, and trust me a guy himself told me that if you look into a guy's brain you find nothing but a dick right there. Guys themselves tell me all they want is sex.

[johncutler152]

Not true, at first a guy is driven by his hormones to have sex ofcourse, but obviously guys find partners dont they? Think about it, how many couples are there? If all a guy wanted was sex then there would be no couples at all! I think this comment is more about the asshole that messed around with you rather than a serious question, but your really young and very pretty you will find someone else and move on, we have nearly all been though it not just girls

[myTake Owner]

@johncutler152 Well said man.

[DollySummers]

That’s just how it is. Stereo typing men just cuz a few rotten eggs laid on there faces.

[myTake Owner]

That... was an AMAZING description, thank you :)

[aialex]

We don't get angry if you said "girls only want sex".

We get angry if you said "girls only want money".

Not wrong, tho.

[aialex]

I wrote this with the sole purpose to get downvote 😊

[Harmseygrace]

This sounds like my boyfriend https://www.girlsaskguys.com/img/4060757