I have heard a lot of men say that they would "love to be raped by a woman" as a male victim of female sexual assault I want to address this. First I tell you no you don't. No one ever wants to be raped... why because rape precludes desire. The moment you want it... it's no longer rape. You can want rough sex, you can want rough sex with a complete stranger, you can even want rough sex in an alley with a complete stranger... but you can not want rape.
but here's some facts that you may not have thought of:
- you do not chose your rapist, your rapist chooses you. They can be absolutely beautiful, or they can be absolutely hideous you do not get that choice. She can be black, white or any other race, she can be shaven or hairy, she can be bleeding, with STD's or other communicable disease. Your preferences do not matter, only hers. And if your saying well if she was.... then you already lost the point, rape is taking the choice away from the victim.
-As a male victim you probably can not call it rape. rape is defined as penetration and if she didn't shove anything into you... it's sexual assault. Also the police are less likely to peruse the crime, and you are much less likely to see any form of justice.
-As a male victim she still has the right to any child, and can force child support from you even if she is convicted.
- As a victim you don't get to chose when it ends, how it ends and your physical state afterwords. You could be killed, maimed including castrated, or relatively unharmed.
- As a victim you lose the choice of the sexual activity. Don't like receiving anal too bad, don't like giving oral to a woman with crabs sucks doesn't it, don't want to taste her period oh well. It's completely her choice and preferences. There have been cases of women shoving things into a guys anus, and urethra (a stick because he was unable to get and maintain an erection)
-lastly you will be derided for being a victim. I have been told by someone on this site "I hope those ladies had a good time." I've been called a liar also less of a man because at 13 I got in a car with two strangers. Further you will be told that it is worse for women (as if there is any real way to compare). That guys can't maintain an erection if they're not interested (that an erection is consent) and you know that you get up with a boner most mornings and have no interest in sex many of those days....
As a closing there have been studies that show that men and women are almost as likely to be victims of sexual abuse, that it's not rare. And if you have been a victim male or female, I am so sorry that this has happened to you. There are people out there who care, and if you need to seek help. Talk to a friend, and don't let anyone tell you that you are less of a person.
Love to you all (except maybe the person who said that to me)
Anpu
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