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Strip club shaming for men is the equivalent of slut shaming for women.

I try to limit my time on this site, but like where else can I write this stuff?

So like before, think if this like a blog post.

Today in the shower I was thinking about strip clubs because I recently went to one. And this is when it hit me that stigma around strippers is the equivalent of slut shaming for women.

I feel compelled to state that a woman took me out to a strip club to buy me a lap dance. And this is evidence that the stigma exists.

Why is this the ‘slut shaming’ equivalent for men?

The answer is simple. Unlike average women, average men cannot have sex with hit women on demand online from Tinder or other sites/apps.

Slut shaming originates from jealousy and acknowledgement of the ridiculous easiness of a woman doing something like that. Because it is so easy, people become offended because they are essentially taking advantage of privilege in some form for self-gain, hence slut shaming.

Why aren’t men slut shamed?

The answer is that the cause if slut shaming does not apply to average men. They cannot easily make a online profile and hookup to their heart’s content with little to no effort with hot women, therefore they are not slut shamed — regardless if they score or not, because if how difficult it is, they get high fives instead.

The analogy is like an Olympic athlete who dopes. They are only praised for winning evens if they do not take banned supplements, because banned supplements eliminate the integrity of the event by reducing the difficulty level.

Thus, if women want equal slut shaming for men, they need to be easy and then men could also be slut shammed.

But where can an average man go to see, touch, taste, flirt with and grind on hot women very easily with almost no effort? You know, strip clubs. And a voila.

Usually lap dances are naked.
Usually lap dances are naked.

This is why strip club shamming is the same as slut shaming for men.

A working man could easily walk in multiple times per month and touch and taste all different kinds of boobs, buts and bodies from a wide variety of hot women varying in age, race and height. Both real and fake boobs, different kinds of nipples, real and fake buts, shaven or unshaven etc.

And so, shaming does infact exist for men who take full advantage of these opportunities. Guys who get lap dances from all the hot girls in the club, or perhaps a few different local clubs, is seen negatively with stigma even though he would have absolutely no problem doing so just because he wants to easily, and with little or no effort at all, touch and taste a bunch of different hot girls.

Sound familiar?

That’s exactly the same mindset of women who use Tinder for hookups regularly.

So yeah, that’s why strip club shaming is the male equivalent of slut shaming. 🤟🏼

Strip club shaming for men is the equivalent of slut shaming for women.
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  • KristaGrym
    Many of those women are victims of their backgrounds and even of the sex trafficking and you are comparing that situation with girls who use tinder?

    Man, you don't need to write a hecking essay to justify you went to a club and pretending you are making a statement about shaming guys who go to clubs and blah blah blah.

    Try better next time
    • CasaNorba

      I totally disagree with "many."

      "Many" strippers become strippers because they want to make money the easiest and fastest way and I've gotten lapdances from many of them who actually testify that they get more respect and harrassed less there than what they did in their previous jobs. so please take your victim complex elsewhere

  • It makes me sad to think that anyone wants this kind of life. Stop trying to justify your behavior. Let the people who engage in stuff like this do it on their own conscience. Does it matter anyway?
    • Bluemax

      "It makes me sad to think that anyone wants this kind of life."
      Could you clarify if you're talking about the male patrons, the dancers, or both?

      Honestly, I have a nagging suspicion that the men who frequent strip clubs don't actually *want* to frequent strip clubs. I know several who do, and they are very sad and lonely men.

      I actually went to a strip club when I was young. I wound up hating the experience. I can't fathom why anyone *wants* to get hot and bothered in a situation where they can't do anything about it. It strikes me as masochistic, not sensual.

      We sat next to a guy who was then the age I am now. He seemed pathetically lonely. I thought to myself how I would never want to become that man. It was also a place where you could wrestle with the girls. My friends bid for me. I've never been quite as humiliated before or since. Furthermore, one of the girls became angry at me because of where I put my hands. You can take my word for it or not, but it was an honest mistake. It's hard to avoid touching places when you're literally knotted up with another human. And I never got to apologize or explain myself. And when the girls were being auctioned to wrestle, you could plainly see the disgust in their eyes as pathetic drunk men (one so drunk he actually bid against HIMSELF) competed with cash for a chance to rub their bodies on them. It was sad.

      And it was sad looking into that 50 something year old's eyes and see his loneliness. I don't believe for a second he *wanted* to be there, so much as he just wanted a dumping ground for his lust and to pretend he wasn't so alone.

      Sadly, one of the friends who took me there that night STILL goes to strip clubs and STILL pays for sex (a lot of the girls prostitute themselves on the side). He essentially has become that sad, pathetic man I saw 30 years ago.

    • Bluemax

      On a more interesting note, I actually drove a tutoring student's aunt to work! She needed a ride, I was leaving, it was on the way, so I offered. I thought the place had an odd name (something Factory), but I literally didn't know it was a strip club until I pulled up and dropped her off! SHE IS A FASCINATING WOMAN!!! by the way. She has a masters in pharmaceutical science. She was doing exotic dancing waiting on getting her licensing here in the U. S. Her sister, my student's mother, confirms this. And having talked to her I know she knows a lot about chemistry. Any rate, she has a killer bod and she's quite brainy. I don't know if her nephew, my student, knew what she did. I would give ANYTHING to talk to her about her work, both in pharmaceuticals and exotic dancing, but I never brought it up because I only saw her around her nephew. I really want to pick her brain and know what it's like.

    • @Bluemax can you still get in touch with your student's aunt?

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  • AnAcutalOpposum
    Bruh, if you wanna go to a strip club than go to a strip club, making a freaking blog post justifying it is weird. I didn't judge you for going but I'm judging you for writing a post justifying it.
    • Robertcw

      Not justifying it, just pointing out what I thought was a truth.

  • Dongtai
    This is kind of different. Guys go to strip clubs solely to get off at looking at naked women which is basically objectifying them.

    Slut shaming is more vague. A girl could be slut shamed for sleeping with someone on the first date or sleeping around. She’ll get shamed for what she chooses to do with “her” body where as strip club shaming is shaming a guy for objectifying women.
    • Robertcw

      I see your point. But I think its more like virgin shaming. Or, simply lack of sex shaming.

      Strip clubs, like prostitution, require a guy to pay in order to look at and touch a naked woman. It’s possible to get other people to pay for you, but wither way its a transaction.

      But, at the same time, it is an effective way to feel the differences between different ages and races or different girls. which could satisfy one’s curiosity.

      Women do the same thing, they just don’t have to pay for it. Regardless of the payment, the goals are the same.

      Both are seen in a negative light.

    • Robertcw

      It might cost $50 a pop, but let’s say you want to compare 15 different girls, well then all you need to do is show up with $750 and its a done deal.

      If you make $4,000-$5,000 a month dropping $750 to satisfy a curiosity would be really easy.

  • Mädchen
    Women don't even have to engage in anything sexual to be slutshamed. They could just wear a dress that someone thinks is to short. Or they could only have sex in commited relationships but after the 3rd relationship many men would still call her slut cause she slept with 3 men
    But men going to Strip Clubs are actively seeking sexual Gratifikation. So I think there is a slight difference cause it's easier for men to avoid this Situation.
    That being said, I don't know If a Guy goes to a Strip club as Long as he's not my Boyfriend. And even then I'd say it's OK to go on Special occasions Like his Friends having a Bachelor party as Long as he's Just looking Not touching
  • I've never seen a man shamed for going to a strip club, but then again I'm only 17. I think there's a difference between slut shaming and this 'strip club shaming'. First off all, you're assuming all women can do just hop on a website and sleep with anyone and men can't. I feel it isn't even dependent on gender for how easy it is to get hookups and rather how attractive the individual is. Men can sleep with 20 woman and its seen as socially acceptable whereas women can barely sleep with 5 before being considered a slut. As for strip clubs, there are both male and female dancers, right? I've never heard of anyone being called any rude names for attending a strip club outing and it's often just associated with being a wild card type of person - which can be attributed to both genders. The only way I would shame someone for going to a strip club is if they're in a relationship or married and it's done without the consent of the other partner.
    • Men are constantly shamed and being labeled "perverts" "weird" etc. Women of legal age can easily find a man to sleep with with zero to minimum effort. Because women's standards are too high, they believe it's hard. A man can drop their standards to basically nothing and still have a very hard time. Women have so many options that they cannot begin to understand how it is for a man - not to mention a man who isn't above average in looks. (Which by the way still doesn't even help you that much) -
      Something I've experienced personally is that ugly fat girl slobs think they are on the same level as a 6'0 good looking guy who works out and stays in shape. A woman who puts in no effort other than going to mcdonalds and using facebook thinks she deserves a winner. Gtfo. This is what social media has done.

    • Just look at the metoo movement. Look at how many women are taking advantage of it by falsley accusing men of rape, assault etc. It happened to me, it can happen to any guy. I'm 23, you are 17. I have more life experience, and I'm a guy. Trust that you are very wrong and naive about this.

    • Women do get slut shamed by certain types of people, but also consider we are living in times of women's liberation. It has never been more socially acceptable for a woman to do what she wants. No mattter how much women get, they still find something to complain about. Just because your parents and your jealous guy friends (that you enjoy making jealous btw) slut shame does not mean anything other than they are just as naive as you.

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  • You just discovered what the Sexual Economics Theory refers to as "monopolistic manipulation". It's basically women trying to artificially limit the supply of sex to inflate the "prices". Both slut shaming and strip club shaming are great examples of this
  • Ücool
    The male equivalent to slut shaming is virgin shaming
    • Calixx

      That’s true!

    • Robertcw

      Its the same thing though. Strip clubs imply a guy doesn’t have regular girls to be sexual with. Only difference is that in one instance he gets to touch many different boobs and the other touches none.

      Same stigma in my opinion. But on the other hand, if it’s so much work to seduce a woman why not just pay $40 or whatever it is and get to experience different girls instantly. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    • Ücool

      That's definitely not what a strip club implies. Plus if a woman shames you for going to a strip club it's normally about the guy being a pervert not that he can't get any. If you paid for prostitutes that'd be a different story

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  • hahahmm
    Slut shaming doesn’t apply to men for the simple reason that the vast majority of women don’t care about a guy’s past sexual history when getting into serious relationships. Especially stuff approaching marriage level type relationships where she wants the guy who 1. Has a lot to offer, 2. Can easily pick other women & doesn’t need her.

    Men on the other hand - i mean high value guys described above- don’t want a woman who has slept with 50, 100, 200... 400 dudes. There’s consequences for women in the long term as it further limits their options.

    Maybe on a subconscious level women are aware of this but it’s like telling someone they have had lettuce stuck in their teeth for hours. They might not react well to facts.

    For non serious relationships most dudes will F anything. Porn ho, expert “pipe cleaner”, you name it.
    • Robertcw

      Consensual hookups are not equivalent to prostitution. That is my whole point.

    • hahahmm

      Nobidy saying they are.

    • Robertcw

      I’m saying prostitution shaming is the equivalent of slut shaming for men.

  • shyapples2
    I have a lot to say about this, for one, the way I feel about strip clubs is it would kind of feel hurtful to pay a stripper for a lap dance because that would make me feel like I like her but she doesn’t like me back (Thats not me saying anything bad about strippers). Also I don’t know if it’s exactly true that girls have an “easier time” than men, I think there are profound cultural stigmas attached to both genders and it’s difficulty explain but I don’t think that’s necessary true
    • CasaNorba

      "it would kind of feel hurtful to pay a stripper for a lap dance because that would make me feel like I like her but she doesn’t like me back"

      dude you dont fall in love with a chick just because you get a lapdance from her. if you are this type of guy then dont ever go to a strip club. cause you're gonna be one good sitting duck

  • bamesjond0069
    I don't know its a stretch. I think broke shaming is what is really equal to slut shaming. Where men are called losers for not having a decent job and income. I've never been shamed for going to a strip club. I don't particularly like them and usually just get a girls number to hang out with outside the club. I'm not into lap dances or anything.
  • nerms123
    I didn’t realize anyone cares if people go to strip clubs. Those girls are working there paying their bills so good on them!
  • Corerue
    Um to be a slut you actually have to sleep with someone >.>

    Sounds like you are just justifying your Strip Club trips. If you wanna go to a strip club then go. But don't compare it to slut shaming lol your not getting laid annnnnnd your paying for a 'service's of sorts.

    Girls/guys on tinder (never used the program) are hooking up without a monetary value attached right?

    Completely different lol
    • CasaNorba

      what makes you think you don't "paid" non-strippers to have sex with you? and if you think you're gonna hookup with a tinder slut "without monetary value" then you are one naive sucker my friend.

    • Corerue

      Na not a naive sucker
      Just not a desperate loser actually lol.

    • CasaNorba

      worst than a desperate loser actually, if you're willing to feed and spend gas on a bimbo that still isn't gonna promise you her pussy at the end and make you feel even MORE desperate and perhaps broke in the process

  • 4eyes2mouths
    Just do what you want. People need to stop shaming other people for anything unless it interferes with your own life. It's so fucking immature to hold values to someone else's way of life. If you like sex have sex, if you like clubs go to them.
  • Not the same. The difference between men and women is that promiscous women feel ashamed about being promiscuous and men are less likely to be in a serious relationship with them while promiscuous men feel proud and women prefer experienced men.
    Women visit strip clubs too, personally I dont because I dont see the point.
  • Bman4907
    I think it's more like a bad one night stand you don't know you're having. You have fun, see her naked, or he, then you go home. Only place I was shamed for a strip club was when I realized I spent a lot of money in there one Christmas. Brother wanted to make it a tradition, I just wanted a shower.
  • loveslongnails
    Strip clubs are for men who are REALLY bad at math, especially if you want some time in the VIP rooms. Let's say 6 buddies go to a strip club. By the time they each pay for lap dances, tips, drinks, etc, they've probably spent a minimum of $200 each, that's $1,200 total. You can get a nice hotel room and a couple of good looking call girls for a few hours for that kind of cash, and have actual sex if you want to, or not !!
  • FatherJack
    What is the point of these places , paying a ton of money... to leave sexually frustrated / even more frustrated ? In reality the strippers have nothing but contempt for the male patrons , and very often men in general... they put on a very good act , that the patrons fall for.
    • CasaNorba

      "paying a ton of money... to leave sexually frustrated / even more frustrated?"

      what makes you think taking a bimbo out on expensive dates hoping she is gonna have sex with you isn't any different?

      at least you get to see strippers naked, or even touch them for a night without any consequences. and here where I'm from you can do more than just touching if you play you pay extra; and never have to worry about them stalking you or going to the authority and filing a false rape case on your ass.

  • Sha84
    you ignore point not all stripper are of female belief. many stripper are male belief and women go and enjoy them same ways
  • MoscowMitch
    I was about to upvote this but then you wrote:
    "A working man could easily walk in multiple times per month and touch and taste all different kinds of boobs, buts and bodies from a wide variety of hot women varying in age, race and height. Both real and fake boobs, different kinds of nipples, real and fake buts, shaven or unshaven etc."

    What kind of a strip club let's you touch the performers, beyond the bare minimum necessary to attach fiat currency to their g-string?
    • CasaNorba

      assuming you're from Moscow like your screename says.

      anyways here in america there are lots of places where you can touch just as long as you have money in your hand and dont abuse it. this is always promise either way if you get a lapdance

    • Robertcw

      Man, lots of clubs allow full touching during a lap dance. Lots don’t. It depends on the location.

    • CasaNorba

      @Robertcw yea here in my state is allow during lapdance. so far I only gotten a lapdance from 1 stripper that was stingy enough to not let me touch. others were very cool, some even let me do a little more...

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  • CausticHippy
    So... Since I think strip clubs are gross and dehumanizing, I'm entirely justified in thinking the same thing about sluts?
    • CasaNorba

      when women are being sluts they are typically gross and dehumanizing themselves in the process. the only difference is that sluts are more socially acceptable in today's world. so if you see them from a different perspective then you're being a hypocrite in a way

  • Creepazoid
    Didn't read. But fuck it, the strip club. Can be fun. Go for it but always set a limit on what you'll spend. Use cash only and leave cards at home.
  • Jltakk
    You're perfectly justified in this opinion. People are too sensitive.
  • CasaNorba
    amen brother!

    as a strip club goer myself I couldnt agree with you any more. most women who shame you for hitting these places are just jealous that they dont have the body and confidence to be strippers and attract the same customers themselves. Men who shame you in the other hand do so because they are true white knights.

    but for now I'm gonna go get some popcorn and read all the hateful comments you might get here because I written a few mytakes on strip clubs myself and I've gotten lots of hate and negativity out of them.
  • RogueCrystal
    Just do you
  • cheer4life_xo
    I love going to female strip clubs!
    • Robertcw

      Yeah, the girl I went with thought it was cool as well. She wants to learn pole dancing.

    • I did a free fitness pole dancing class it was super hard but fun! But yea I like going

    • Can guysvpole dance too? Or just girls?

  • front2back
    Strip clubs are gross.
  • wayaazrael
    All promiscuity should be shamed.
  • guesswhereivebeen
    That’s why I rid myself of shame...
  • Ruendhdj
    Strip clubs are subhiman
  • Anonymous
    Absolutely not! I am a virgin and imagine someone starting a rumor about you simply because they don’t like you. This can mark you for life even though you’ve never been kissed... in all there is no unmarked women in our society. We can never win... meanwhile men can get away with it because people just say “oh men are like that, they will settle down be serious when the time comes. Who cares if he goes to a strip club, he’s a boy having fun.”
  • Anonymous
    No that’s a another step.

    Just being a man gets you shamed.
  • Anonymous
    Stop saying average man lol. You mean below average man. A average man can get a 10 chick.
    A below avwege nope.
    A average man can get pussy anytime
  • Anonymous
    I've always thought that gay shaming fot men is equivalent to slut shaming for women
  • Anonymous
    Considering what skanks do when they go to male strippers, they have zero right to even mention negative towards males at a strip club.
    Strip club shaming for men is the equivalent of slut shaming for women.
    • CasaNorba

      not trying to defend women or anything but the "women at strip clubs" images are ripped off from porn flix. it is against the law to engage in sexual activities with strippers unless you get a lapdance which is done in a more private and discreet area of the strip club and not in the middle of the blue like the images depict

    • Anonymous

      @CasaNorba I used to be a bouncer at a strip club and when the male strippers were there... women DID do exactly as the women in these images. Women are absolutely disgusting at strip clubs.

  • Anonymous
    Sorry man i have to disagree with you on the slut shaming. You claim it stems from jealousy? Why would i be jealous of a slut? Why would i be jealous of a women that either every guy can have or HAS had?
    If i have ANYTHING negative to say about sluts it's because they " fall in love" the guy doesn't lol, and when not surprisingly he tosses her to the side she comes crying to places like here. As though we're supposed to feel bad for her because she's a slut. I don't care how many guys she f***s if she keeps it to herself.
  • Anonymous
    Exactly women are such HYPOCRITES and that’s why nobody but other women take them seriously
  • Anonymous
    Ok
    Both are shameful so what's the problem
  • Anonymous
    nope, not really. since most people at strip clubs, aren't having actual sex. Being a slut means, you've had multiple SEX partners
    • Robertcw

      Dude, lap dances are basically prostitution. Sure maybe you don’t stick it in the hole, but just about anything else is fair game. Of course it depends on the girl and her level of arousal. Sometimes they get into it, sometimes they don’t.

    • Anonymous

      No dude. it's not. you're not having sex with her

      It's a lap dance, bottom line

    • Robertcw

      Yeah so what? The guy gets all the same physical stimulation. There is no emotions obviously, but there aren’t in hookups either so I don’t see the difference.

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