The masculine sexuality, women behavior nowadays and the need for a soft but important revolution on sexual concepts

[lucian_lucian_123]

The masculine sexuality, women behavior nowadays and the need for a soft but important revolution on sexual concepts

Hi all, and nice to meet you. I hope you'll be able to read all this until the end :)

I wrote this article as a response to other article, and finally I considered would be good to be presented as stand alone debate idea.

There are two BIG problems regarding the relations between men and women in the human society today.

1. Let's talk about the first one, the cultural and educational part.

A. Media and the legends and the social history created an idealized man with the 007 agent behavior. The masculine myth is as far from real life as Mars to Earth. The TRUE is that both men and women are mostly the same human beings inside, just the social expectations are completely different and largely highly imbalanced towards men. Also the men, but especially the women, are highly and really believing the 007 masculine myth and are asking and expecting from men all kind of unrealistic things. They simply refuse to understand man is just a human being AS THEM, and have the same fears, shy, self consciousness, despair, upsets, suffering, hard times etc. Men are not masculine machines. The women don't understand a man life is not that simple and plain as they imagine and see at TV.

B.Also women are pleased and are hiding behind the 007 man legend, because apparently this is simplifying their life, and avoid the unpleasant parts where you must take action and responsibility and even suffer the shame. Is like a drug addiction. They are calling this "feminine behavior model" but in fact is a cultural inheritance. Women are generally hunting for easy life, and ALL the society agrees that they are rightful to search for easy life because they are women. If a man will do that will suffer the highest shame and mocking. All the ugly and bad aspects of a relation or life are left for the man. This story is coming from the past when all the work was done physically and women were protected by letting them home to do just the regular house keeping work and children care and cooking. Also the hard work of the house was done by the man. But nowadays this is no more a reality, so we are still caring the social and cultural things from a few hundreds years ago. We should change this a.s.a.p. Unfortunately nobody has the courage to write a bestseller to explain to the men and women that the epoch ended a long time ago.

2. The second BIG problem is also coming from education, but this time from sexual education but is regarding a biological FACT. Women and girls do not understand boys and men are different from the sexual point of view. It is a biological FACT, a life's truth not an invention. Men do have a higher sexual drive, maybe even 2x or 3x than a woman sexual drive.

The lack of the possibility to fulfill your needs are leading to high frustration and weird behavior. It is very possible that at least a part from the men sexual machines women are complaining about are in fact very frustrated guys.

The FACT that men are sensitive to sex by THEIR NATURE doesn't mean AT ALL that they have nothing else in mind or in heart and don't want a relation for instance. This is just a bullshit thrown by women again and again against men with the total lack of any empathy. The women do not understand that the need for more sex is not AUTOMATICALLY meaning the need for promiscuity. NOT AT ALL. If you find the good woman fulfilling all that you need you have no reason to break the relation.

On the other hand the lack of sexual life in many women are leading later to their relations failure and other things like that.

In our current society the men cannot express their sexuality and are oppressed from this point of view. Anything that is sexual is automatically disgusting, bad, ugly and shallow. This is a high injustice done on men, and they accept this with bent heads because they are ashamed, because sex is tagged us untrustworthy.

As long as no man will raise to explain, criticize and debate this issue and claim for men to be able to express their natural sexuality, the dark ages and persecution era will continue and BOTH men and women will have a bad life.

I really don't understand why women cannot be ever criticized and why we can't have a debate on the sensitive BIG problems. How will ever be any social progress if we refuse any critics and we impose our eventually stupid ideas against other people we don't understand.

Why is such a big thing for women to accept men sexuality is different? Why something so natural in men, the sexual desire, is treated so bad and like a crime or garbage or whatever bad thing you want? Why masculine sexuality is so bad seen? What is wrong with making sex? Is not supposed a man to want to make sex with a woman? What is supposed for a man to do, to be grabbed by yawning while you show him a beautiful woman nude (not telling more :)) )? Is not the sexual desire what is biologically liking the man to the woman?

If you don't stand up and express your opinion against women concepts and thinking, the situation will NEVER end. Neither in 1000 years.

I'm waiting to see your opinion, both women and men.

Have a nice day

[englisc]

I think that in general men and women are mostly unable to understand the opposite sex, and there's often a lack of empathy on both sides. If you take empathy to mean the ability to put yourself into someone else's shoes, to see things from their point of view and to understand their motivations. Therefore it's often a complete waste of time to even try to explain this stuff to the opposite sex.

[lucian_lucian_123]

I really think men are doing a lot and women too often are doing nothing is this respect, but is your opinion, and a pretty good one.

[englisc]

In what way?

[KaraAyna]

Nice take

[rush2akku]

Can't agree more

[Anonymous]

It is because in order to "control population" they are implementing educational and cultural programs aimed and inverting the gender roles. Hence men are shamed for their sexual desire, but women are encouraged to be promiscuous. These social and educational programs have been proven to decrease population, as well as keep people from pair bonding and forming families, the basic unit of any civilization.

[lucian_lucian_123]

The females are not encouraged to be promiscuous at all. After all that would mean to be more close to men in general, but it's not happening. The feminist movement is in fact an anti men movement.

[Anonymous]

This ignores the fact that women are also shamed for their sexuality as well.

1. Women too love a variety of sexual partners before we commit to one.
2. We do NOT want to save ourselves for a man who isn’t saving himself for us.

Are we really all that different? You might be surprised.

[lucian_lucian_123]

I admit we are not aliens, some things are common. But the sexual pleasure and desire in women are much lower, and are leading to a different behavior. Men are more under the pressure of the sexual desire. For the men the sex and the relation are walking hand in hand, while the women are seeing the sex as collateral thing in a relation.

[Lightning8]

Women are only seen as "slut". Someone who has many casual partners. It's actually easy for women to do that, because they can get sex without a relationship. But it's someone deemed unworthy of commitment, because you can't be sure she is committed or ready to settle with you until after she gets a guy attatched to her sexually. By then it's too late for the guy, who'll be left for someone "better". But at best, she is seen morally corrupt, unfaithful or hedonistic I think most guys are happy with one woman, but the way males are shamed is with "creep" or "[potential] sexual preditor". It should be obvious how this is probably worse if it's not true about the guy.

[Lightning8]

Not to mention, in order to have access to the release and acceptance of sex, most guys still have to get a woman to say yes to some kind of relationship. One night stands and casual sexual encouters, and therefore sexual relationships, are harder to come by for men.

[Lightning8]

Also not to mention, the "slut walk" and other anti slut shaming campaigns exist for women.