It's been discussed before and it stays a difficult subject. Casual sex is becoming more normal every day, yet peoples visions on this seem to keep clashing.
College life
From experience I can tell you that being a girl in college is a total mindfuck. I was always on the curvy side, but I know I attracted a lot of guys. This conflict made me feel very insecure, which was a recipe for disaster. The insecurity made me stop thinking for myself (like a lot of girls in that situation) and listened to much to what others told me to do and how to behave. If those others are those pigs from student clubs and drunk guys at bars, it's not great for you and you find yourself on your knees way to often if you know what I mean...
These guys constantly rooted for me to just go for it, act sexual, have casual sex, don't say no too quickly. Now I realise that it was for there own pleasure that they rooted for me behaving like this, but back then I thought it was cool, funny, me being independent. Of course they just saw me as their free whore.
The devils threesome and the the reward
The main backlash, when I realised how much of a double standard there was, was when our student club lost a stupid game to our rival club. That night, I got really drunk and ended up having a threesome with two guys from that other club. Someone snuck in and secretly filmed a part of the action and it went online. This resulted in the other guys getting praised as legends in every club, all over town, all over the internet as well, and me getting suspended from my club for a while for bringer them to shame.
The solution?
Seems like the three of us having sex was a win for them and a loss for me. Why is that? I also payed more attention to how everyone reacted when a girl and a guy hooked up. 90% of the time the guy gets high fives, while they laugh at the girl for being a slut. A guy keeps nagging to this girl for a blowjob. Eventually she does him the favour and afterwards he goes and calls her a cum dumpster. Meanwhile, these guys push us to act that way to later slut shame us.
What do you guys think about this behaviour? Have you been in a situation like this? Do you know anyone who has?
And most important of all: how do we change this?
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