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Casual Sex: Men vs Women

It's been discussed before and it stays a difficult subject. Casual sex is becoming more normal every day, yet peoples visions on this seem to keep clashing.

College life

From experience I can tell you that being a girl in college is a total mindfuck. I was always on the curvy side, but I know I attracted a lot of guys. This conflict made me feel very insecure, which was a recipe for disaster. The insecurity made me stop thinking for myself (like a lot of girls in that situation) and listened to much to what others told me to do and how to behave. If those others are those pigs from student clubs and drunk guys at bars, it's not great for you and you find yourself on your knees way to often if you know what I mean...

These guys constantly rooted for me to just go for it, act sexual, have casual sex, don't say no too quickly. Now I realise that it was for there own pleasure that they rooted for me behaving like this, but back then I thought it was cool, funny, me being independent. Of course they just saw me as their free whore.

Casual Sex: Men vs Women

The devils threesome and the the reward

The main backlash, when I realised how much of a double standard there was, was when our student club lost a stupid game to our rival club. That night, I got really drunk and ended up having a threesome with two guys from that other club. Someone snuck in and secretly filmed a part of the action and it went online. This resulted in the other guys getting praised as legends in every club, all over town, all over the internet as well, and me getting suspended from my club for a while for bringer them to shame.

Casual Sex: Men vs Women

The solution?

Seems like the three of us having sex was a win for them and a loss for me. Why is that? I also payed more attention to how everyone reacted when a girl and a guy hooked up. 90% of the time the guy gets high fives, while they laugh at the girl for being a slut. A guy keeps nagging to this girl for a blowjob. Eventually she does him the favour and afterwards he goes and calls her a cum dumpster. Meanwhile, these guys push us to act that way to later slut shame us.

What do you guys think about this behaviour? Have you been in a situation like this? Do you know anyone who has?

And most important of all: how do we change this?

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Most Helpful Guys

  • I say this for no pleasure of my own. As a species, we exist to fuck to prolong our species. So, why should we not enjoy what we exist to do, man or woman? Slut shaming exists because religion says it should, and men who can't get sex being insecure. Fuck them all. Also, fuck what I say, because I don't matter in your decision to have sex or not. Have as much, or as little sex as you want, and fuck what anyone thinks about it. To quote Abraham Lincoln "You do you, boo."
    Personally, I refuse to ever date a virgin or inexperienced girl again. I've had too many bad experiences with them not only in bed, but I'm clingyness, and far too many amazing experiences with "sluts." Personality is so much different too because usually a girl with more experience matches my "fuck it, enjoy life" kind of attitude. I am about to marry a girl who's 24 and has been with over 150 men, and that turns me the fuck on.

  • I think people can have sex with whoever they like and as many times as they like provided they are honest about their intentions.

    If someone basically says "i just want some casual fun and i im look for a fuck buddy" thats fine. What i have an issue with is when guys or girls saying they want something like a relationship but dont want to put the work in and actually just wanna fuck

    Or they use sex as a weapon to manipulate their SO to staying around

    Thing is be honest with yourself its ok if you dont want a relationship just be up front about it and your intentions

Most Helpful Girls

  • Your sooking. Grow up. This is the real world. If you want to have casual sex do it safely. Make sure your being smart. Women get treated differently than men when it come to sex. Have sex with as many people as you want just be smart about it. Make sure they arnt people that interact with you everyday or that you will see casually a lot around town. Make sure they arnt friends with your friends. And once you sleep with one male never sleep with his friends. Try to stick to 2 or 3 guys and sleep with them repeatedly instead of sleeping with 50 randoms a year. Those are a few things you can do to stop gossip and still be sexually active.

  • Slut shaming sucks but I don't think it's ever going to go away. Women are the enablers of sex so when you give a guy (or guys) consent that's it, suddenly they've "won" and beat your system, because you've let them do what they want with you. While this is a gross and just wrong way to look at it, that mindset is pretty much ingrained in our society now and has been since relationships began.

    • I feel like men and women are equally “slutty.” I am starting to believe that is the truth. Why? Because for the first time in my life I have a ton of female friends, and guess what? They are all hoes. They hide that shit from men. Hide it from anyone who isn’t close to them. If we all stopped believing that men are nothing but horny pigs, and women nothing but innocent flowers who don’t really want sex, maybe we would finally stop hating on eachother so much. But I’m not sure if I’m right or not. I hope I am. But I really don’t know. I’m not a woman I can’t know. But personally it makes me happier to know women are just as horny and slutty as us guys.

    • I have and never will disclosed to any female on the amount of partners I've had. And I personally don't want to know about hers. Sex is sex just about every living creature does it for servival of their species. But only a handful do it for the simple joy of it ! It's just a basic instinct to crave it !! But like everyone else must be responsible at who , when , where , what and why you're having it with

    • This is exactly right.

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  • I don't know a single person who isn't having casual sex. I think that relationships are a thing of the past. Who would want to get married to someone and be stuck with them forever?

    • Hello. Now you know one.

    • @Robertcw And two!

  • Okay well that's inaccurate. No one is high fiving the guys for casual sex unless it was the same frat boy/dude-bro types who pushed for casual sex to begin with. Second, we are built entirely differently, women do not give up sex easily so the reason why a guy would arguably get more praise for it is because he has to have skill (hence the pressure to give it up easily because its easier for them). Third this was quite literally your fault, you chose this, no one made you do this. So why would you argue that its some how some one elses fault and why would your response be to argue that we should "change this" as in the so called "double standard"(its not, if women had to work for sex like men do it would be, but that is not the case (and no, I'm not actually endorsing casual sex I think its stupid and weak to do so)? Why are you not pointing out that maybe we have a taboo against casual sex for a reason and its mostly for the benefit of the woman not the man? That would be a much more reasonable conclusion to come to rather then "this screwed me over and made me feel bad and that's not fair.". We don't control biology, we have to work within the confines of it, you chose poorly own it and make sure you don't do it again and if you want to be a really good person, warn other woman away from the poor choices you made.

  • A lot of girls have a high sex drive, and there shouldn't be any penalties for it since there aren't any for guys. But let's be practical - unless you're discreet, you can easily cross the line between the two types of sexually active girls: sluts, and dirty girls. A slut is a slut because everybody knows she is. A dirty girl can be in a room full of guys she's had sex with - and not one of the guys knows about any of the others. Be a dirty girl and have fun!

  • The new norm is girls women are becoming more independent job home income mind body soul spirit with come confidence of self what they want and don't want.. and being honest and open in there desires and it's very Beautiful to see or be around women like this but no matter who they are,,, or how they act.. when with someone,,, is between them ... some one should ask the question to all the girls here if not one would ever find out would u ,, or have u ever fantasized sleeping with 3 or more if honest of think a lot would say yes or have had that fantasy but even with the question and if they answer then more than the girl and 3 guys know about it so for me I don't care what a girl does with me it's going to stay with me only I don't need to brag or put my self in a life or her in a life of no one's business

  • Imagine if there was no slut shaming. I think all of us men would probably get more pussy if women felt more free to let us in it.

    Then again I’m not sure who shamed women for being sluts more, men or women themselves?

    • As long it is non-causal and with #love first, then sex? I'm all in for #licking my girlfriend's #pussy.

  • Screw changing the world.

    All I got out of that story is what a sleazy life you've lived and anyone seeking you as a wife is an idiot.

    I respect and live girls who said no to all that corrupt, gross stuff and stuck to 1 guy she loved or her husband... not some walking, college porn cliche.

    • So they want to "improve" the world to have free #sex with anyone? STI/STD is nothing then to them. Okay, let them all die quickly due to HIV infection. I'm done with porn-styled fucks, as it leads to frustration due to lack of performance. Let's have enjoyable and relaxing sex again, much nicer and healthier.

  • The easiest thing to do is not have sex with random people. Instead, build a meaningful connection first.

  • I really think casual sex is perfect as long as your not hurting any other person, I used to be in a band and always ended up with young girls who challenged me to their bed, I taught them a lot

  • The guys only get laid if a girl agrees. I was 17, 18, 19, 20 and 21 once. Never got laid once at those ages.

    I was not invited to parties, didn't enjoy drinking at all and wasn't in any clubs.

    When I was taking classes I just went to class and then left after class.

    So my experience can't relate to yours at all.

  • Don't hang out with Marxist scum like that, they have inhuman ideas that deny nature. Now you're damaged goods and it will be far harder to find a mate who will commit to you. It will be harder for you to take a relationship seriously as well. How foolish people are to do these idiotic things.

    • And STI/STD is nothing to them, I guess?

    • @roland77 The cool thing is they don't reproduce much at all. The leftist gene is being bread out.

  • One of the problems is that women are fine with being in a relationship with hook up/ONS/FWB/player guys. They are approving of their behavior and saying that those kinds of guys still deserve a good girl.
    On the other hand the good guys are smart enough to know the slut/ONS/FWB/hook up girls do not deserve a good guy for a relationship.

    How to fix it? The good girls should stop being with/accepting the player/hook up kind of guys.

    People's past DOES matter. It shows their morals/character. If someone is a party/hook up kind of person they can NEVER legitimately expect a good person to want/accept them because they really aren't as good of a person/not worth as much.

  • sorry i don't quite understand how a situation where you KNOW you can attract lots of mates, makes you listen to people that try to tell you what to do instead of being more confident and less gullible? shouldn't having choices cause the opposite behavior? being more picky, less dependend on being told how to behave?

    i mean that's just counter intuitive to me. i mean the male behavior in what you said makes compelete sense, as dudes have a way harder time getting laid in general. they don't have the choices. they don't have the freedom to be picky. they basically gotta take the low hanging fruit if they don't really wanna be in it for the long game.

    • i mean the only logical explanation is that you actually wanted to be treated like that and enjoyed the casual stuff. and given that you wanted that, why do you wanna change anything if you got what you wanted?

  • can't relate, never had sex.

    I do think its a bit funny that you didn't know sleeping with the two guys of the opposite team would be a problem.

    I mean that's pretty obvious that they were disrespecting your club and you were helping them. Especially after the win.
    Tbh , no disrespect but i dont believe that you didn't know that implication.

  • I'm looking for someone to have a good time with right now Imani in Lauderdale me and or whatever I'm sorry

  • Our whole society has weird hangups when it comes to sex and I will never understand them
    I say fuck who you like as often as you like where ever you like

  • Remove marriage... Guilt, slut, etc will automatically go next 1000years plan

  • It won't change because of the nature of fertility and the expectations of marriage and natural differences in male vs female sex drive. When women have unlimited fertility, when men are not expected to be providers incl pay child support, and when women go for hookups as much as men do, only then it will change.

    Men do this because the second you accept their dick they know you're trash and undateable. If you dont then they know you are a good girl worth trying to be serious with but only if they are ready to be serious w someone.

    by the way im very sorry that got videod. You will probably never find any guys other than betas to ever want to settle down with you now. So i hope you like those kinds of guys.

  • Their behavior is predictable. If you don't want to be ridiculed by those men for sleeping with them, then don't sleep with them. There are men who don't make having sex a public issue, but you have to get to know them in order to find that out. If you want to throw caution to the wind and just sleep with a guy because you like the way he looks, you pays your money and you takes your chances. If you want a man with some discretion then you have to vet him better.

  • It is either you are a guy with a pink account or you are actually slut .. don't blame guys for saying the truth about you... you are a hug big time cheap slut.. and before you start blabbing about double standards i would think the same of a guy being fucked by two or doing casual sex

  • Good take

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