Today's Sex Culture - Empowering or Mindless?

Todays Sex Culture - Empowering or Mindless?

Sex has been a major priority in most people's lives since time unknown. And as of today, sex has been a constant topic of discussion, in mainstream media, and smaller interpersonal conversations. There's a good chance that you, the person reading this, has thought about sex today before laying your eyes on this myTake's headline. I think I can safely bet on it at this point.

Anyway, so here we are, in a world where sex is an important aspect of nearly everyone's life. We wouldn't be here without sex, which is proof enough that sex is actually important, because nature intended for it to be so. However, as we have evolved from primitive creatures to modern ones, so has the sex culture.

Women used to be objectified and portrayed sexually, to death, and still are. But people are starting to objectify men a lot more as well to tip the scales in balance, as well as promote non-sexual portrayal of women in media. About a decade ago, the only couples with age gap I knew involved a young female and a much older male, sometimes with a lot of wealth. And right now, I know couples with the female being much older, which means that the gap of sexual projections onto genders is coming to a close. But a lot of people still use the amount of sex they have as a way to measure the amount of success they've had in life. Politicians engage in paid orgies, and human trafficking continues to separate families for the temporary satisfaction of a few corrupt people with money.

So, in this imperfect world where sex will be important for all of eternity, we have to examine today's sex culture. Is it "empowering"? Or is it turning people into mindless followers? There was once a time when abstinence was preached to death in order to ensure stability in society, and while men usually didn't face consequences by refraining from abstinence, a lot of women were shunned for it. But now, virginity is viewed differently by everyone. Some view it positively, some negatively, some neutrally. As for the sex culture, promiscuity is promoted just about as much as abstinence is promoted today.

Some people are pressurized by their peer into losing their virginity at an early age, and some are driven into anxiety upon not being able to lose it. It is often sold as "positive", "empowering", "rebellious" even, but a lot of the people who are into promiscuity are simply there because they want to prove that they fit the society's ideals of being "empowered". They want to prove that they are attractive, desirable, and that if they wanted to, they could totally get some. But in doing so, they let go of their own true desire. A lot of them simply wish to not engage in sexual intercourse until they are ready. A lot of them simply do not care. A lot of them want to be selective about it. But because the culture calls them weak, they end up going down that rabbit hole. How is that empowering in any manner?

This sheepish culture won't help the society. There are people who say "sex is a big deal", and there are those who says "sex isn't a big deal". But the truth is that it's not your call to decide whether it's a big deal or not. The right phrase would be "I feel like this about sex, but you should explore yourself and decide whether it's a big deal to you or not". Freedom is only obtained when people are allowed to think, and are encouraged to think, rather than being told what's right and what's wrong. Hammering anything under the guise of empowerment is brainwashing, and the least people can do, is be transparent in their delivery of message. Abstinence doesn't make you stronger or weaker, and neither does promiscuity. None of that matters, and whatever decision you make should be your own, and not influenced by society's ridiculous expectations. If you want to discuss it publicly, do not be ashamed. If you wish to not discuss sex publicly and keep it a private matter, don't allow anyone to convince you otherwise. Every bit of that choice is your's.

Anyway, to sum it up, sex is an important aspect of society, but influence is always bad. People must be allowed to have their mind free of influence, and their choices free of judgement as long as those choices don't harm anyone. Do what you want to, because it's your life.

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  • I think you have some good thoughts there. I think what we are seeing is a multitude going on. Mainly a societal agenda and humanity testing its boundries. I think people realised a long time ago, people are easily manipulated by sex. Sex sells. Western culture has excessive amounts with it because a lot of people do not have strong self control over basic desires. In todays society you are rewarded socially for having a lot of sex and that does not help. I think a lot of media places people who are sexually successful at the top of the hierarchy and make an example out of it.

    I also think for the first time casual sex is way more socially acceptable. So now people can do it without the judgement like before and thats another reason for the spike. I think after a little why people will become dissatisfied with hook up culture and settle a bit. Not back to how it was but more balanced. I think there are positives and negatives here. People are learning a lot about themselves sexually. Like now you see pansexual, bisexual, fetishes, etc being more understood which is imperative for knowing yourself in that aspect. But negatively, we have an ego based society that prioritizes meaningless encounters. I tried hooking up once but stopped after that. It felt empty and unsatisfying. To me its boring to have sex with no personal connection or meaning. Anyone can do that. But when you have sex with someone you love and trust, thats a beautiful thing. To me thats way more interesting. But everyone should be free to do as they will. I agree that it just shouldn't be marketed as it is. Its very unhealthy.

  • I think that it's NEVER going to be free unless everyone is taught from an early age that sex is a good thing but a bad thing like they are currently taught by American parents especially mothers. . women will never be free to be honest with themselves about sex until everyone in American society believe it's a good thing and should be taught at an early age is a good thing..

    • Honestly, when I was a kid, I had no idea about the existence of sex or whatever, and now it's something I come across in my everyday life. That innocence made those years the best years of my life. I was carefree, and thoughts about girls were thrilling. I wouldn't want today's kids to not have the innocent childhood they deserve like how I did.

    • I was lucky enough to be told by someone at an early age"sex is beautiful" but others I feel so bad for them not knowing that. going through life believing they are bad people for liking sex.. it's truly fucked up.

    • Yeah, but that's the thing, there's a difference between reinforcing the idea that "sex is beautiful, and you're not bad for liking the thought of it", and actually introducing it to kids at an age when they should really not have to carry that knowledge. That's a part of the adult world, along with banking, accounts, taxes, documentation, doctor's appointments etc.

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  • its mindless for the simple fact that people are confused now, look at
    all the lgbtqrst etc. letters dont matter and neither doo there prefrence
    because your born one way or the other but all the sex obsession has turned the world completely stupid.

    i mean everything was fine till they started going behind parents backs in the early 90's teaching kids about sex that was not correct or appropriate , thats when this whole gender ignorant generational gap thing started more gays and lgbtqrst's etc got out of control like a forest fire.

  • Sex culture is a band-aid for a much bigger problem.

    • And that is?

  • Empowering

  • Today's oversexed world is mindless and depressing. Since statistics have been kept in the U. S. (about 100 years) women are the most miserable they have EVER been, yet they are more "liberated" than they have ever been.

    My thoughts? Women have adapted the worst aspects of masculinity in the name of "equality". By becoming super-whores women have traded short-term gratification for the long term fundamental peace and happiness of being a good wife and mother. Whether you agree or not, women are biologically programmed to bare children and be mothers. Men are biologically programmed to be protectors and providers. When either side denies their genetics they will never realize full happiness.

  • It's degenerate

  • Good take

  • That is good. The half of the world still shame on sexual active people or shame on women for their periods because it is something intimated

    • There's nothing intimidating about periods. It's completely normal, and disgusting, like shit and piss. It's a part of being human. People should learn to joke about periods much like they joke about pee and poo, it's essentially the same thing. As for actual knowledge regarding the phenomenon, there really needs to be more awareness. Unlike urination or excretion, period has certain side effects, and those need to be taken seriously. That doesn't mean it's always painful, or it drives women irrational with mood swings, but those symptoms still do happen from time to time. Society can't turn a blind eye on the phenomenon and/or keep it under wraps, because it's here to stay.