For years, masturbation has been seen as something to be shamed for. It was unmoral and people doing it were seen as "dirty". Now, after people stopped listening to the church, it changed completely. Now our society is totally sex-centered, and with that comes viewing people who don't masturbate as weird. But I must tell you that shaming people who don't do it is JUST AS BAD as shaming people who do it.
1. "It is completely natural!"
Well if it is so much natural as eating or sleeping, then why can so many people live without it? Why do asexual people or people with small sex drives exist in the first place? Are they some kind of aliens? Nope. Not masturbating is just as natural. And it is not comparable to eating or sleeping, as nobody as ever died from the lack of onanism, as far as I'm aware...
2. "It's healthy for you to explore your sexuality!"
To this I can only give the same arguments as to the previous point. Nobody has ever actually died from not touching themselves. Also, most of the people who do not masturbate (including myself) have already tried it. They have already explored their bodies. And they discovered "nah, it's not for me". What else is there to say? Another annoying thing is the "you just probably haven't found a way that's pleasurable for you". I have tried ALL podsible ways. It probably gives me pleasure, but I feel no need to ever repeat it again. I barely even think about doing it when nobody mentions it.
3. "99% people masturbate and the remaining 1% is lying" or "those who never masturbate must be weird"
Welp, how about I tell you to mind your business and stop commenting on people's private lives? It's actually true. If someone says that they don't like strawberries, are they weird? No, it's just their personal experience. If someone stands in the bathtub instead of sitting while bathing, are they weird? Nope. It is something that doesn't even matter this much. If these two things do not matter, then why make such a big deal of someone not masturbating? It's their personal choice. And I can actually also call you a "weirdo" for commenting on someone's private life that doesn't affect you in any way.
If you don't want to be shamed for having sex or masturbating, why shame someone for not wanting to have sex or masturbate? It really goes both ways. Another thing is that some people automatically assume you don't want to receive sexual pleasure because of the church. This does also not necessarily need to be true. And even if it is, why bother? If it doesn't affect you, why won't you let others make their own decisions? People have the right to believe whatever they want. If you believe God allows masturbation, it's just as fine as believing that God does not allow it.
So in the end, please stop shaming those who don't masturbate. They are people, just like you.
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