I will start by saying I never had any problems with getting dates. Boys were asking me out pretty often. Since I was 16 I was taking care of my sick mother and honestly I didn't have time for dating. I barely had time to study. I had to work A lot to afford treatment. Romania is a horrible place to have cancer. You barely have access to decent treatment.
OK, my mom is now well, thank God! I am 25 and only had one relationship...I didn't have sex until this age. You know why? Because society was telling me in every possible way( through music, movies, books) that sex is all that matters and if you dont have sex you are a prude. Because of this I avoided going on dates even in my 20s. I was terrified that the guy will dump me when he will hear I am in my 20s and a virgin. Weirdo, no? Thats how I felt and thats how people around me made me feel. My friends were telling me how no guy will want me without any previous experience so I should get on tinder and have sex already. I was depressed, I hated myself for not being like other girls. But now, at 25 I met a guy. I feel safe with him, I feel „normal” around him. I told him I never had sex before without telling him the reason behind it. And he was like „OK, but do you think you want to have sex with me... sooner or later?” I said yes, without hesitation. Well we have been dating for 1 month already and I feel almost ready to have sex very soon.
The reason why I am sharing this with you is that I want you to understand that yes, society may not understand or accept you or some things you do. And it doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is that you find someone who does. And I did. And I am happy now.
Ah, one more thing. Not a single guy ever laughed at me for being virgin, but a lots of girls did. A lot of girls were telling me to do it, with anyone, anyhow, just to gain some experience and dont end up alone. I do not agree with slut shaming, but it seems like virgin shaming is a thing now.
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