How virgin shaming almost ruined my life

[Anonymous]

I will start by saying I never had any problems with getting dates. Boys were asking me out pretty often. Since I was 16 I was taking care of my sick mother and honestly I didn't have time for dating. I barely had time to study. I had to work A lot to afford treatment. Romania is a horrible place to have cancer. You barely have access to decent treatment.

OK, my mom is now well, thank God! I am 25 and only had one relationship...I didn't have sex until this age. You know why? Because society was telling me in every possible way( through music, movies, books) that sex is all that matters and if you dont have sex you are a prude. Because of this I avoided going on dates even in my 20s. I was terrified that the guy will dump me when he will hear I am in my 20s and a virgin. Weirdo, no? Thats how I felt and thats how people around me made me feel. My friends were telling me how no guy will want me without any previous experience so I should get on tinder and have sex already. I was depressed, I hated myself for not being like other girls. But now, at 25 I met a guy. I feel safe with him, I feel „normal” around him. I told him I never had sex before without telling him the reason behind it. And he was like „OK, but do you think you want to have sex with me... sooner or later?” I said yes, without hesitation. Well we have been dating for 1 month already and I feel almost ready to have sex very soon.

The reason why I am sharing this with you is that I want you to understand that yes, society may not understand or accept you or some things you do. And it doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is that you find someone who does. And I did. And I am happy now.

Ah, one more thing. Not a single guy ever laughed at me for being virgin, but a lots of girls did. A lot of girls were telling me to do it, with anyone, anyhow, just to gain some experience and dont end up alone. I do not agree with slut shaming, but it seems like virgin shaming is a thing now.

#virginity

[yrdady]

Shaming works, or hurts at least. That's why we should shame the virgin shamers and people who shamed you. Chrissakes of all the things to shame, a woman maintaining her virginity. It's great if she wants to sleep around but she should be commended for this, for saving herself, for not running risk of unwanted pregnancy, STD or emotional attachment and baggage. I say it again, these toxic people should be shamed and it's because it doesn't happen enough or anymore that this happens and also that our society is getting fucked up in many ways. Funny it came about from women. Probably they are bitter and miserable, because they got pumped and dumped or something.

[Shamalien]

You should hop on that slut shaming background, because your slut friends were pushing you in a really bad direction

truth is, like drug addicts, sex addicts don't want to be the only one. They need EVERYONE around them to be either a slutty sex addict, or for them to be miserable. Either way is fine by them. How long were you miserable because of them? I had a male friend do a similar thing to me for years, I ended up losing it to a person I cared nothing for at all and it didn't mean shit. Feels bad.

[cute_short_nerd]

Lol I like being a virgin, I plan on staying one, I don’t want to do the deed that makes children until I actually want one.

[Anonymous]

Men want virgin girls without being virgin themselves ofc.
#Hypocrisy

[frostwalrus]

Jokes on you. I anticipated that and purposefully remained a virgin to avoid that hypocrisy.

[Opinion Owner]

@frostwalrus Just like you're the majority lol

[AD240pCharlie]

We don't care about virginity. We just don't want someone with a triple-digit body count.

[I-am-a-nobody]

i was a virgin (by choice) until I married in my mid thirties.
The girls that knew about it were very respectful of it.
I hope you hold onto the card until you're married.

[es20490446e]

Society is clueless.

So what they think, I simply don't take seriously.

[GloriaMc]

There's nothing wrong being a virgin

[fromOhio75]

I'm sorry for your experience with this. It's not right. I apologize for the idiots out there that shamed you. Virginity isn't a condition or disease it's a choice that you should be proud of. It's not your fault that they can't keep their legs together. Love, it's OK.

[theCobbler]

Well, ... Fuckva bunch of Society, Girls , boys and anyone else who's shamed, teased or told you to do it ! By Joe, I applaud you, you'll be a better person than any of the Assholes who tried to tell you different! They don't know, the assume, I'm glad to read about such profound acts of staying pure ! aren't you glad you did what you did? !!! Blessings to You!

[COMMODOREII]

I agree with you. 😎

[Twalli]

My girlfriend was a virgin until she turned 33. None of her previous boyfriends cared, nor did I. In general guys don't care if a girl is a virgin or not. They do want to know if they are going to wait until marriage or engagement, but other than that we don't care too much. We may ask how many guys you fucked if you aren't a virgin, but other than body count your sexual history is not important.

[bklynbadboy1]

Nothing is wrong with being a virgin it doesn't change who you are as a person. Always do what you feel is best for you who cares what everyone else thinks

[AFellowWeeb]

i knew girls were ass holes, but i didn't knew that they were exaclly like MOST guys, i personally dont like force people to do something, in the pass i would joke about it too, but not anymore

[MeatPuppet]

I thought virgin shaming was only a problem for men.

[jimmy2]

God bless you. You are doing great. It nice to be loved and sex is great with your love. First time may not be that great but afyer healing life is good. God bless you for taking care of your mom. I took care of my wife so i felt really understanding reading this. I feel for you

[Rx_knows]

Don't do it!!! All them girls who laughed at you wants you to have the same mistakes that they did. Save yourself for marriage, take care of your mother, go to school, save up money. You are not going to know who the person is until a few years later.

[Tinythingy]

I lost my virginity at a young age and eve since realised it was a mistake, only you can know when the time is right and if you feel you have the right partner. If the guy really cares for you he will be happy to wait until you are sure you are ready.

You can only lose it once please make sure it's the right person before giving up something so precious.

Enjoy it when it happens

[Anonymous]

Lol this is so weird. I heard of girls who got their lives ruined by slut shaming. But virgin shaming 😹jeez that is very confusing. Is virgin the new black?

[Anonymous]

Obviously only girls have a pro balm with being a virgin. It shouldn’t be surprising that it was coming from girls.