Thoughts on Ladies Under Stating Their Dozens of Sexual Partners

Thoughts on Ladies Under Stating Their Dozens of Sexual Partners

First, I am not slut shaming. As long as you are safe I see nothing wrong with having fun. I do however, think that men are objectified by women in their younger years. I do think that we as men are used sexually and it isn't even talked about in society. The sexual objectification of men doesn't even reach a national conversation. It isn't just women being left confused and lonely after sex...there is an untold story of men who's feeling are hurt because they really liked the girl.

A woman on dating apps between the ages of 18 to 25 is not looking for her next husband.

She is looking for her next boyfriend. A woman by nature is just a sexually polygamous as men are. We are created to be fruitful and multiply. To have sex and mate with as many people as possible for fertility.

A woman in her 20s is in her wild years of sex where she cycles through a number of boyfriends and gets to experience a variety of dick.

By the time she reaches 28 or 30 years old a woman likely has been plowed and rammed through by dozens of partners.

Then when she is finally seriously dating and is dating for marriage she will say, "I've only had 3 relationships. They were long term."

But if she is 32 years old and she has one relationship that was 1 year, and another that was 4 years, and another that was 2 years...that means she has had sex with 3 people over the span of 7 years...but wait..she is 32 years old.

Say she lost her virginity at the average age of 15. So there are an extra TEN YEARS of potential sex partners for her that are not accounted for. Either she was celibate or she had sex with a couple different guys per year. a couple times 10 is 20 guys. Maybe she had a break up and had a crazy week of three different guys. thats 23. You see what has happened to men now days?

We as men are just a cog in a while. Just another bedpost mechanic a few nights per month tickling her fancy because she is bored or lonely.

Me? I am not bitter. I am dating. I love women. But I feel I need to speak up on behalf of the guys who are too afraid to stick their phallus's out and start this discussion.

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  • This is so over exaggerated. Just because someone isn't a Virgin doesn't mean they have Sex with every person they Date!! I didn't have Sex with Three guys I had Long-term Relationships with (I admit they wanted to wait until Marriage and they did when they Married other women). I give numbers based on the guy if I think he will get Insecure or judgmental I lower the number or usually say I don't discuss numbers, if I think he's hmgoing to be ok I tell him the truth. I told my Husband the Truth it didn't matter to him which I knew it wouldn't. Anyone who Believes Age Equals Number of Sex Partners is Very Inexperienced themselves and hasn't a Clue about Life or Sex!!

    1) Not All Dates Have Sex Involved

    2) Not All Long-Term Relationships are Sexual

    3) Age has Nothing to do with Sexual Experience

    • Another question is why do Men Exaggerate their Number? Maybe to make us Women feel like Another Notch on Their Bedpost... Or feel like a Big Man Campus with Guys!!!

    • Why do men exagerrate their number? That is a good question post. I would say I was a virgin until I was 27. There is a lot of pressure in society for men to be experienced at sex in order to attract women. A lot of women either make fun of virgins like guys do about their buddies... or they are turned off because they want a guy that knows what he is doing in the bed room. Women like to often be submissive an let the man take charge in bed.

    • I agree there's pressure about Sex, but let's be Honest more Lie to Boost Their Ego. Otherwise, they wouldn't care what their Buddies thought. I have 2 Brothers who bith stayed Virgins until Marriage (one of them didn't get Married until he was 31) they both were Honest about being Virgins and they took on all kinds of Ribbing from their Buddies they didn't care they were good with their Egos and Self-Esteem... Fewer guys are Honest about their numbers for Ego purposes and some women Lie about their number for the Guys Ego and so she isn't UNFAIRLY JUDGED!!!

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  • Meanwhile, it's not unusual for a lot of guys in the world to go deep into adulthood without ever having had a relationship before or still a virgin.

    • Actually it is unusual for a man to go through adulthood as a virgin, unless you're counting at adulthood as 18 to 21.

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  • wow... this is a buttload of generalizations.
    I was going to address this point by point and say how ridiculous it is each time you take the actions of a small amount of women and accuse ALL women of acting in such a way. Then I realized that you're not speaking up for the men who are 'too afraid'- you are one of them. This whole take sounds like it was copy and pasted right off of an incel forum.

  • I agree with some aspects of this post and I disagree with some of the underlying assumptions that it doesn't necessarily touch upon. As a woman who has had a "high" number of casual partners in say a 5 year span, I can say that I agree with your math. 2-3 partners a year for 10 years does add up, and women are quick to discount them when talking about sexual history and past. In this way, the men they have "encountered" are merely sexual conquests, and even then are reduced to nothing by her dismissal of that aspect of her life.

    Here is where I offer my critique. I think that a lot of women, while possibly not "expecting every sexual partner to become future hubby" goes into a sexual exchange looking for expectation setting and the underlying assumption that even after, they are still human beings. I can't explain how frustrating it is to be "ghosted" after sex, and then have have to chase someone down because they can't even be bothered to respond to a "so you want to hang out again?" I cannot explain how the "attainment" of women as objects, specifically the sexual part, is still really where woman are objectified. so many men treat women like porn dolls, without consistently running up updates on, does she as an individual like that,

  • Y’know... I just don’t get why people are so obsessed with this? I never asked my boyfriend how many people he’s slept with and I really don’t care! As long as we are both healthy why should it matter and why should anyone care?

    • Because the higher your partner count the more likely you are to cheat, divorce, be unhappy in long term relationships, be dissatisfied with sex, and the greater your probability of developing anxiety and depression. None of those are things you want in a partner.

    • @hellionthesagereborn oh wait are these actual statistics? Not to mention correlation isn’t causation.

    • They should care because there are suck things as STD's that rage from life threatening to completely deadly.

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  • 1. You are using words like "plowed" and "rammed trough" instead of proper words "had sex" "slept with" because you have some frustration in you. Use proper language if you really have respect towards these women, and are trying to spread awareness instead of get to them.
    2. If a woman is confident enough to have dozens of sexual partners, she would not have a problem to admit it. Women rarely have dozens of sexual partners, and lie about it on top. Some woman do lie but not these that your article is about. Most of the time not to trick someone but because of fear of judgement (same with men but opposite lie)
    3. "A woman by nature is just a sexually polygamous as men are. We are created to be fruitful and multiply" I hate hearing this so much... Let's start with saying that for both men and women fucking like animals just to reproduce is unhealthy, and most of the fucking today isn't even done with the intention to reproduce, not even subconsciously. But the worst part is that you claim we are by nature polygamous. NO sis lol not even men. Since you like stereotypes so much here is a true one- A healthy person: Has a happy family, a good partner, doesn't cheat and is devoted, for without quality, life is not worthy. A unhealthy or toxic person- Has a lot of sex with many different females or males, along with many other bad habits. Are we really polygamous, or did this new age make us this way?
    4. This is full of assumptions, stereotypes, statistic in which if one woman lost her virginity at 13 and the other at 18, the "average" is 15 (.5) so backing your bitterness with these does not make you sound any less crazy and obsessed. Saying at the end you date and love women means nothing to us, no one asked. Based on all your mytakes you have a big problem with them and categorize them immensely. You probably don't have a lot of experience with women because most are not party animals, most are not sex addicts and most don't inspire men to shame them as a hobby...

    • I would argue that a female must be confident to have dozens of sexual partners. They just need to show up and say yes.

    • @kencu67 wtf thats really dumb I dont even know how to reply to that Confidence is the adjective a trait that describes her and "show up and say yes" is an action, which when she does she is what if not confident? Bold? Like what is she? Shy? why am I wrong good job for writing something stupid just to write it, you're welcome to thumbs me down instead the next time

    • My point was that it's easier for women to get sex than for men on average. An average looking woman can very easily and quickly find a guy to have sex with her if that's what she wants. It's much more difficult for an average looking guy to do the same. So what if one is an adjective and the other is an action? I don't see why it is a problem. If you're an average looking shy girl, go on Tinder, upload some average looking photos any many men would like to have sex with you. If you do the same as an average looking guy, you get 1 match in a week or so. And then a guy must be witty, smart etc. Unless he is very handsome. Very few guys can use only looks to get laid but many women can achieve that. It's simply evolutionary biology. It's quite interesting how you say what I write is really dumb. Why would you do that to someone on the internet you don't know? This is how you want to be treated as well?

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  • way i look at it.. if you both pass a physical and blood test (Looking for those things) then what difference does it make? you start day 1 from the day you met.. at some point you get togehter then you start another phase.. perhaps with some mutual aproved agreements and expecations to go with your new status.. what happened in the past? does it matter? each person is a sum of all their experiences.. what you fall in love with might not even exist if it hadn't followed its path in getting to you.

  • My thought is if they like hopping from bed to bed so much they may as well just be prostitutes/escorts and be done with it. What they are doing is basically the same thing. They get $dinner$ and then they go fuck. And it isn't only ladies, it's men too. The difference is that a woman is considered a Ho, and a guy is considered a Stud ( or dud depending on your point of view).

    • Double standard is noted, and yes, that is a double standard. The idea of being a stud is really based on a beta male mentality. If I score with all these women, I get my man card. This is the mentality and it's been at play for a long time. Regardless, it is still one that I disagree with. I don't like the guys that use women up, then again, I don't like the women that allow themselves to get used up either. People that have no self control or dignity are not among those that I respect. I respect people that draw boundaries and stick to them.

    • @DocT1977 Well said. Your prescription would do all well.

    • Thanks. I try to consider all angles when I make an argument.

  • Just expect a woman over 25 to have had her share of sex with various partners. Nothing anyone can do about it. There’s no sense in dwelling about it.

    • Oh yes indeed there is something that can be done about it, it's called avoidance.

    • @ThisAndThat knock yourself out.

  • I agree and disagree with elements of this post. I will start with the points I disagree with:
    - Age is often not a good indicator as to how many sexual partners one has. I've met people in their 30s and beyond who are in the under 3 zone. I've met people who are 17 and have had about 8 already. Just using me as an example - I am 23. If everyone guesses right now how many sexual partners I have had, they would probably be wrong. Only one - my current boyfriend of 3 years. So, people even start having sex at different ages. I was a virgin at 20 and most would assume not. It's an individual thing.
    - Dating doesn't always lead to sex, and even some relationships have barely any sex in them, so I wouldn't assume she has been 'rammed' (hate that term) hundreds of times. Plenty of people I know are abstinent during their single years and have no desire for random hook ups. I was one of them. I was waiting for a committed relationship. I am sure some women do, but I personally don't know anyone who has hooked up with 3 different people in one week.
    - What about guys? Why is virginity/ numbers such a big deal when it comes to women and not men? Maybe we would rather he hadn't been round the block a few too many times. But also, if you care enough about someone and they are loyal it shouldn't matter. My partner is a few years older than me - and thus has had a fair share of partners (we're looking at 10-20 or so). I could let that bother me, but I don't. None of that worked out, he is loyal and he is with me now. He didn't know I existed so why should I be annoyed about it? I am an adult so I accept it.

    What I agree with:
    Whilst I disagree with some of that, I do know some girls who hypocritically use guys for sex. A girl I know really wants a relationship, but she just winds up in friends with benefits situations. I've tried to tell her this isn't the way to find a relationship, but she seems to ignore that advice. One of them she ended up falling for and was upset when he didn't feel the same way. But she slept with another guy who had really liked her and had good intentions. He wanted a relationship after and she turned him down saying that he must have known this was just a one-night thing. I just find that hypocritical and I do believe that guys, particularly young ones, like women, get used for sex. It unfortunately seems to be the trend, as men do it too.

  • The reality is women want sex just as much as guys but it's easier for us to get it. If a woman I single she will most likely have a one night stand every weekend but magically those don't count and she only lists the ones from relationships. Career woman who don't want tied to a relationship could easily hit over 50 guys a year.

    • Jesus man. Anyway, maybe a man is not entitled to ask, but if she's not telling the truth, then she's already building the relationship on lies, thus negating its integrity.

    • @Levin Yeah, I agree. Dishonesty is a bad foot to start on and it's definitely not a foundation to build a relationship upon. I usually don't have any issues being able to detect high mileage women. I see how people carry themselves. I avoid these types like the black plague.

  • Put men and women on the same pedestal.
    Now imagine they both have had the same amount of partners.
    Now tell me what's different for you specifically in this scenario?

    • To me, they both breathe/live/cry they both have feelings... Its not one side being victimized over the other its equal. Im saying this because i want your direct thought on this im curious.

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  • I don't care if they do too much. My most important concern is if she is disease free, and if she has diseases, I'd like to know what she has

    "By the time she reaches 28 or 30 years old a woman likely has been plowed and rammed through by dozens of partners"
    That's not true at all.

  • There's nothing you can do about it. If somebody wants to live like a complete whore you cannot change them.

    About 16 years ago, Popular Science did a double blind poll of high school students in which sexual encounters were reported. they only counted encounters where both interviewed partners admitted to having sex with the other person and only among the students still in the school. What they found is about half of High School seniors have 8 or 9 sexual partners by the time they are seniors, and about 90% of the remaining half has had between 1 and 3 sexual partners already. The "Smart" women do not have sex until their Freshman year in College.

    But basically about 90% of adults in the United States live in a condition of perpetual whoremongering, and this starts as early as their freshman years in High School, and by the time they are a senior in High School they are already a "lifetime whore/whoremonger" and they pretty much get worse and worse about it as they age.

    This is in spite of the fact 70% of American Adults (falsely) CLAIM to be Christian, Muslim , Or Jewish, all of which consider Adultery to be a mortal sin that sends you to Hell for eternity.

    I don't personally plan on marrying anyone who's ever had sex outside of marriage. So if that means I die a Eunuch then I die a Eunuch. I have Godly moral principles and I'm not changing those principles just to satisfy someone else's whoredoms.

    And by the way, calling these people "Whores" and "Whoremongers" is an insult to actual whores everywhere, because at least they get paid for what they do, while these whores just do it for free.

  • Well I think that its okay to feel like men are being objectified by us women and those facts that u give about women 18 -25 or 28 to 30 years old women are just facts that is different with other women and i do agree that women can have fun with whoever they want but still being loyal to there man but also i think that men should not feel like a cog or bedpost mechanic for few nights because like u men or guys can be attractive and u should be proud if u are chosen by us women to have one of those nights because we'll I'm not an expert but i think I would be happy if i ever got to have one of those romantic moments

    • Thanks for your reply. The numbers I gave weren't facts. They were just made up guesses.

    • Yes you are OK with men being objectified and no don't ask where all the men went when we've left for other countries which is exactly what I'm planing to do right now. I'm not alone, we're in high numbers now. Sincerely a 33 year MGTOW Monk, MGTOW-4-LIFE.

  • Not all of us are like that. And I genuinely don’t have many partners sexually!!!

    i aim not to because sex is awful

    and guys aren’t used for sex

    they WANT to have sex almost constantly

    it’s their choice based on their biology

    • 1. I hate to burst your bubble, but men do sometimes get used for use, usually by adulterous women. And that's not a nice feeling after you've developed feelings for a woman. 2. You sound like someone who's bitter because you've yet to find anyone who likes you for you, as opposed to 3 guys who just wanted to get their leg over, and then completely lost interest after they did the dead fish.

    • @david_kek that's two is no nice to say...

    • @DrMeow from one cat to another, no one said the truth is always nice

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  • Maybe, those ladies understate the numbers because of slut shaming, just like how men overstate theirs because of their sense of being an "alpha".

    • THat is absolutely correct. They under estimate their numbers because of slut shaming. But also deep down they feel guilty about how many partners they have had compared to guys. Many women keep their true number of partners a secret even from their lady friends

  • But that is very easy to test for.
    Non-promiscuous people never get defensive after you deride promiscuous people in front of them, in fact, they are very happy to express their own distaste for them when you do.

    If someone gets butthurt and defensive when you bring up body counts and promiscuity, you immediately know what camp they belong to.

  • The main worry is STD's. Might be wrong, but it's an instant turn off when women talk about being promiscuous.

    TBH, I think people want to have their cake and eat it too much. They want to sleep around, and yet still expect a serious relationship.

    I think it's about developing a sense of quality. It's actually not that difficult for men to get laid too, if you'll sleep with anything that moves. I personally won't. I would just rather be single. And I think people should have more standards in general.

  • That's funny. I was 25 years old when I went to OkCupid for the first time trying to find a lifelong partner. Yet after sex the man would leave me. The man secretly wanted a 1 night stand but claimed he wanted to start a life with me. Plenty of them I actually liked. Hoping it would be real. Then we had sex and he left me.

    Nice of you to speak out on behalf of men who are being used for sex. I support that. But doing it while trashing women who are just as unfortunate in fact potentially even worse off is not gonna do you any favors.

    • Sorry about that we call those guys... well whores?

    • It takes two people to copulate. Yeah, the one who lied to you and used you was a piece of shit. Then again, it was you being easy as you are that enabled the situation.

  • Society makes it seem like women can't have fun and explore their sexuality/sexual energy, mindful of other's feelings. Out of self-conscious they probs lie to not get judged as a "slut" or a "cheater" or "b*tch".
    Not all relationships are sexual.

    • I don't have a problem with slut shaming but I do with virgin shaming. Being a slut has more negative consequences if you want a long term relationship than being a virgin. And a long term relationship/marriage used to be the foundation of society because it provided a strong start for a family. And a healthy family is super important. Also, people, especially women find it harder to be able to form a meaningful connection with someone after spending decades of meaningless casual sex. But in my opinion a virgin should not be shamed for making a more decision not to ruin his/her value. Sex has psychological aspects, it's never about just "the body". Thinking about casual sex: would you be vulnerable and share your body and intimacy with someone you barely know and not let that person look at your phone for example?

    • @kencu67 The person can have sex however they like, it doesn't determined their loyalty and personality. They just like sex. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. People who just judge another person's worthiness for a relationship based on their sexuality only is wrong. There's more to the person than their sex life.

    • "women find it harder to be able to form a meaningful connection with someone after spending decades of meaningless casual sex" I probs would say the same for men too. But I won't. Regardless of gender, if someone is having a fruitful sex life (being mindful of person they're having sex with's feelings and emotions at same time) is perfectly fine. Just having casual sex doesn't destroys the person's ability to connect meaningful connections with another person. The other person just has to have the right heart to look past the other's sexuality and see their good traits. A person's worth isn't depended on their sexuality.

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  • Who cares how many people you slept with in the past, I don't care so long as my partner is faithful.
    Im 31 and I've slept with 22 women, lost my virginity at 16.

    • You are a Healthy Man

    • Thankyou 😊

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