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My unpopular opinions about Sex

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My unpopular opinions about Sex

These are my personal opinions you can disagree with if you want but again my opinion.

1. Having a high body count, doesn't mean you're a sex genius: I have mainly male friends and most of my female friends are their girlfriends. One of my best friends claims that he is a "sex god" becuase he has so much experience. However, his girlfriend has complained to me that she has only finished 1 or 2 times since they started dating and they're been together for almost two years now. My point on this is that you could have a body count of 900 and still be very average at sex. Experience and practice are the best when it comes to learning how to be good at sex in general but if you are just smashing away and not learning anything from it... you're just clapping skin, which is why communication is key

2. Raceplay is fine, just not outside a sexual setting: Personally, I would never get into raceplay. I'm pretty sure it would haunt me for life. Nevertheless, some people are and if you are it's fine but remember that your partner deserves respect still. If you're outside the bedroom or not in a sexually setting calling your partner some slur is going to look so bad, especially in public. I've seen some people on here saying how much they love calling black people the n-word in bed and yah, that creeps me out but I guess what gets you off getting you off but you might when to think about why that turns you on so much, but hey enjoy as long as you're partner is okay with it.

3. BSDM is completely normal: I like BSDM and most people do, it's one of the three top sexual fantasies people have. I saw a post saying, "If a woman like BSDM, she's not wife material". Personally, I think the opposite I don't mind vanilla sex but if it's always vanilla, I couldn't marry someone like that. BSDM is about sexual adventures with a sexual partner or partners, wink wink. I think maybe 20-25 years ago it was pretty taboo but now most people have at least 2 or more kinks. From hair pulling, spanking to even electric shocking (yah I was surprised that was a thing). In all honesty, I see BSDM more as sexy dress up for adults, then some taboo anymore. Besides, who doesn't like a good spank every once and a while? It's a great way to get to know your partner and it can also bring you closer together as a couple.

4. Porn isn't bad as people think it is: Porn, Porno the whole thing the reality is most people have seen porn before their first time, it's something I personally think it normal to see it's normal to be curious about sexuality and trying to find things that could explain it. Now the problem with it is that it sometimes gives people unrealistic expectations for what sex is meant to be like and their own sexual skills. In porn, you have "18-year-olds" magically able to take 10-inch dicks like it's nothing and him lasting for 40 minutes long. My first time he was maybe 6 inches and nutted in 3 minutes cause I was "too tight" ( like duh bro, I'm new at this). My point is the concept of porn a way for people especially young people to experience porn or have some understanding of how it's meant to work is getting. The reality causes a lot of unrealistic ideas for people especially young people like myself.

5. Bigger doesn't mean better: I've seen the "is 5 inches enough questions a lot", I've come up with this as a reply would you prefer to be completely in her or have an 8-9 inches dick that could possible only fit in halfway, which leaves the other half cold for the cruel element in this magical journey to completion!!.... Okay, okay I'm sorry for the dumb joke, but as I said in point 1 body count doesn't equal sex god but neither does dick size. I feel like another drawback on porn is the unrealistic sizes of penises on there. Let's look at this scientifically if bigger means better always then more men no matter the race would have bigger dicks becuase women would only flock to bigger sized men and don't get me wrong some girls do this but most women don't becuase the world average size is about 6 inches so you're fine you don't need a "monster cock", one like no woman has ever seen before (.... dexter's laboratory, beautiful show). Seriously, man rub her clit, ask what she wants more of, ask her about her kinks, keep a good rhyme and honestly, lower your voice a little works magic.

6. Ride him, it's only fair: I will attempt that sometimes when I am tired or sleepy, I am the starfish girl. However, you gotta ride him sometimes or at least if you know you can. I've had guy friends tell me that women don't do anything in bed. So, I've taken notes and tried to improve myself. On the other hand guys, sometimes you need to understand she has no idea how to do that... legit no clue, I didn't know how to do it perfectly for about a year. But personally, I feel like it's only fair you ride him or try positions where you put in the effort.

7. Lesbian porn online is more for straight people than gay people: I'm bisexual maybe a little pansexual and I've never watch lesbian porn as in a whole video, but from what I have heard from my gay friends' lesbian pron is directed in a way that it's attractive to straight men mainly, sometimes women too. It's not surprising the concept of a woman being attracted to other women does turn on some guys becuase a lot of them think threesomes or they want to watch and I have to say. Most lesbians wouldn't be cool with that, I'm not even a lesbian but I've had a guy ask to watch me do stuff with a girl when I was dating one and I have to say. Gay relationships are not made for sexualization stop it. Also, apparently, some women are the same as gay men which are again very gross.

8. The person you having sex with deserves to finish too: now unless they have a fetish for edging or something else along those lines. If you are having sex try and make the other person cum. Sex is great personally, I support the idea of a healthy sex life however if you are in a relationship with someone or even just hooking up. Try and make sure they get their kicks too.

9. I have no idea why having daddy issues correlates to people thinking you're a freak: Now, I know the whole DDLG or just the overall BDSM aspect of the concept but it creeps me out that it such a thing now that I see 14-year-old girls on the internet saying they have daddy issues. If you are interested in the DDLG thing it doesn't necessarily mean you may have daddy issues but, again I think it isn't weird that popular culture has translated that into "I'm a nymphomaniac". Daddy issues in my dad doesn't mean she's freaky but if she overly expresses that she has these issues, she's trying to look like a freak.

10. Can someone explain to me what cuckolding is? This isn't even an opinion I just see posts about it and I don't understand why it's so appealing

But those are my unpopular opinions. I hope you liked it and I hope nobody is too pissed off

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  • viraak18
    Those are good opinions
    10. Cuckolding is a fetish where the male likes to share his beloved partner (girlfriend or wife) with another man (usually to have one on one session) as they watch, or if they are experienced they usually let the girl go with the guy and do it alone, the guy is called a Bull, sometimes they let the girl get into a sexual relationship with the Bull and be degraded by them, sometimes they even do things to please the Bull (sexual of course)...
    Is this still revelant?

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  • Anfin
    Well said, I enjoyed reading this.
    Is this still revelant?

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  • Tdieseler
    hehe, they can be pissed off but not too pissed off lol...
    these are very good opinions... open minded, but also with enormous amounts of truth. I need my next sexual partner to read this... and a few more.
    Also, im glad you wrote this... my writing style is not as nice..
    • Awn thank you :D lol it's more or less thoughts I had at the top of my head

  • cjgsu
    I don't think any of what u said is uncommon or unpopular.

    Size only matters 2 a certain degree. But knowledge is far more important than size.

    I prefer riding cuz it gets deeper 2 me.

    U r so right bout high body counts don't count 4 shit. Most of the time they don't ain't wit someone long enough 2 figure out what they partner likes.
    So they never took the time 2 figure out how 2 please someone
  • Teyfet
    Good views - though not very uncommon & thus not unpopular. 8 is my favorite, with number 6 being vastly underappreciated.

    As for 10, I don't understand the appeal either, but I've decided that it's akin to Humiliation, which I consider to be a division of BDSM.

    It seems to be mainly men who are into it, and they want to feel their masculinity challenged (for whatever bizarre reason). There's also the exciting element of the Taboo, which is especially true if it's interracial.
    • I have noticed mainly men are interested in this and white women I think that says a bit but I guess I choose not to judge, my boyfriend is white but if he called me the N word, I'd probably kick him in the balls

    • Teyfet

      And he'd deserve it.

    • lol He wouldn't say it, I like he cares a lot about the black community and he's done a lot to check his privilege... which I thought is what happens in most interracial relationships until I saw the N-word kink as I like to call it

  • fall_angel-86
    I agree ith mostly every thing wrote here. I say achieving to their own nd let you freak flag fly. I do not judge a person on the sexuall preferences unless its pedophilia or insest
  • Lite3000
    My uncommon opinion: All those hot girls on Instagram with superhuman looks constantly pushing the boundaries of softcore porn every day don't enjoy sex NEARLY as much as you think they do. Normal looking girls are AT LEAST 10 times hornier and 10 times more sexually adventurous than any Instagram model.
    • argyle

      I wasn't going to comment on this thread, but then I stumbled upon what you wrote. I couldn't agree more. NORMAL looking girls are a hundred times better in bed. I've watched porn and my personal experiences with normal looking girls have always been so much better.

  • pierre7i
    The combination of your intuitive sexual knowledge & practical sexual experience makes this delightfully enjoyable read a "lovemaking guide" for all of us who aspire to be better sexual partners
  • MLGbreezy
    I agree with everything you said except race play stuff like that is a big reason why I don't fuck with interracial relationships. Cause white people fetiahize blacks and in a lot of cases I feel like they are just with them to satisfy there fetish, porn is. Very big example of this cause it's a socae where people can satisfy there disgusting fetish for another human being without being scrutinized It is never okay to be called a racial slur in any context especially not now with the blm movement going on. I'm sorry but I can't agree with that statement. If your partner is asking you to do that and your okay with it then your just condoning the sexual fetishization of blacks and racisum.
    • I personally dont do it and I'm in an interracial relationship, I think it says a lot about how you view yourself and your relationship if you're okay with thzt

    • MLGbreezy

      Exactly like that's degrading to a whole new level and the people that want to do that are sick and disgusting and it makes me sad to kno that there are people out there who geniuly think it's okay. I'm not a fan of interracial relationships and I say that more often than I should or maybe not enough but at the end of the day I don't have an issue with them as long as there's a level of respect and your happy. Treating your partner basically how they treated us when we were slaves and enjoying that is by no means okay or respect.

  • tonycar
    Well said, this was something different, in a good way, loved to read it.

    I do share some of your views, and thing you make good points 🤗
    • Awn thank you :D I try to make more positive mytakes there's way too much negative on this site at times when it comes to mytakes

  • Larson7
    I like your post. Do agree mostly. Part where you talked about being tight, how old were you then?
    • I was about 18 I didn't plan on losing my virginity that soon but I just wanted to get it over with

    • Larson7

      You need to wait. Find someone who loves you

    • Um a little too late for that lol I have a body count of about 6 or 7, not everyone really cares about virginity. I grew up religiously so I never really thought about sex, then when I wanted to I did and I got it over with now I do have someone who loves me. I don't really appreciate being told what I need to do with my sexuality

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  • hi_it_is_me123
    Great but i dont agree that guys like "vanilla" girls. It is the opposite. If you are not into bdsm , you are seen as prude and so no guy like vanilla/prude girls. That is why tend to prefere submissive guys since non submissive guys literally except you to deep troath, to get chocked, to let yourself have cum on your face, to have anal sex, to get slappedetc. which is for me is too much and abusive.
  • Nayyr
    11. Face sitting should be mandatory

    Great MyTake
  • Twalli
    The only thing I disagree with is the thing about BDSM. Cuckolding is sexual excitement derived from your girlfriend having sex with another guy in front of you.
  • PBandJ_Nerd
    I don't think people would hate or be mad at you, just may not agree. I think all of this stuff is important though. Sex and any sexual activity needs to be comfortable and satisfying for anyone. But i don't think DDLG is the same as having daddy issues though. Those could come together for some, but they're mostly separate things. Same can be said for daddy kink as well. I think maybe also being a bit selfless or open to something in bed is good too. I would only say not to if a person is really against it/goes over the line for them. The important part is they at least tried a few times (if they were willing to try it out of course). Discipline is also one thing that I like, as long as both partners agree to it.
  • slatyb
    You are a wise young woman and will have a happy sex life with a lucky man.
  • Ryfyle
    If a dude gets an erection and he can still see color, His dick isn't big enough. If a man can't do a back-flip off the ground prone, his dick isn't big enough. If a mans can't gag a Burmese Python, His dick might as well not exist.
    • It's just my opinion, I dont really think dick size is the end-all to be all, most of my partners have been average and I was happy with that. I just think the 10 inch dick tall is over hyped

    • Ryfyle

      It mostly a joke response. The real deal though is that marketing and society has told a lot of men that if you don't have the world inseminating cock of power, your not really that much of a man. It's like the psychological validation so many seek from Twitter or Facebook. As a Man, If you don't have the Thundercock, you might as well kill yourself

    • which say a lot about society, I think the patriarchy has helped ruin many men's self-image in that regard. It has that weird association with the concept of the "alpha male" and your a "lesser" man if you can't mage sure cum with one stroke of your lol thundercock and also sorry I didn't get the joke before it's just when guys on here say "Is my dick small" or anything about penis size and I reply "no it's fine", they flip out so I'm just automatically defensive.

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  • Rexos
    Cuckolding is when a person likes sharing their partner with others basically. Unlike an open relationship only the partner gets to have sexual relations outside of the relationship.
    While it's common that the guy is the cuckold and the girlfriend/wife is the "hotwife" who's free to have sex with whomever she wants and there's often an association with femdom and humiliation fetishes, with interracial and bisexual stuff often mixed in as well, there's also women who are into being cuckqueens, or sometimes the guy that shares his wife is the dominant one, there are non-straight couples into this and how much the partner can really do depends on some agreements the couple have set up from the beginning, so the reasons why cuckolding is appealing are different between different people.
  • SenseiSeptred
    Many times people in general end up needing to earn sex from me like it is a Greek god trial for mortals.
  • bulletbob555
    You don't have a problem talking about it. Someone told how do you expect to do it if you can't talk about it
  • ronaldsnugs
    My wife loves porn more than me. I never cared for it much.
  • msc545
    Nothing weird or unpopular about your opinions. Very normal and rational.
  • Agape93
    Actually I like these opinions lol
  • Tea-Spaghetti
    These don't seem that unpopular so nice
  • Yeah, 9 makes sense.
  • Yaaten
    Most of these actually aren't unpopular at all.
  • Jersey2
    Good post!
  • sandya88
    4 is good
  • Anonymous
    Agree with most things except penis size. When people say that big dicks sometimes don't fit in the vagina, how often is that actually? "Sometimes" and "possibly" can mean anything from 1% to 99% of cases, let's not use vague words like that.
    Most studies that day size doesn't matter are based on women who haven't even experienced a big dick, which would clearly lead to biased results. However, when the study involves women who have experienced big dicks, the results always show that more than 50% of women prefer it big, at least over 7 inches. So check if the study is biased.
    And people don't have kids based on fuck size because for most of human civilization (that's ~6000 years), sex was done before marriage, and marriages were arranged based on social status, power, reputation, etc. It's only in modern times (~200 years) that marrying for love or having premarital sex has become common, and even then it's only common in the West. Which means that for most of history, and in most of the world, men's dicks weren't being inspected before they got a chance to get married and pass down their genes. So that's the real reason why big dicks are rare, it's not because the women got to sample a full buffet of dicks and pick their favourite to have babies with.
    • Sir you're allowed to have an opinion but I can tell you I've had sex with a man with an 8 inch dick and it was the worse sex of my life, but again shouldn't you just know size doesn't mean you'll make her cum besides if it's too big it can be extremely uncomfortable and painful. Personally, I wrote that bit for the boys, I don't really care about the size of the man and you'll find a lot of women don't usually care either unless there obsessed with it. Regardless, your opinion is your opinion

  • Anonymous
    Agree with about half of this. Bdsm sounds fun but involving a third person is fucked and idgaf what anyone thinks, that’s not normal or healthy and it will always lead to issues

    also i dont want to be ridden. Im a man I’ll do the fucking thank you very much. Bjs and hjs are where she can lead when it comes to her pussy tho she is dependant on me leading and that’s only natural
  • Anonymous
    Great mytake.
    I agree that banging randoms doesn't give you much sex experience.
    You really learn more in long-term relationships where you're having sex daily and you're comfortable to experiment.
    I like raceplay too.
    I like that I can call black guys niggers and white men can't. It's as if only white men are responsible for racism.
    It's awesome to get away with stuff.
    Cuckolding is just more raceplay, but to the extreme.
    It's bringing a white man in to humiliate him and he takes it because after all, he's the devil and I'm innocent as a white woman.
    • MLGbreezy

      Your clearly a disgusting individual I don't know why black men and I'll choose people like you over black woman or why black woman will choose white men with the same mindset over black men

    • JohnBlue32

      @MLGbreezy
      They want to be either degraded or feel superior to white men.
      I just say what they want.
      It's hot to me and doesn't affect me.

    • JohnBlue32

      As a black man I enjoy it.

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