This is my first mytake and my first real try at actually helping guys who were as hopeless as I once was. I was terrified of women to a degree that is just ridiculous. I was as low on the totem pole as you can imagine! I don't care how bad it is for you, what I say applies to you. Actually, if you're a normal average guy, it probably applies LESS to you.
I will not make this mytake entertaining with links and pictures. If you can't read a wall of text, well too bad. Stay single and afraid of women.
There's just a few pre-requisites I would have to say you have to have or work on while you start the process of becoming attractive to women. Such as, wearing nice clothes and smelling good. Look up men's fashion, choose nice clothes, but also express your personality through them. You don't have to copy another guys pants and shirt, put your own uniqueness into it as well. Just don't dress like a friggin bum. And smell good too, get cologne and such. If you don't want to do that, well I guess just stay a virgin. Optionally you could lift some weights too. Girls lift weights too. It's fun, you should do it for your health anyways. Increase your bone density and avoid osteoporosis when you're 90 lol. Pour your own milk and wipe your own ass when you get older. Die being active rather than in a wheelchair in a nursing home. I'm just sayin... And girls like a little bit of muscle on a guy. You don't have to be a jacked monstrosity. Just have more physical prowess than a female. And if you're fat? Definitely lift weights. You go from being a fat slob, to a fat muscular bear that is a lot more attractive and powerful looking than just a fat blob. And if you're skinny, put a little size on you. You don't have to be a huge muscled beastly monster. Just a little bit goes a long way with the ladies.
This guide is mostly based on me and my experiences. Me sharing my experiences on the internet, and getting upvotes and replies from other guys who have basically told me they suffered from the same problems as I had. And so, if this doesn't apply to you, sorry, you'll have to go elsewhere for tips on how to become attractive with women. If you're just a totally average dude, never were a social outcast, well lucky you. I don't know why you're struggling, I can't relate to normal people.
If you're like how I used to be, you're hopeless with women because you're terrified of them. But there is hope. The process is simple.
If you already fulfilled the pre-requisites, and you want to simply dive right in. It's easy! Identify a cute girl you like. Walk up to her, put on a big happy smile, look her in the eyes and say "let's go on a date!" or "let me take you out." Smile, be happy, be direct, and tell her exactly what you want!
But if you're like how I used to be, that is impossible for you to do. You'll walk up to the girl, shaking like a leaf, voice cracking, fear boiling up in every inch of your body. It just won't work. You can be direct and it won't do shit. Because you're terrified of women. And now the rest of this mytake will be explaining to you how to not be afraid of women anymore.
If you think all women want is money, six pack abs, and huge cocks, you're wrong. But you're blinded where you are. You cannot see the truth. You're stuck in a deep dark hole. And these beliefs hold you back. These beliefs are part of why you're afraid of women. You fear judgement and rejection. You fear being deemed unworthy. And as long as that fear is inside of you, as long as you believe these things, you will never be attractive to women. Because they can smell that fear and women are disgusted by a timid scared man. And you have seen the proof and the truth. You've seen guys who are hideous, homeless fucking bums and criminals, with girls fawning all over them. Because it's not about money, or looks, or dick size. It's about confidence, and those kinds of guys give no fucks. That's what makes the pussy drip all over the place. But you don't have to become a tatted up gang banger to get girls lol. You don't have to do this extreme transformation into something you aren't.
If you're like how I used to be, you are full of anxiety and fear and worry and self doubt when you talk to a woman. You keep things as platonic and non offensive as possible. You don't want her to be creeped out by you. You don't want her to think you're some kind of sexual horny maniac desperate for sex. A loser who begs a girl for a crumb of pussy. You don't want women to think that is what you are. And maybe you aren't that at all, but you know that if you try you will be viewed as that. I understand.
You imagine in your head what the "cool" dude would say, and he would say it and the girl would laugh and smile. He would "get away" with it. You believe that if you said the same thing, she would be offended and disgusted by it. And you're right, she would be. Because you haven't practiced being that guy and so you can't just "be" that guy. She isn't disgusted or offended by what you said. She's offended that you're shaking like a leaf. She's offended that you said this bold thing, but your voice cracked and your eyes looked away, and your smile was a fake smile that shows your fear on your face.
Imagine if a fat disgusting hideous woman comes onto you. You're disgusted that she even thinks she has a chance with you. You want her to know she has no chance with you. You being afraid of a woman is shown on your face and body, and she becomes disgusted by you as if you were the equivalent of a fat hideous smelly woman.
So what do you do? What you do is you begin to say those things that you believe you cannot say. However, you must start small, because if you go too big, it will scare your own mind worse than the reaction from the girl. The end goal, is to actually say the things that pop into your head the instant they pop into your head. Right now, you can't do that. But you will work your way to that. To being your authentic self who says what he thinks.
So you're talking to a girl. Being platonic as fuck. Being completely non sexual. Being as nice and friendly and non threatening as you can be. Because that's the best you can do. When you do talk to girls, its never flirtatious, it's never presumptive, it's never bold, it's never cocky, it's never anything than platonic. And you can never take it further. When you do ask a girl out, she always says no. It's time to change that!
You have to say out loud, to the girl, something that you believe you will be punished for. Punished meaning: the girl is creeped out by you, gets upset, thinks you're weird, or whatever negative thing. You have to say outloud the smallest tiniest infraction you can think of, that you can deal with the consequences for. You have to take that platonic, friendly, boring, nice, situation, where you're afraid to overstep any boundary, and you have to put a toe over that line. Just a toe! Something small. Something you are able to force yourself to do. You have to be afraid to say it, but also not so afraid that you cannot force yourself to say it even though you really don't want to.
So rather than going big with "damn bitch you got a fat ass, let me take you home and make you scream my name" You say something small, almost insignificant, but something that you still feel afraid of saying. Something you still feel like you will become socially ostracized for, be viewed as an asshole or a creep for saying.
It's hard to come up with an example. Say you're talking to a girl in this platonic manner. You're a nice calm chill dude, just a friendly non threatening guy, talking small talk as casually and non offensively as you can. It's time to push the boundary. It's time to say some teeny tiny thing that you feel is a social infraction and will get you in trouble.
Ok, this can be a few different things actually. You can point out a flaw in her. Maybe her shoes look funny, maybe she has a pimple. You can also say something overly confident. You can say something like "Yea I'm handsome AF." Maybe a little smaller than that lol. Something confident and presumptuous. Even though you don't believe anything positive about yourself, you say something cocky as if you do believe something good about yourself. Something more than you truly believe. Something you actually don't believe, but you say it as if you do. Or you can say something flirtatious but in the smallest way you can imagine that you can push yourself to say. Like "i like you." But you kinda slipped it in when you could rather than it being a big bold declaration.
Depending on how girls react, will change the speed at which you gain confidence to say what you really think and feel and want and desire. When you say something overly bold, and girls go from keeping their distance from you, to suddenly they're beaming smiles and positivity towards you, it quickly reinforces the behavior.
If you do it so awkwardly and weirdly, that no matter what you say, girls continue to feel weird around you, it will take you longer to get over your problem. But you have to continue to put your toe across that line. Which is why i keep saying to make it something very small. You will know in that moment what tiny thing you can handle. As long as it's not so big as to prevent you from trying, but not so small that you don't see it as something you're afraid to say. You need to fear to say it, but you need to also decide that even though you are afraid to say it, it is a small enough infraction that you feel you can get away with it.
And often times girls will flip light a light switch. You say this tiny thing you felt afraid to say, and suddenly you are receiving positive responses from the girl or girls. You might be afraid to say something, because you don't want the girl to notice the large difference in how you normally are compared to the new you that suddenly says something bold. But girls don't care. They are like a light switch, they are like a computer. You input commands and they respond. If you put out boldness, they respond by giving you attention. If next, you put out timidness, poof, affection and attention gone, and you go back to being ignored. Turn on the boldness again, and poof, attention gained again. Do not worry about what the girl thinks. It's almost like they don't think at all. They are like computers. It's actually bizarre and you will probably see it in action. You will see girls go hot and cold with you, back and forth. For me it's almost a fun game. If I say something timid and shy, and then something bold, its just amazing to watch how the girl will change how she acts around me in an instant back and forth as if there is nothing weird about me being shy one second and bold the next. It's very strange and bizarre but hey, that's women.
And so on you go, continuously testing the waters. Putting your toe out of line, pushing yourself to say more and more and do more and more. Eventually girls will begin to treat you in a way you never imagined. And it will reinforce your confidence to say and do w/e the hell you want. You will feel like you are seeing a whole new world. As you say and do bold things, you will see how girls flip like a light switch. And you want that light switch to be turned on, because you will love to have female attention. So step over the line, keep testing the waters, keep pushing the boundaries. You will likely want to more and more just because even with the tiniest infractions, you notice a large difference in how girls respond to you. And eventually you will see how wrong you were about women wanting money six packs and big dongs. What they really crave is boldness, confidence, displays of power.
In addition to all of this, you need to start touching them as well. Maybe I should do a different take on touching. Because touching can be terrifying. You feel like a creep, but then you can end up hugging and squeezing every damn girl you meet, putting your hands on their waist and hips. Grabbing their hands and their arms, pushing them poking them, flirting with them. Showing them your strength because you know they like that. And then you wonder why you were ever afraid in the first place.
Anyways, it all becomes authentic. You may not truly believe in yourself that you're a handsome guy. But when you act as if you are around girls, you will start to believe it. And you will believe it, because you said this presumptuous cocky thing, and instead of being struck down, girls shine their attention and affection towards you. That makes it real and that makes you believe it.
Eventually, you have to learn to express yourself fully. Right now, you're never being your true self around women. You're afraid to be your real self. That's part of the process. Expressing your real self even though you are afraid to do it. And as they respond positively to that, and they will, you become more and more comfortable to be yourself. And you can be cocky and arrogant, and fun and silly, and weird and flirtatious, and all of these things you never imagined possible. And you can be your realest self around women. The point is to start putting that toe out of line. You fear to be yourself but the more you actually become yourself the more women will like you.
And then, when you've learned enough, when you've learned to be yourself, to be comfortable and happy around women, it will not be even the slightest problem to literally walk up to some random cute girl, and say "lets go out on a date!" With a big happy smile and a positive vibration beaming at her. And she will beam it right back. Even if she says no, even if she has a boyfriend, it will be fine. You'll just laugh and smile and say "aww! You sure? hmm ok fine, but I still have a big crush on you!" and you can skip away while rainbows and butterflies and shit spout of your ass lol. And you won't be afraid of women anymore. And you'll talk to every girl you meet and flirt and be yourself and be happy, and girls will want you and suddenly you'll see that you can have any girl you want and suddenly your standards will go up and up and up and you won't even want to date half the girls you used to want before.
I have more ideas for mytakes. Such as how to give women orgasms, even if you got a tiny little peepee, you can make you girl cum her friggin brains out. And if you can learn to be a sensual sexual guy, girls will be drawn you to even more, because you start to exude that shit in your mere presence around them. But that's another mytake, along with one I may do on touching. You know, if anyone actually reads this shit and wants me to do that and actually tells me that what I've said here has helped. But I suspect that nobody will read it because it's too long. Well, your loss.