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Confessions of a Ladies Man: How to influence a Woman/Man into being your exclusive partner

It's early stages of dating and you want to inspire something more.

What is the trick?

Indirectly modeling married life. Creating signature moments that circuit your lover's brain into imagining the both of you as a married unit.

Cooking

Confessions of a Ladies Man: How to influence a Woman/Man into being your exclusive partner

I have mentioned this before, but in my experiences this rings true. I am not just talking about cooking for your lover while they sit on their ass and do nothing. I am talking about doing a team oriented activity together. It typically leads to sex for sure. But a cooking date also gets them used to the married environment. Where are the forks? Where are the knives? Who wears the pants in the kitchen?

Team Work or Creative Activity

Confessions of a Ladies Man: How to influence a Woman/Man into being your exclusive partner

Go to a wine and painting event. Team up as a couple and play a sport against another couple. The union is fun..the teamwork? It feels like something more than dating.

Married Life Chores

Confessions of a Ladies Man: How to influence a Woman/Man into being your exclusive partner

At some point once you start having sex and spending more time together, have your partner more invested. Be finishing up laundry when they arrive. "Hey, could you fold these towels with me?" After making a partner a meal, "Do you mind doing the dishes while I light candles?" You wake up the next morning after sex. "Hey, can you make the bed for me?" Do NOT order them around. Always being doing a chore yourself so it seems like a team work situation.

Study or Work Together

Confessions of a Ladies Man: How to influence a Woman/Man into being your exclusive partner

That's right. At some point down the line invite them over for no romance at all. "Hey, I have a late night work project but I would love to cuddle when I am done. Bring some work over for a study date." This is perfect for younger students. But at 33 years old I was invited to a study date just last night. She answered a work call while I was on my laptop. Then we went to bed and cuddled to sleep.

Get the person in situations where it feels like you are married.

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Most Helpful Guys

  • I'm sorry I don't agree with any of this. I'm nobody important so for whatever it's worth. I've been married for close to 30 years and I was considered a player by many even though I never played any of them I was always direct and to the point. When I met my wife I had several chicks on the side and they all knew each other but when I met my wife I knew I loved her the second I laid eyes on her I had never thought of marriage but I knew I was going to marry her and after about 1.5 years of dating she asked me to marry her. I believe marriage is something way to meaningful to manipulate someone into wanting to marry you cause if it's not true it's going to be miserable and won't last. Don't get me wrong it hasn't been perfect but we're still together and actually the first say 23 years was about as perfect as it gets. Let it happen if it's supposed too. Just my opinion

  • Is this an issue for a lot of people? Have you ever had a person who didn't want to be exclusive right away?

    • It is common in early stages of dating to want to allow the relationship to evolve. Nobody should be asking somone to marry them or to be their boyfriend or girlfriend after date one. Also, you are young. here is my advice. NEVER EVER ask a girl to be your girlfriend. always wait for her to ask. You focus on being fun, having sex, being romantic, being a caring person. That is it. Dont worry about a relationship. Let her ache and ache and wonder and wonder until she can't take it anymore and shyly asks you to be hers. But you must WAIT. okay?

    • Sorry dude, but if she's dating more than one person at a time she's being disrespectful. I only pursue one woman at a time. I'm engaged already so I've no need to worry.

    • there's nothing wrong with dating multiple people in early stages. Very common. But im talking about early stages of dating before being "official".

Most Helpful Girls

  • Ya know this is interesting and is one of the first dating things on here that I can't find much of a fault with, good job. My problem with this is I have a bad habit of waiting for the other shoe to drop

    • Thanks for mho

  • Also, it’s good to pick each other’s noises and wipe each other’s bums to really get familiar with each other’s body odour and fluids.

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  • If you meet someone that ticks the boxes currently and has the potential to develop into more they may be a candidate to make a partner. If that person shows signs of being a healthy individual then going forward they should be asked for exclusivity.
    If said person only ticks some boxes it's not your right or responsibility to push them into what suits you.
    That is a very immature way of thinking and only works towards making this a toxic relationship.

  • Im not nearly dating anyone really and I am far from a ladies man, but I think these are some great advice. Teamwork is always the better option even if it's just because I care (No motive). And I'd think it inspiring to get to build like that.
    Thank you for your ideas.

  • I really liked this one dude.

  • Wow. . . rather than whine about women, you actually posted some methods that actually work when dating.

    The cooking thing is big. That whole studying together thing? Oh no. . .

    But teamwork activities and dates are huge.

  • I think I lost braincells reading this. What you called "Influence" is just a nice word you use for manipulation.

  • I wouldn’t take advice from a PUA. They are trash.

    • What is pua?

    • Girls always say that but i've seen men ready to kill themselves at like age 35 until they get a pua coach and finally get a girl to date them. Pua's really aren't all the same despite what you think. Taught me more about women than women ever did.

  • I honestly think if he wanted to marry you, he will.

  • The best you can do is let her know blatantly that you want her and fuck her for all she's worth. Ultimately, though, the decision is hers to make.

  • i have a read a whole pile of your questions and mytakes. You are a man whore , slept with a million women, had hundred gfs, broke up hundred times. Now you're giving people advice on relationships? Until you are married for 10 years, i wouldn't trust anything you write on this website.

    • Slut shaming men who have friends with benefits relationships is not a very feminist thing to do. Its just as wrong as slut shaming women for enjoying sex. Dont you agree? I was a virgin until 27 years old. Im 33 now. I've had sex with 12 partners in 6 years. You are threatened by me because I tell the truth and you are threatened you will lose the power to manipulate guys out there. I feel you have a guy situation. PM me and id be happy to give you advice. Its okay.

    • No I don’t think men sleeping around is good either. I wouldn’t recommend it for either sex. I’m not crazy about people who do that. That’s why I’m engaged. I just want to make love to him and he just wants to make love to me.

    • Oh I have no issue with you sleeping with willing women. I’m just saying I’ve never been into that sort of guy. I’m too sincere and romantic.

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  • work out together? thats an activity both sexes like a lot and like seeing their partners do it seems

  • Ladysmen are trash. We always find out and leave too.

    • Its just a clickbait title. "Ladies Man" generates clicks

    • Oh I see..

  • But isn't that manipulative?

    • Any dating advice given women considerba threat and manipulation yet they manipulate all the time themselves with shit tests etc.

    • Touché. I still prefer to take the high road, though.

  • I'm trying to encourage the opposite. Every girl you meet wants commitment and eventually marriage. I definitely do not want marriage, I've been there done that it's over-rated and people just do it because it's a "normal" thing to do. My current one has some jealousy, and it gets frustrating.

  • Okay so to put it lightly my partner that I'm with now has gotten around. Now me and her are together I am the only one she is with. How I did this you ask, well I just made it plain and clear. I told her that I would not be interested in being with her if she was sleeping around with other people, she understood this and now here we are.

  • I think it is necessary to have common feelings

  • Christ. Coming from the "lady's man" and "alpha man" who considered jumping out a woman's window with his panties over his head screaming like a little bitch when someone banged on her apartment door rather than being a REAL man & going to answer for her.

    Only thing exclusive people will get listening to your hogwash - which is all common sense really - is an exclusive date with porn hub or a vibrator.

    • I know that you are bitter and single. Trust me. I can tell you are a single woman. Maybe if you followed the advice in this article you wouldn't be single. The article is mainly to help men. THIS WORKS. This Monday a girl im seeing told me she loved me.🤷🏾‍♂️

    • The article is mainly to help WOMEN.*

    • Just take a look at his questions and mytake history. You can see he's had a hundred gfs and broke up a million times. he's never able to hold a steady long term relationship

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  • I feel like this is only helpful to those who’ve not yet found a genuinely good relationship where it all flowed naturally (not that there’s anything wrong with that). But you’ll just know that when it feels right, things like this are just nonsense really. You don’t have to force anything, everything just feels right naturally.

    • I think thats accurate. It can makeva good relationship stay strong tho

    • Sweet, everything flowing naturally sounds much easier. My Dad mentioned something like that happening with my Mom, but it took him plenty of decades to meet her!

    • @Boppy well I’m glad he did.

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  • Situations where it feels like you are married? You mean only have rare prefunctionary sex, make passive aggressive digs, shit talk them to your friends and open a secret bank account?

  • And here I thought it was being a good slob on the knob kind of girl. 😏

  • How long have you been with your girlfriend/fiancée for?

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