Please read the whole take and not just the title before you reply, if it's too long then just move along to the next post... Thank you 🙂
This Mytake is as a result of a recent question I posted in response to a reply I saw on a post where a male user told a female user if she jogs in leggings he wouldn't be shocked to hear she was the next jogger to be raped and murdered...
And some of the replies, the myths and misinformation people have about rape and sexual assault..
Which not only impacts victims and survivors of abuse, it also impacts what young people believe.... The reply that disturbed me the most was from a17 year old Female that said:
"what they wear depends if they want to get raped its their problem and wear decent clothes if you don't want to get raped"..
Even though the person in this video was in fact also 17 when she was raped wearing joggers and a jacket
We need to better educate people about the truth about sexual violence, how can people even think you're helping people protect themselves from being a victim if you're using myths and not true facts....
All myths and facts used in this take were from the following site:
*Myth: Sexual assault is an act of lust and passion that can’t be controlled.
*Fact: Sexual assault is about power and control and is not motivated by sexual gratification
We need to educate that it's about power and control, and what you wear has less to do with becoming a victim of rape. Perpetrators are more likely to select victims they perceive as more passive or weak
The next two myths and facts further show that a lot of times perpetrators are more likely to go after more weak victims than scantily clad females:
*Myth: People with disabilities are at low risk for sexual assault.
*Fact: People with disabilities are victims of sexual assault twice as much as people without disabilities.
*Myth: If a parent teaches a child to stay away from strangers they won’t get raped.
*Fact: 60% of child sexual abuse cases are perpetrated by someone the child knows outside the family, and 30% are assaulted by family
*Myth: Wearing revealing clothing, behaving provocatively, or drinking a lot means the victim was “asking for it”.
*Fact: The perpetrator selects the victim- the victim’s behavior or clothing choices do not mean that they are consenting to sexual activity
As previously stated, not all victims of sexual violence are scantily clad drunk women walking alone down dark alleys 🙄
*Myth: Sexual assaults most often occur in public or outdoors.
*Fact: 55% of rape or sexual assault victimizations occur at or near the victim’s home, and 12% occur at or near the home of a friend, relative, or acquaintance
This myth I feel is important because some men on here think men's rape is not talked about enough or people care less if a man is raped.
And if you watched the above video, you would see that men's clothing was part of the rape victims display
Myth: Men are not victims of sexual violence.
Fact: 1.5% of all men have been raped and 47% of bisexual men have experienced some form of unwanted sexual contact in their lifetime.
No rape is less important than the next whether it's a man, woman, child, elderly or disabled... Noone should have to go through rape and noone should get blamed by their gender, way of dress, sexual orientation...
The next myth is because people need to know that I'm not saying some sexual violence can't be prevented, it's the way people go about it... Teach real facts, not myths, educate yourself before trying to tell others how best to protect themselves....
* Myth: There is nothing we can do to prevent sexual violence.
*Fact: There are many ways you can help prevent sexual violence including intervening as a bystander to protect someone who may be at risk.
There are a few more myths and facts you can read from the above link, but I'm going to close with this last one because there's so much of this on this site and others
*Myth: A lot of victims lie about being raped or give false reports.
Fact: Only 2-8% of rapes are falsely reported, the same percentage as for other felonies
If you take anything away from this take I hope it's that 1-just because it's the internet, it's not okay to spread false information as fact...2-Be more mindful of who may be reading what you say, it may be a victim of sexual violence, it may be an impressionable young male or female being influenced by falsehoods they see on online forums... And lastly, this take or the topic of sexual violence is not about feminists, it's about a crime that shouldn't happen, but it does, so people not only need to know how to protect themselves, they need REAL truth..... Don't use gender divide or issues with feminists to blame or shame any victims of sexual violence whether it be a boy/ Man, girl/woman, elderly, disabled or Gay/lesbian/bi-sexual/transgender...
Nobody asks for or deserves sexual violence.....
As always, thanks for reading 💜