The "Myths And Facts" About Sexual Violence

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Please read the whole take and not just the title before you reply, if it's too long then just move along to the next post... Thank you 🙂

This Mytake is as a result of a recent question I posted in response to a reply I saw on a post where a male user told a female user if she jogs in leggings he wouldn't be shocked to hear she was the next jogger to be raped and murdered...

Why Do People Still Insist On Blaming Rape On The Way A Woman Dresses?

And some of the replies, the myths and misinformation people have about rape and sexual assault..

Which not only impacts victims and survivors of abuse, it also impacts what young people believe.... The reply that disturbed me the most was from a17 year old Female that said:

"what they wear depends if they want to get raped its their problem and wear decent clothes if you don't want to get raped"..

Even though the person in this video was in fact also 17 when she was raped wearing joggers and a jacket

We need to better educate people about the truth about sexual violence, how can people even think you're helping people protect themselves from being a victim if you're using myths and not true facts....

All myths and facts used in this take were from the following site:

https://www.ourresilience.org/what-you-need-to-know/myths-and-facts/

*Myth: Sexual assault is an act of lust and passion that can’t be controlled.
*Fact: Sexual assault is about power and control and is not motivated by sexual gratification

We need to educate that it's about power and control, and what you wear has less to do with becoming a victim of rape. Perpetrators are more likely to select victims they perceive as more passive or weak

The next two myths and facts further show that a lot of times perpetrators are more likely to go after more weak victims than scantily clad females:

*Myth: People with disabilities are at low risk for sexual assault.
*Fact: People with disabilities are victims of sexual assault twice as much as people without disabilities.

*Myth: If a parent teaches a child to stay away from strangers they won’t get raped.
*Fact: 60% of child sexual abuse cases are perpetrated by someone the child knows outside the family, and 30% are assaulted by family

*Myth: Wearing revealing clothing, behaving provocatively, or drinking a lot means the victim was “asking for it”.
*Fact: The perpetrator selects the victim- the victim’s behavior or clothing choices do not mean that they are consenting to sexual activity

As previously stated, not all victims of sexual violence are scantily clad drunk women walking alone down dark alleys 🙄

*Myth: Sexual assaults most often occur in public or outdoors.
*Fact: 55% of rape or sexual assault victimizations occur at or near the victim’s home, and 12% occur at or near the home of a friend, relative, or acquaintance

This myth I feel is important because some men on here think men's rape is not talked about enough or people care less if a man is raped.

And if you watched the above video, you would see that men's clothing was part of the rape victims display

Myth: Men are not victims of sexual violence.
Fact: 1.5% of all men have been raped and 47% of bisexual men have experienced some form of unwanted sexual contact in their lifetime.

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No rape is less important than the next whether it's a man, woman, child, elderly or disabled... Noone should have to go through rape and noone should get blamed by their gender, way of dress, sexual orientation...

The next myth is because people need to know that I'm not saying some sexual violence can't be prevented, it's the way people go about it... Teach real facts, not myths, educate yourself before trying to tell others how best to protect themselves....

* Myth: There is nothing we can do to prevent sexual violence.
*Fact: There are many ways you can help prevent sexual violence including intervening as a bystander to protect someone who may be at risk.

There are a few more myths and facts you can read from the above link, but I'm going to close with this last one because there's so much of this on this site and others

*Myth: A lot of victims lie about being raped or give false reports.
Fact: Only 2-8% of rapes are falsely reported, the same percentage as for other felonies

If you take anything away from this take I hope it's that 1-just because it's the internet, it's not okay to spread false information as fact...2-Be more mindful of who may be reading what you say, it may be a victim of sexual violence, it may be an impressionable young male or female being influenced by falsehoods they see on online forums... And lastly, this take or the topic of sexual violence is not about feminists, it's about a crime that shouldn't happen, but it does, so people not only need to know how to protect themselves, they need REAL truth..... Don't use gender divide or issues with feminists to blame or shame any victims of sexual violence whether it be a boy/ Man, girl/woman, elderly, disabled or Gay/lesbian/bi-sexual/transgender...

Nobody asks for or deserves sexual violence.....

As always, thanks for reading 💜

"Brainsbeforebeauty"😘

[Laciandmaci]

When I got abducted and raped, I had shorts on (that covered my butt and was not tight), I had a rainbow ombre tank top, that showed 0 cleavage, and black sandals. No makeup and hair just brushed not styled! I got told I caused it, and I was just taking a simple walk. (To lose weight as I was a bit chubby).

[AD240pCharlie]

"A lot of victims lie about being raped."
No... Victims can't lie about having been raped, because if they weren't, then they wouldn't be a "victim".
So no need to even bring up the stats, the statement disproves itself.
But in all seriousness, considering the nature of rape as a crime and the fact that the absolute majority of all reported cases end up in a stalemate since it's very difficult to prove one way or the other, it's practically impossible to know the exact number. How many of the unsolved cases were false accusations and how many were valid? The actual number, for all we know, could be all the way down at 0,5 % or it could be as high as 20 %.
The problem arises from the fact that the public feels the need to play judge. Whenever a new case is reported, half of the population will believe it without question and go after the accused with pitchforks, and the other half will defend the accused to every extent and automatically assume that the accuser is lying. Just leave it to the court. You don't know the story, you are not involved, you don't have all the facts, so it's not up to you to decide the validity of a claim like that.

[Ewgies01]

Rape is always the fault of the rapist. Never the victim. We’ve come a long way since the 1970s. Recently the concept of consent has really come to light. A woman might freeze if a man tries to have sex with her and she doesn’t want it. That’s why getting consent is so important. And if a woman says no she means no and that has to be respected. All kids of unwanted sexual behaviors cause serious trauma to victims.

[SlightlyEccentric]

You can't say that women lying about rape is a myth then follow it up with up to 8% actually do. I know it must be hard for women to believe but destroying a guys whole life over a lie is just as bad as a woman getting her life destroyed because of rape.

I had a friend once who had his whole life destroyed because he rejected a woman's advances. She accused him of rape and without any evidence, lost his job, his social life and most of his friends and even his family turned on him, taking her side.

When it was found out she lied about the whole thing, he didn't get his job back, all the friends and family that turned their back on him were all apologetic but he wasn't having any of it any of it.

Was she ever punished for lying? No. Because apparently if you're a woman you have the privilege to not face consequences for wasting the time of law enforcement and destroying an innocent mans life. So whenever I hear these feminists telling men to "check their privilege", all I can do is laugh because I know how hypocritical and full of shit they all are.

[Jayla2000]

This is a great mytake, but remember some people could care less if you give really clear thought out educated points.
They minds are made up and they will never see things any differently

[bulletbob555]

Its a complex dynamic for sure. I don't believe in she asked for it. Stranger danger is not the only thing to avoid you are right most people know their rapists as aquaintence or sadly family members. Its about power. They can't get it like most so they take it.

[DragonXR]

"Myth: Sexual assault is an act of lust and passion that can’t be controlled.
*Fact: Sexual assault is about power and control and is not motivated by sexual gratification"

How is this known tho? I'm genuinely asking because I find this hard to believe.

[jazzygirl0826]

I'm glad you wrote this! I was statutorily raped as a teenager, and I'm glad people are trying to make others more aware of sexual assault. When one is sexually assaulted, it's a hard thing to get over. Well, it's not really getting over so much as not having that be the main and biggest thought on one's mind. It took me years to move past what happened to me, and some people like to tell me it was all my fault that I was assaulted. The big takeaway from this should be that it can happen to anyone (wearing anything in any location.)

[JosyJosy]

You debunked quite a few, I'm happy you took the time to write this all down. It's definitely interesting and needs to be addressed.

[AllThatSweetJazz]

There is no prevalent problem of people thinking revealing clothes cause rape. It's just a myth feminists like to push to feign relevance.

It's not 2-8%. This is more feminist junk.

This is feminism circa 2015.
Slam out tid bids of "info" that require excessive effort to unpack. Declare confidently that they are facts. Gloss over the sources and never back down. Keep talking and stay on the attack so they can't ask questions and so that others can't hear anything else. Lace in accusations to keep them scared. Continue until they are exhausted and give up.
Feels almost nostalgic.

[Valnac]

I try to feel what it would be to be a rapist, and I can’t.
How could any person get in that frame of mind.
I taught myself at an early age to pay attention to what girls do, say, and think.
I learned how to seduce. The quickest way to get in a girls pantie is through her head.

[MrCreep]

I told you anything clothing, behaviour, texting, talking can be used to get away with rape they don't care about women being raped most never have any kind of punishment at all wake up please

[Andres77]

Well said.
My perspective is that if the penalty is harsh enough it will inhibit some of the crime taking place. There will always be some that don't care about the consequences though.

While I agree with all of this I'd also like to see those who falsely accuse rape, that when found out they pay the same price as the falsely accused. DNA evidence has slowly being used to review old cases and there are guys rotting away in n prison for crimes they didn't commit. Their whole lives stolen as well.

Just to reiterate, I agree with everything you posted AND I'd like to see false accusers pay just as high a price.

[HiveBee]

I dont think that they mean to blame the victim. I think that they have a certain set of conservative beliefs.

And to confirm in their minds the validity of said conservative beliefs, they point to the clothing a victim was wearing, and say "ha! See? Revealing clothing is morally wrong, and here are the results of wearing said clothing."

The same goes with gays and trans people. Those with conservative beliefs need to confirm their beliefs by denying facts and clinging to what they believe.

They think revealing clothing and LGBT people are a sign if a degrading society. And will twist everything in reality to fit that belief.

They aren't even victim shaming. It goes deeper than that. I'm sure they feel bad for the victim. But if you dont see where they are coming from than you can't properly understand why they say what they say.

[loveslongnails]

Great My Take. Always good to bust the Myths.
This is what I meant in a different question you asked recently, when I mentioned "feeding the monkeys" :
" a male user told a female user if she jogs in leggings he wouldn't be shocked to hear she was the next jogger to be raped and murdered..."
Whenever I respond to shit like that, it feels like I'm in front of the monkey cage at the zoo and feeding the monkeys, who in turn show their appreciation by masturbating. Guys spewing crap like his answer out of their mouths (penis) amounts to the same thing, don't you think?

[msc545]

I'm sorry to say this, but this is a usual rape propaganda put out by feminists to make it seem like things are a lot worse than they actually are. Things are bad enough as they are without feminists throwing their two cents worth in. Just two give you a little insight regarding the rape control thing versus sexual portion of this, there was a town in the eastern part of the United States that accidentally voted in a way that made prostitution legal. They didn't really mean to do that but when they did do that change things a lot for a short time. the number of reported forcible rapes as compared to the prior year went down about 75% and The Business of prostitutes who are now legal went way up. In other words if you make prostitution available and you make it legal the chances of people getting raped are a lot lower. This suggests that rape really has a lot to do with unmet sexual needs particularly among men. I realize this contradicts the feminists but that's the way it is based on this data. One could eliminate a lot of rapes simply by legalizing prostitution but of course feminists oppose this.

[TonyMetal___86]

Nice take miss brains muffins and it's true except i still believe that a woman wearing slutty clothes will boost this behavior, even if it's not rape, it will just boost the negativity...

I have no respect for women whi wears sh*tty slutty outfita and in my eyes they are just a bunch of cheap sexual objects...

I'm speaking from experience and i know how women thinks, the majority of them does something and when they are faced with the truth, they just deny it and make false claims!

I'm sure that you know these facts too miss brains muffins...

[LEADFOOTboi]

ty for putting this on the table for idiots to argue about...

[TheAfrikan]

Thanks for the knowledge and the take is a must read.

[Lliam]

Good MyTake, bbb. I agree.

[monavics]

The problem with this logic is that it is never applied fairly or even equally in every case.

For example... if a guy is hot enough, or famous, or rich enough... and he grabs a girl's ass and tells her to come to his hotel room, where he gets her drunk and fucks her... its generally acceptable to the girl, and she is more likely to be hoping to see him again.

If the same thing happens but she thinks he is undesirable, and nothing else changes about the situation, she is way more likely to accuse him of being a creep.

For example.. if Christian Gray in 50 Shades of Gray was a poor black guy from the streets... it would be a criminal minds episode instead of a best selling book and movie.

[monkeynutts]

There are potential false rape claims.
and I don’t necessarily agree with you about all your statistics, for one reason you are talking to a global community, the culture of which are very different. Some of the places that people live are very dangerous. So not telling a woman to walk around outside after dark is a very useful piece of advice. Personally I don’t think you are educated well enough to try and tell others what to believe or not to believe about such a contentious subject. Rape is terrible that’s all you need to be telling others. And maybe listening and not judging people who tell you their stories, that’s probably good advice too.

[Floppy2112]

That was depressing

[COMMODOREII]

Amen sister!! 😎👍

[jasco]

I agree with everything said

[Jjpayne]

Well said! Thank you for posting!

[Anonymous]

I just can't believe a 17 year old girl said that. I am sure she also think that reason why babies get raped is cause their mom dressed their baby in just a slutty diaper. I can understand if this comes from a guy🤦‍♀️
This was a really nice take. Valid points. Although i don't think many people here would take this into account cause most here are catfishes or pervs