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Confessions of a Ladies Man- The Hurt of Women Using Men for Sex

Apope16
Confessions of a Ladies Man- The Hurt of Women Using Men for Sex

A ladies man has feelings too. Even if he's only looking to shag his loins, he is capable of falling in love. Even a ladies man wants to settle down with true love.

In my case I call myself a ladies man in the sense that I have many associations with women. Most sexual. Some romantic. Many platonic. But a ladies man simply means you can attract women in a variety of respects. It doesn't mean you are a player or fuckboy. Although some are.

I was once a dorky shy kid stuck in friendzone. Women would tell me all their secrets but never had sex with me. Then i grew muscles, got confident, become direct about sex. I've now lost most of my female friendships and I am not only seen as dating material.

I've now seen that middle ground is tough. I can't be a nice guy to date. Either im friendzoned or a woman sees me as a badboy and rips my clothes off on date one.

These days I have an 8inch dick and biceps and 6 pack abs. Im in a local rock band. Women just fuck me for awhile to say they did it. Then move on. Something I've never done. But its just assumed that is who I am.

Just because a hot guy dates you doesn't mean we are just for sex. Just because we have a lot of girls to fuck with doesn't mean we won't choose you.

I guess the point here is that men get a bad wrap. We are the ones accused of just wanting sex. The truth is that physically attractive men are used and washed up by women who play mind games and toy with hearts. Ladies CREATE bad boys. Men are treated like a piece of meet to brag to their girlfriends about on foreign trips or during the hot girl summer. Either you are a dork placed in friendzone or you are a hottie a girl wants to bang and move on.

The world is shallow. Women are always looking for the next best hottie and will dump you anytime rather than working on a relationship.

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  • BeenThereLovedIt
    A problem I see is that most women don't know what they want. They THINK they do, but when you list it out, it's a list of contradictions-

    They want a man who is a MAN, ripped, strong, decisive.

    BUT contemplative, sensitive, can show emotions and cry, family man

    BUT isn't a sissy or has moods,

    BUT doesn't take shit from nobody, bad boy

    BUT needs to be decent, responsible, successful, well-liked, attractice

    BUT not well liked by other women

    BUT also is adventurous, throws caution to the wind, exciting..

    BUT will stay home and couch sit because she never wants to do anything

    Etc...
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    • Ellie-V

      How is that any different from the concept men have of “lady in the streets, freak in the sheets” 😂 the list you made isn’t wrong. But is any of that hard? In a nutshell, just be versatile. You don’t have to be a complete asshole to handle business. Men and women alike just tend to gravitate to extremes.

    • @Ellie-V I'm not sure I can explain but it doesn't seem to be as contradictory. Sure, the being a lady in public and freaky in the bedroom might be a contradiction, but it's a specific public stance vs. a specific private one, which feels appropriate in terms of behaviors and timing. There's no guesswork as to when it's appropriate to express or flaunt those specific behaviors, so it's easy math.

      The issue with what is expected of men doesn't seem to draw any of the same borders - we can't seem to figure out when it's appropriate to be one thing or the other. It's like we're expected to read minds and know exactly how we are expected to act and when, but there's no math.. it feels like guesswork most of the time. As you can tell from my original post, it's extremely frustrating at times.

    • Ellie-V

      Ok…I understand the frustration. So why not come up with tangible solutions? Understanding women and learning how to interact with them in a way that benefits everyone is vital. It true that sometimes women don’t know what they want. It’s also true that women’s desires are multifaceted. The list above is not hard, and it’s not compromising to most people’s morals. It’s not as difficult as men make it to be. But figuring out when and where is the appropriate time to act on something can be resolved with clear communication and boundaries, from lady to lady respectfully. You can’t generalize people out of confusion because even though many women want a number of intrinsic qualities…how they manifest are going to be completely different in each relationship. Men don’t have much of an interest in talking to actual women for the purpose of learning. You can’t tailor make the image and mindset of a woman assuming they all have the same measurements. No. There’s always a range. Educating yourself on said range will alleviate most of your problems. But you have to let go of that immature “girls are stupid” four year old way of thinking. Women need to do the same. Trust me I don’t think it’s one sided.

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  • Tomisalami7
    for a ladies man u sure r bitchn about how the world works. Pretty and rich folk go hand in hand meanwhile the rest of us are building the perfect world for them to inhabit whilst we peons are wiped out
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  • katyya_lov25
    No you made that decision because instead of healing from your hurts/trauma you decided to let all that ugly build inside of you which made you bitter and immature. Fuck boys, ladies man whatever they’re called these days are grown boys with a two year old mind that can’t handle a real, good woman because it’s all them, and their selfish needs. These are broken individuals who shouldn’t be in a relationship until you deal with your inner ugly self like a real man. Get therapy, get help.
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  • BlackBeauty90
    @Apope16 will you do everyone on GAG a favour & get lost? Find a hole & disappear.

    Okay. You date sluts, whores, prostitutes, women with no self-respect, women who are desperate & pathetic. Basically every sort of women no decent man wants and then lump these deadbeats with women in general.

    And I bet you seriously wonder why no decent woman would have a thing to do with you.
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  • RedFever
    Do you actually think that someone who is "only looking to shag his loins" is the type of man that a woman with even just half a brain would ever want? If you really want to find "true love", then may I suggest you not act like such a pig?
  • NathanDavis
    You're the one dumping yourself, as the certified piece of shit that you really can be,

    so quit the bullshit for once...
  • Poppykate
    You need to focus on building a relationship with women that have common interests. Don’t have sex until you have formed a connection. There are ways to keep it hot without sex.
  • Ellie-V
    This has got to be satire 😂😂😂
    This is giving me *If mark twain was an incel in 2021*
  • hi_it_is_me123
    Sorry but sometimes i have to laugh when i read your takes.
    I agree with the title of take. Yes men also can be used for sex and men also have feelings.
  • Nazgol
    I'm sure you can't generalize all women. You just experienced a few bad apples. There are women who actually fall in love with the one they have sex with and want him for the rest of their life. So it's not just a hit & go
  • bamesjond0069
    This is why you shouldn't date sluts bro. Sluts do this. Some 19 year old who had one serious boyfriend won't do this to you... just dont do it to her either. Win win.
  • allison368
    Changing the subject; guys with breasts like his should have to cover them just like a girl.
  • Starwitch23
    Really? No one makes anyone anything. It's a decision. And to be honest playboys are immature.
  • Mac-One
    If that was a woman with breasts the size of his, it would be considered as inappropriate on GaG. Why the difference?
  • michael1469
    Story of my life... they always stole my sperms. Oh the humanity!!!
  • ToastyOats
    Lame!
  • malwins
    Is this u in a pic?
  • Anonymous
    Two questions come to mind.

    What are you looking for?

    Harsh but not mean spirited. Are these women leaving or friend zoning as you haven't figured out their body and their needs to actually satisfy/please them, not just yourself? Just because you have the equipment doesn't mean you know how to use it.
  • Anonymous
    What does it take to become an editor. LMAO
  • Anonymous
    Everytime this guy calls himself a “ladies’ man” ... I swear he’s just trolling people.
    • No he believes it himself , he really thinks he is a player nut obviously still a virgin

    • Anonymous

      @friendzoned4life Right?

  • Anonymous
    Is it crack? Is crack what you smoke?
  • Anonymous
    You sound ridiculous.
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