Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I can't be bothered to put any real presentation into this. I'll throw you a bone and find a couple pictures but honestly I'm just here to vomit my brain on a tiny screen. Let's go.
" Let's start a relationship before rushing into sex."
^^ This dumbass line right here.
As if a relationship ISN'T a really big step compared to sex.. which it is.. a bigger step. Who the fuck is that line supposed to convince?
Every good and healthy relationship that I know about started from a moment of intense lust that established a deep sense of compatibility.
The warning against "rushing" into sex implies that compatibility is something you can develop over a period of time. Like it's something you can help.
Let me put it this way. If a lobster and a crab somehow decide they're a pair, it doesn't matter how long they tell themselves that. They're still sexually incompatible. The lobster won't magically become a crab over time, nor will the crap magically become a lobster.
That's what a lot of people look like they're trying to make happen, from my perspective. It's sad and it's stupid.. and not a surprise whatsoever when the relationship devolves into nonsense because they tried to pretend that their compatibility was ever really there. It was faked.
I'm not gonna pretend I don't blame women more for this than I do men. Like, seriously. I've had women say shit like:
"There are men I would sleep with without a relationship, and there are men I would eventually sleep with over the course of a relationship."
This just.. it makes me genuinely angry. If you aren't immediately attracted to the guy, don't make false promises that you eventually will be.
God. This is such a shitty, manipulative move to me. I can't believe it's normalized.
And guys, for the love of fuck, STOP FALLING FOR IT!! Like, HELLO?? You've been the perfect boyfriend for months and months now.. she's finally ready to have sex with you, and you think she actually wants it? Like an idiot??
NO!! The reason she's finally "ready" for you is because she's finally able to bring herself to do something "for you" (air quote explanation in a moment) because she wants you to stay. She might say she really wants you. Fuck, she might actually think she really wants you. Doesn't matter!. If she actually did, she wouldn't have almost vomited in her mouth whenever you showed sensual interest in her for so long into the relationship.
Am I saying that women should put out immediately if they really like the guy? I wouldn't blame you for thinking I am saying that, given my wording up to this point. It's more about how she responds to your shows of desire. That's why I specified the vomited into mouth thing. If she can't even flirt in that way with you because she's so disgusted at the thought of your bodies entwining.. GTFO!
A woman can, in fact, respond well to sensual flirtation but ultimately turn you down. If that's how it goes, that's not a bad thing. It means you're perfectly on track and you have genuine compatibility, even if literal sex didn't happen. So I don't want anyone thinking that I'm saying a woman needs to show her desire by having sex right away. I'm not.
"But Derek, you supreme specimen of sexy Adonis-born perfection among men!!"
I hear you cry. Also thank you. 😘
"You said you'd explain those air quotes that you so caressingly put around those words that make me wanna grab you, drop to my knees and rub m-"
Okay I'll stop. Indeed I did.
Fellas, listen and really ask yourself; do you really want a woman who sees sex as something she gives you because she thinks it'll result in you staying and her developing the attraction to you she wants to have but doesn't and never will?
A lot of you fucks will ask yourselves this and answer with no. But what I actually see is different.
Womenfolk. Do you really want a man, with whom you make yourself wait to finally have sex in the hopes that attraction to him will just, as the immortal line goes..
"SPRING OUT OF HOLES IN THE GROUND!!"
A lot of YOU fucks will say that you don't. But, again, that's not what my gorgeous-as-all-fuck eyes are seeing.
This relationship ideal is retarded. Simply retarded. It benefits nobody, men specifically.
Women aren't getting the true happy ending they really want because they think this shit needs to be done a certain way to avoid looking like a "slut" or something stupid like that.
Men get completely screwed over here. They do nothing but give and give until the woman they're with finally pretends to want the dicc. They have a few nights of utterly lame sex (see first picture), get married and then wonder why their woman suddenly no longer goes anywhere near the dicc.
Almost like she never wanted to in the first place.. merely "decided" she did.
I get a lot of shit for telling people that they should know better than to try to create chemistry that isn't there. They preach, bitch, cry and whine that
Oh! It can be developed!
Then I go and see what their relationship is like and it's a complete mess.
This systemization of relationships, both committed and otherwise.. has made them a complete mess.
This culture of mind games and "seduction strategies" and "dating guides" has made them a complete mess.
If you're compatible, let yourselves be compatible. If you're not, save your energy for the people you DO resonate with.
Leave the "10 Tips" articles behind. Leave "Dating Coaches" behind and WOMEN, FOR THE LOVE OF FUCK, leave "my momma always said" shitty advice behind.
Be you. Follow your instincts. They won't lie to you.
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