Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
So this Take arrives after having a conversation with some of my buddies this afternoon, and thought I should share it. The message is not unheard of, and you actually can find quite a lot about it on YouTube if you really care to, but I feel like bringing in some more to the GaG male community. So I’ll just cut to the chase here.
One of the things guys don’t understand and what they really need to is that you do not always have to say yes just because it is available, it is being offered to you, or because she’s good-looking and is showing interest in you. You can and you do have the ability to say no when you want to.
On the one hand I do understand that it can be difficult for most men to realize this because our culture teaches men that they “don’t have as many options” as women and that men can’t get sex as regularly as women, so it causes them to feel like they need to take what they can when it comes along, especially if it’s free. Women also play an enormous part in this mental conditioning and manipulation even though they claim they don’t: first they will brag about how they can get laid easier than guys whenever they want - and some even gladly tell us their stories of how it happens - but then, they will get upset if guys are actually doing the same thing, or get upset that a guy is so focused on trying to do it, yet it’s okay if she does it. If you want to understand more of what I mean, you can read about it in my old Take How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men . So when guys have all this toxic slime being fed to them with all these messages in our culture, it does make them feel like they should go for any opportunity at a fuck that presents itself. And you don’t have to.
The blood rush
I also understand that it can be very difficult when sex is offered to you as a man because all kinds of hormones and sensations go pulsing through your blood, your brain, and your pelvis when a female has actually consented to wanting to sleep with you, or is the one asking if you want to go back to her place. Literally! When that kind of thing is a big time green light for a guy, it can be very difficult and very crippling to want to turn that down. But guess what: you still can.
And I do understand how difficult that can be for the guys who are virgins. When an open opportunity for sex has finally come along for them, they want to take it and be glad to say they’re not a virgin anymore. That kind of thought is always desirable, I get that. But it’s not always noble to say yes to it either. Especially if it follows with you getting a disease, getting fired, or getting met by her boyfriend or husband that she may or may not have told you about.
Women get turned on by guys who aren't trying
My point with this message is that although a fuck can be great with a girl who is into you and the opportunity is great - and believe me I’ve done it, it doesn’t always have to happen, and shouldn’t. Instant sex can get you into trouble, or give a woman leverage over you, and many often will use it that way and have done it for ages.
In truth, men should not be easily saying yes to offered sex. They should be attracting it. And how do you do that? By not being eager. Women are oddly (and sometimes foolishly) attracted to men pushing them away. They are actually more turned on by men who aren’t that quick to fuck them. It makes them start wondering, “Wowwww, so he must want something or someone else more. What does he want more??????????” You become mysterious!
But it also really fucks with their psychology. Because women of today want all the power and control in being able to attract and choose a man. And they want this because they know that an enormous percentage of the modern male population - especially in their 20s - are beta simps who bow down and worship the prettiest things they see. They’re all the goofy pathetic dudes you see giving the same old goofy comments on Instagram to some girl’s picture - “You’re so beautiful (heart eyes)” blah blah blah.
Women of today know that men try hard to win them. They sit with them at lunch time trying to appeal to her. They cling to her by walking with her around the workplace or on campus, as if they’re terrified she’ll get another dude’s attention. And when they get her number they’re constantly texting her. Not realizing that all this actually makes the women bored. But also is how they end up having the control. So many women get used to this, and have become drunk off of it. And expect it. It means that any time they’re ready to have extra money or a quick fuck, there’s a guy there willing to give it.
You give women all the power
And this is why so many women of today walk around acting snobby and pretending that they don’t want guys to talk to them, when they are actually hoping you will so they can brush you off, which builds up their ego. They actually want you to keep trying, and they want to be able to brag to their girlfriends and everyone else about all the guys they’re not interested in but who are interested in them.
Having said all this, you need to be the guy who doesn’t regard them and doesn’t want to fuck them, even if they are game. But watch out: some will want you for it, but you shouldn’t want any woman back who is like that at all. They’re simpletons. Don’t let them have control. Others will actually hate you for not glorifying them. I know this is the case for me, and I love that they hate me for not bowing down. In truth, women hate it when you as a man can actually see that you will not give them attention and glorify them on a pedestal like other simps do, because you're not giving in to their expectations, and because you can see their bullshit. If a man can read women very well and has learned from his experiences, that frightens them, because it means there's no trick from them that you can't figure out. You're smart. You're intelligent. And you're also strong enough not to be bent by manipulative behaviors.
Most guys don’t realize it, but women who really do go out and get laid easy actually see those guys as bitches. It wasn’t too hard to nail him and get the one and done. So they see you as weak, and move on to the next. This is how you have a lot of women who hook up and then ghost guys when the guys start catching feelings, not seeing how as women they're just as worthless to live a life of getting sex like that.
Regardless, you can still do better by not being one of those guys. Do things the traditional way: meet women, form concrete connections, then friendships, and if it’s really going well then you can spear her through the hips. Otherwise, it actually is not necessary to just jump at any opportunity to sleep with a woman simply because it’s available. And you don't have to let your friends teach you to do it either.
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