Our society, lacking in principles, values and purpose, led to an epidemic of simps, a short for simpleton for those unfamiliar.
A simp is a simpleton who's moral and value philosophy boils down to "simple as" pursuing validation from another or a group of others which one is not inserted in, as in an one way street relationship, frequently even parasocial, as in, like a fan to a celebrity believing to actually having a personal relationship with the celebrity.
Basically it's a sucker up to someone who cares not a little bit about them, which is in the definition when it's directed at groups.
With the preface done, let's go to the main points with the note that this can also be expanded to women, though it's aimed mostly at men who do get laid quite a lot...
1. You aren't Chasing Pussy, You are Chasing Validation.
What you want is to feel like a human being worth living and you are offshoring that to female validation, you have been fed the lie that you are worthless unless it's perceivable that women want to sleep with you, and the lie that rejecting or frustrating women with your own standards makes you less of a man, or even subhuman.
If your standards are too restrictive, the only thing hurt is your opportunities, but it only hurts your opportunities if the opportunities being rejected are worth something tangible.
You must get in and out feeling better, validated and valuing the other, if that's not achieved then you just wasted time.
As the saying goes "time wasted enjoying yourself is not wasted at all", but if neither of you seem to be enjoying anything, if you aren't enjoying anything then it's a waste.
2: Stop Chasing Women Playing "Hard to Get".
The validation they are seeking comes from the risk and self devaluation, which goes directly against what you want.
It's not a sacrifice for finally getting what you want, it's a trial run for what you are going to get if you get anything.
Don't be fooled, there's no way to "make them want you", either they already do and are shooting themselves in the foot (which is the most likely, I haven't seen people give the time of their day otherwise) or it's just an extension of their own narcissism and insecurity, if not both.
Also, whether they want you or not is irrelevant, all that implies is their want.
Prisons are filled with rapists being simped by thirsty ladies because of their track record, which goes to show that one can't blindly stake their self perception unto the opinion of others.
Therefore, their rejection as well as their acceptance don't mean much by themselves, and most of the cases it's an issue of compatibility/personal taste and not of human worth.
3: Everyone is in Someone's Spank Bank, Which Means that "At Least I Had Sex" is a Worthless Cope.
You don't find her nice, you don't find her attractive, the sex sucks because you don't value her and she doesn't value you. (though I've been surprised of how often I've heard from women that the "suck" was pure projected phantasy.)
So stop believing you managed something, all you did was debase yourself and stop doing it.
And they might chase you back, doesn't prevent it from being still a world of suck if you give away.
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