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I think I should just give up on sex and relationships.

I think I should just give up on sex and relationships.

I’ve never felt like women where attracted to me, I have no game, ever since puberty I’ve just regretted the fact that I even have sexual desire, and Im just done with it.

I really wanna find a good anaphrodisiac so I can just stop thinking about sex all together. I've even considered getting castrated just to get sex off my mind permanently.

Most people have had more sex in one night than I’ve had in my whole life, and the handful of times I had sex I didn’t even climax so whats the point. Having a desire for sex is just mental torture for me.

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Most Helpful Girls

  • It may be a worn-out cliche, but beauty really is to some extent in the eye of the beholder. Now, unless you're horribly deformed, you will find a woman who is attracted to you, provided you ditch the very negative attitude you have. It doesn't matter that you "have no game", because the key (or at least one of them anyway) to finding a genuine partner who will appreciate you for who you are, is to not have a "game" in the first place.
    You're 24 years of age, which is way too soon to give up on romance. Don't become a bitter, and possibly dangerous, incel. Don't "Go MGTOW" either.

  • I swear if I end up with someone I don't like... wait first I won't be with them in the first place but if that happened I'm leaving it's worse when you waste your life with someone you don't want to be with.

    • You've just said it yourself. If you don't like them, you won't date them. You won't get into a relationship with them. You certainly won't marry them. So you won't be in a position where you HAVE to leave!

Most Helpful Guys

  • sometimes i wonder why evolution or nature gave incels a sex drive or made them desire, be attracted to women, i guess i just hate living in a world where we have to upgrade or improve ourselves in order to attract the opposite sex, rather than as soon as we start having sexual urges, puberty starts, we just instinctively attract the opposite sex without having to have certain knowledge and behaviors

    • Yeah, it also sucks to hear that according to the Bible or Christianity, there is no more sex in Heaven or the afterlife. It's like the desire for God is the ultimate anaphrodisiac.

  • Jesus Christ, I'm 24 and have NEVER had sex and I'm happier than you are.
    Go make friends, cultivate interests, find hobbies, focus on career and character development, work out.
    Go work on you. If you're that obsessed with sex to the point that you don't function simply because you can't get any than the problem is not women or sex. It's you.

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  • Or you could actively decide to up your game and seek women out. You are nor unattractive.

    • Honestly this ^^ whenever someone says they're ugly or unattractive i take it with a grain of salt. I think most people can BE attractive, you usually just have to work for your appearance like everyone else...

    • He is actually good looking. I think he would benefit from some more confidence and practice with ladies.

    • I think he'd benefit more from seeking out his life purpose. The rest comes naturally.

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  • Hey man, sorry you feel that way. Shit gets easier though, good things come for you when you're not actively searching for them.

    • i don't like that advice, I suppose its the same kinda bs with women too , if a women is looking for men, she's thought to be with a guy or have guys.. but the reason i don't like that advice.. honestly weirdest thing happened to me and I am not looking for anyone right now.. because im building a business especially someone who would make me unhappy. Honest To God, my sister posted an ad about me being single. 30 women.. came, You said Man seeking women... I've had less luck on match.. lol its just too bad i wasn't actually wanting a girlfriend at the time.. like the first time been single for awhile. Lots of them weren't my type.. but i would honestly be with some of them.. especially some who were attractive.. they were like 31.. tho or 28 . and thats fine.. but I am not financially suitable. someone 22 hit me up, without asking my sister. I accepted, because i thought whats the use in being single if.. i can be with someone and to be honest.. that was a mistake. If your really want a relationship.. I don't think its Give up on looking.. I think its look, but briefly works.. best. least for me it has.

  • What about a working girl?

    • maybe he wants a girl with standards and can give affection. he said sex AND relationships and not all of us are into cucking

    • @t-8900 Well, he paints a pretty bleak picture of his prospects. But it *would* solve that part of the problem. Of course, the final call is up to him.

    • i mean if he just wanted casual sex. but you can have raging hormones and want sex but still REALLY want that bonding experience and love aspect. Thats how I am. I really want the love and affection before any sex. But ofc I want sex, I'm a guy. I've noticed consistently I am "ready" for that sort of engagement after 5-7 weeks of regularly talking with a girl. However I won't touch a girl who isn't going to be strictly for me if you get my meaning. I dont want her having other romantic interests or side pieces. I'm doing my best to let down my walls for you, I'm treating you to dinners, I'm going the extra mile, kindly dont go F'n behind my back. A lot of girls can't keep to this, thus for me personally they are not wife material. I understand that we are all "sexually liberated" but I feel many have just become slaves to their desires and lose a piece of their humanity in the process. Hence why I am single a lot more than in a relationship.

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  • Why don’t you work on yourself before trying. I don’t know what you look like but your lack of confidence is kind of a turn off. Just do something that makes you feel good about yourself.

  • yeah

  • don't ask what do women like, ask what would you like if you were a women, being a guy who presumes he has no options.. imagine would your first pick be a women who presumes to have no options.. or would you think she was crazy... I mean if your into that.. I don't know why you aren't looking for the women who actually Need love right now and no one wants to date them.. if your not into that.. then I tell you to HOLD yourself to the same fucking standard. you want someone attractive, attractive people like happy people (unless their abused attractive people) and so find something other than sex that makes you happy. a hobby or an interest. Each time you fail , like in a video game and women are not video games.. I'm just making a point.. maybe tweek your standards, strategy or do the hardest thing people can do.. Change yourself. Not like fake change. genuinly change. on the inside , and then change your surroundings and , if you had a bad sexual experience.. that kinda falls on yourself... some dudes are good at being quick. Some dudes need proof of some kind of feelings first. I think your trying to be a quick dude.. and your the feelings dude... that will never work , because the other person has to care about you first for you to keep it up.

    • this is where it helps to be spiritual , because if this guy is an atheist , he's on the path to nihilism.

  • It is well documented that thanks to the hook-up apps and the large number of people not expecting monogamy, dating is difficult for men in their 20s. Use these years to focus on yourself and excelling in business or a trade. Keep learning, stay in shape, avoid addictions. Stay away from video games and porn because they can mess men up. If you follow this path you will easily get interest from women by the time you are 30 (or sooner).

    • um, why are all my highschool friends married

    • @Pixel343 It's not about whether they are married, it's about whether they are happy...

    • @Pixel343 All of them? That is unusual.

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  • I was at that same point in my life. I was sick of dating and all the mind games and bullshit. I was going to give it all up. Ironically I met my future wife the next day.
    Just work on yourself to become the best version of your self that you can be and try to meet as many new people as you can. I know it is all a big crapshoot but you have to play to win.

    • sounds like the makings of an excellent mytake, just saying

  • Just look at how nasty and bitter many of these women on GaG who lash out at any dude who disagrees with the 304 gynocracy. Who could blame you?

  • You are suffering from a depressive episode, man. You are very young and you got everything in front of you. I understand that meaningless platitudes like that won't get you through this depressive episode, but some of those platitudes are actually true. Most guys have a hard time. A very few "Alphas" enjoy tons of meaningless sex all the time and get it all the time. Most people struggle from day to day. So you are not alone.
    You may need some counseling but one little piece of advice you didn't ask for is, turn off all that social media and on-line bullshit and spend time with people. Go out with friends. If you have one friend go out with that friend. Be around people. You have value.
    You can mope for a day, but then you have to swim upstream with the rest of us, knowing most of the time you will fail. That's life, it sucks.
    I disagree with folks who say one shouldn't mope and get off their ass and do something. Sometimes, you need a bit of time to mope, feel sorry for yourself and beg for an asteroid to hit the Earth. But you have to limit that time. Give yourself a couple of days to properly mourn for your lot in life, but then you got to jump back into it.
    Make your sadness brief, because the women don't care. Actually, most people don't care, not a bit. But the women you desire will be even more turned off if you are mournful. They are not enticed by pity, if they were I'd have bitches galore.
    Mourn yourself a day or two. Then get off your ass, deal?

  • This constant whining is a major fail.

    Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right.

  • I can empathize with you but it’s time for some tough love. When you’re done feeling sorry for yourself, dust yourself off and get back in the game or learn to be content being a solosexual.


    There’s like 8 billion people on the planet. At least half are women. Sooner or later, by sheer mathematics some are going to be willing to have sex with you. Even if you’re ugly and unattractive in every way sooner or later if you hit on enough girls some are going to be willing if nothing else. I say go hit on girls and sooner or later you’ll get this dating thing figured out by attempting it enough.


    Nothing for nothing girls are not attracted to the type of attitude you’re displaying now. That needs to change today.

  • A few things. It is not rare for a young person not to climax in sex. Because they have such anxiety during sex. People do not start enjoying sex until their mid to late 30's. Because all their anxiety starts to leave. When you are young the #! thing you enjoy is masturbation. Actual sex with the opposite sex you do not start enjoying until later.

  • Just work on yourself and put yourself out there but have the confidence in yourself being rejected sucks but once you realize it's not your fault you just move on and it builds better communication skills if that's what you need. Just treat like a game and don't take it too seriously.

  • Not sure if you have other friends to hang out with, but sometimes a fresh start in a new place can help. I know people have had problems like this in smaller cities where people your age largely know each other, so there’s not many people outside that circle to connect with. If you’re in the same town you went to high school in, leave. Move 100 or more miles away and leave it all behind.

    Go to a therapist and they can help you work on your self esteem, because without that, the rest isn’t really possible. Lack of confidence is probably the biggest turn off for women.

  • Spend six months focusing on what will get you laid and go do that. Work out, eat better, go to parties, make new friends, relax, relax, relax, take up outdoor hobbies, get the fuck of social media, travel a bit, buy something new, just do it to quote Nike.

  • You can always higher a prostitute or a escort. Like you, I haven't had luck in that aspect.

    Is not the end of the world. Romantic relationships are often idealized. They take a lot of work and if you are not emotionally fit to have a healthy relationship of that type, it's best to back off and accept that truth. Work on yourself.

    Like I said, is not the end. Enjoy your life, nobody will do it for you, not even a partner 🍻

  • Over the last year I've been contemplating suicide for this same reason, primarily.

    all my high school friends are married, I'm 28, still look good, but all women assume I'm a monster manipulator sadist. OR they just won't even go on a date with someone who isn't a millionaire.

    • I don't know where you live, but few of my male HS classmates were married before 30.

    • @zagor Utah

    • OK, I guess the Mormon influence is still strong. I read somewhere that over 30% of BYU seniors are married. Lots of cute girls there though.

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  • I feel the same way, honestly.

  • You might want to look up the word aphrodisiac. I do not think it means what you think it means.

    • I said anaphrodisiac not aphrodisiac.

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