Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Recently I have learned something about my little buddy’s size which surprised me and made me a bit anxious, so I did some research, asked around here are my finding:
First of all, if you want to measure your penis, according to the research papers I relied on, then here is how you do it:
Length – measure your erect penis from the top side of the base when it is horizontal to the floor. That is from the skin to the tip. Now press is gently until you reach the pelvic bone and from there to the tip is the measurements we will use.
Girth – take a tape measure or a string with a mark on it. Wrap you erect penis with it where it is the widest (usually a bit before the head but move it around and check), tightening just a bit so it will be touching the skin all around but not press into it. (for condom sized divide by 3.14 for width)
The statistics:
The average penis length it between 14.15+-2.66cm (~5.5”), and girth is 12.23+-2.23cm (~4.8”). (some research shows a bit lower numbers, around 1 cm less). anything outside these numbers is counted as non-average. Most research papers made these averages when using the 2 measurements as uncorrelated. Which means they don’t care if you have an outside-average-long dick with thin but barely average girth or have the complete opposite.
Even if you have a penis a bit larger than the dimensions mentioned before, the condom industry still count you as average size.
Women usually prefer penis around 14cm (5.5”) to 17cm (6.7”) long and according to the research published by “plos one” research publication site the exact preferences are:
- Long term 15.8(6.2”)-16.38(6.45”) and 11.81(4.65”)-12.45(4.9”)
- One-night 15.9(6.25”)-16.63(6.55”) and 12.45(4.9”)-12.95(5.1”)
The difference is assumed to be so that in one-night stands, the extra volume will create extra stimulus and compensate for the lack of intimacy that is usually found in long term relationships.
However, even if there are preferences, 85% of women tend to be satisfied with their partners’ size, with no statistical correlation between satisfaction and size (so its down to personal preference). And almost 0% present of women reported that size is a significant factor in sexual satisfaction. Most reported interpersonal relations first (more than 50%) and then foreplay.
the clitoris extends around 5 cm (2”) up the vaginal canal, and the vagina can extend up to around 20cm (8”) so as long as you have a penis around those lengths, you shouldn’t have a problem lengthwise.
Most people suffer from body dysmorphia to a low extent. And most men have it regarding their penis. More than 90% of men who think they have a small penis compared to others are average sized.
So now we know what’s the average sizes, preferences and how none of it really matters in the macro and statistics. But we are not about statistics here. We want to know what happens in reality, and so we reach –
Friends’ answers:
So, I asked around and the answers varies a bit. Most of the women say that size is more like “potential” – if it is about the size of their preferred size, it might be better, but it is an insignificant factor. They say that knowing the person, being at ease and having the right mood is a much bigger turn on and foreplay together with care (and listening) and technique made much more impact than size. When the women felt comfortable and turned on, they were more sensitive and their vaginas were better lubricated and prepared, so both smaller and bigger sized penises felt good to them.
What did the men say? none of them had any size related problems in bed. One friend with a buddy on the around 20cm (7.9”) said that once someone complained about extra pressure, but it wasn’t a deal breaker. None of the guys on the lower side of the average reported problems. All those outside the average said that if they predicted problems (like seeing the girl too nervous, or not getting excited enough during intercourse) they just made a little extra effort in other things, like stimulating other body parts at the same time or foreplay.
As for myself:
I served in the military for 3 years, I’ve seen plenty of dicks in that time, mine seemed normal, and I’ve never gotten any comments about it from friend (every soldier knows how an elephant snorkel makes others looks their shit and make dumb jokes for years – we are fucking dumb that way). And so, I assumed I am average. I even remember trying to measure the length when I was around 14 years old and found out I was a bit on the smaller size. I never concerned myself with it.
I had sex a few times (too few😥) along the years, mostly one-time things, and most of the time the women never commented on the size. The couple who did, I presumed did so to make me more comfortable since I had no experience at that point. One time I had a problem where a girl was to tight and dry, she said I was too big and that she is sorry. I obviously thought that she doesn’t want me to feel bad for doing a bad job going down on her.
A few days ago, I came here to answer some questions and when I tried to answer a question about penis size, I realized I don’t remember the statistics anymore, so I rechecked. It turned out I was a bit outside the average. I should have been happy, but I started to get nervous and stressed, to the point that I started to feel nauseated and pressure on my chest. I asked a girl I used to date if I really am different, she confirmed that I am but not to the point where it is a problem, and that it matters less than the other stuff, which she rated as well but I will keep that to myself😁.
after that I started contacting others to get their opinions and the result is what you read so far.
To tell the truth, all of that helped but I am still anxious whenever I think about it and the main thing that helped me calm down is time. I don’t know if its about “one more thing that makes me weird and unlovable” or if it’s about having one less obstacle to having a normal relationship and the idea of intimacy freaks me out (especially after the pandemic which made me as secluded as a meditating monk…). But that’s something I need to figure out and work on. Anyway, I hope this take helps you guys with your questions or insecurities. If you want to check out the research please PM me. i am not level 3 here so i can't post links yet.
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please comment if it helped or if you disagreem. or if you just want to talk about it.
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