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“Is it big enough”? An opinion from the receiving end.

We don’t carry rulers in our purse!
We don’t carry rulers in our purse!

Guys, let’s talk about that thing that you like talking about. Yep, I’m talking about your penis!
There are a lot of you guys who are either worried that you are “too small”, or brag about how “big” you are. As if that 3 inch, or 7 inch dick is the only thing that’s important to a girl. I’m going to say this very clearly, so listen up: if you and her are naked, chances are that you have OTHER qualities that got her attention to the point where you are about to get laid. Maybe it’s because you are really smart? Maybe you are funny? Possibly she thinks that you are really cute.

For whatever reason, you are going to get lucky. So first, let’s talk about “how big” your cock needs to be. Physically, it needs to be big enough to penetrate her vagina. The average penis is around 5 1/2 inches when it’s erect. That is more than enough to penetrate her. If you know what you are doing, you both will have a good time. If you don’t know what you are doing, she isn’t going to enjoy it, no matter how big you are. Good sex starts with getting her “ready”. That means foreplay. Kiss her, touch her, explore her body. Watch and listen to her clues. The female body is capable of lubricating so that you have an easy time of entering her. If she isn’t “wet” it’s going to hurt….a lot. If she is nice and ready, she has a better chance of enjoying the nice feeling of being “filled”. That can happen if you are below average, average, or big.

For the “big” guys out there who think they are too big, guess what dude: you aren’t! Women push babies out of the same hole, so check your ego! It isn’t that big.

Now that you are “in”, please remember that it’s supposed to be enjoyable for HER too. We don’t have sex just to make a man happy. Believe it or not, we like and crave sex just as much as you do. It is one of the few times when I get to just enjoy my femininity and his masculinity. Especially good sex where we climax before you shoot your baby batter into that condom or into us.

Here are the takeaways:

-Yes, it’s big enough, so STOP stressing! Stop worrying, and stop bragging!

-We don’t carry tape measures or rulers because we really don’t care.

-Worry about your heart and your character, those are things that you can control, and they are definitely far more important than the size of your magic wand.

-Talk to her about what she likes and needs for it to be the best she has ever had.

Lastly, if you aren’t in a monogamous, and committed long term relationship-USE A CONDOM.

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  • Another brilliant pubic service message @KatherineJ. All of this is so true. Much more about the skill of the operator than the size of the tool. I cannot stand seeing questions here looking to validate the size of their wieners being "good enough" to satisfy girls.

    The thing that I think they forget when wishing they were huge is that is not a damn advantage. I don't speak publicly on this site about this hardly ever, but I will to help make your point.

    My current partner is bigger than average we shall say without getting into specifics. You know what my first thought was the first time we were intimate? Something like "Uh, what am I supposed to do with this?". Uh, yeah. Not an advantage at all.

    Now that we have been together for some time, we know how to make it work. However, it is like a damn pre-flight checklist to even get comfortable and get going. It is again, not an advantage.

    Honestly, if I could change his size to something far more normal, I would. You know what guys? I bet he wouldn't mind since it would mean more comfort for me. This is because he cares about ME far more than the size of his penis. Yes, there are still gentlemen out there that place greater value on the comfort of their partner than penis size.

    • @prettypriya so true! I had the same reaction when I saw my boyfriend (now husband) for the first time. I was like “That is NOT going to fit”. Of course it does, but that’s because foreplay takes care of getting me ready (and willing).

    • @KatherineJ Thanks! This was very well put and hopefully guys will understand a bit better that no matter your size, it is about the person it is attached to that matters more than anything. Great MyTake again and well written. I see editor in your future. 😁

    • @prettypriya thank you again. Sadly, I don’t have the time to commit to something like that, you know?

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  • Thank you so much for posting this. I think any penis size questions in the future should be declined and the user attempting to post the question should get an immediate response with a link to this take! It says I everything that needs to be said!!

    • @elliegirl thanks girl! It needed to be said.

    • Yes because she's repeating the same narrative that has been reported by many other sources. But what no one will really say is the the WHOLE truth. Size does matter. And the "average" man isn't enough compared to the most commonly sold dildos and vibrators.

    • @EndGame55 men you seen some of those things? 😳 how come nobody talks about the effects of those things you know?

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  • Thank you for clarifying it once and hopefully once and for all. I can only agree with what you said.

    • @msmissydc thank you so much!

  • A very well worded take. I feel like more people especially men need to see this and understand the real depth of it all - no pun intended lol.

    You made a very valid point when you said how the girl being turned on is much more important and makes all the more difference and your size doesn't mean jack shit if you can't use it well, and this is where a lot of guys end up coming short - again, no pun intended lmao.

    Regardless, most women may not care, but a lot of them still consider a guy's dick size to be important and even moreso others who'd laugh at friends of mine for having an average or below average penis length. I'd say we have the porn industry to blame for this too because when you go around seeing 9-10" dicks everywhere, it's easy to think how that's the normal size when it's far from it. And ngl, I sometimes wish I were bigger too, just to see how it feels, even though I've been told I'm huge (when I'm not, really XD)

    • @bullshark yep, I definitely think the porn industry has helped create the problem. And yes, some women say that a guy is “tiny” more as an insult to that guy than anything. I hate to say it, but we know what to say to hurt a guy’s feelings.

  • 👏👏👏👏

    Again;great,GREAT take!

    (You should do mytakes more often)

    Again; fellas, take notes!

    • @brainsbeforebeauty thanks girl! It’s Summer, so I’m trying to get some important ones written before I have to go back to responsibilities that prevent me from having the time to write them.

    • I look forward to reading them!

    • @brainsbeforebeauty thank you. But none of the pubic service announcements will be about PB. 😁

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  • I love your mytakes, I am probably the only girl (or one of the few) that says, no thanks to the too big ones though. I don't enjoy that kind of pain, be it girth or length. Tried and sucks... but most guys are fine, average is perfect for me.

    • @aerissa_jade thank you so much! I mean it’s really the man BEHIND the magic wand that I want to be with, his “appendage” is just a delightful bonus.

    • Exactly as I'd prefer all the foreplay anyways, tons better... and loads of fun there.

  • What do girls say when they see a little penis?

    “Is it big enough”? An opinion from the receiving end.

    • Looool that’s going against this post though

    • @MrReliable12 most women are stealth size queens.

    • I’ve experienced this haha

  • very well put, and written, just one thing about a penis, where men like to see a curvy girl's body, I think quite a few girls like to see a well endowed man, I know all the rest come with it but at the end of the day, a nice shaped big penis looks good, and I'm sure a lot of men/boys when in a men's place wish they had one at least as good as the next man, like us women, we like to think we have at least a body as good as the nxt woman

    • How can you honestly compare How curvy a woman is big boobs big ass to how a penis feels inside your vagina? Big boobs and big ass or big muscles and height does not determine the compatibility of a penis and a vagina.

  • Very well said!

  • Even if you as a guy have an average or above average size penis women focus too much on length because it could be six inches or above, and still be too wide to fit in her pussy. But, nobody ever talks about width issues.

    • So you are a woman?

  • I gotta disagree with this. As I've said separate times on GAG, I've had two separate instances of two separate women, inviting me to have sex with them, them initiating sex with me to the point of practically begging me for it, and then stopping once I took my underwear off, because I was too small for them.

    I know how to get a woman ready. I simply communicate with them if I don't! I know how important foreplay is (I hate admitting this, but I like foreplay, too. I know; that's kinda girly to admit.) I enjoy using my fingers and rubbing and massaging her body, or kissing her, or doing both at once. I know how to work the nipples like a ham radio!

    That said though, the women I've slept with still wanted bigger than me. Everyone except the love of my life wanted bigger than me. She was the only one who either never told me her true desired size, was willing to lie to spare my feelings, or genuinely was satisfied with as small as me.

    This is probably the biggest load of garbage of all: "That can happen if you are below average, average, or big." Then where do images like this come from?

    “Is it big enough”? An opinion from the receiving end.“Is it big enough”? An opinion from the receiving end.“Is it big enough”? An opinion from the receiving end.
    "Only 16.5 cm? Get TF outta here!"
    "Only 16.5 cm? Get TF outta here!"

    "We don’t have sex just to make a man happy."

    That's why I had to get really good at oral. Communicate with all the women I've been with thoroughly and completely. Like, take college lectures from them and sh*t. I don't even like oral! I'd rather not do it, in fact! But I do it to make a girl happy. And since my dick is apparently impossibly small to get that done, it's whatever. I'm willing to sacrifice for her and stick my tongue down there in her pisser.

    "Believe it or not, we like and crave sex just as much as you do."
    This is the biggest load of crap of all! Where TF do incels and lonely suicidal men come from if women like sex even a fraction as much as men do? This actually offends me in how untrue it is. I'm more likely to believe that 99% of women don't like sex whatsoever.

    Between all the penis shaming, playing "hard to get," and making a man jump through hoops just for some stale pussy. I was never a simp, but I'm SO GLAD I don't even come close to putting that on a pedestal anymore. At this point, my own hand could do a better job than being with some chick's funny clam while she shames me for being less than 7 inches/18 cm.

    I know this was meant to be an uplifting post, but so much of this was just so much complete and utter bullsh*t debunked by my own personal experience and heartache, that it just pissed me off. Not a single word here is true, or has ever been true in my entire life's experience with women. Only reason it doesn't depress me too much is, like I said so many times before, being short is infinitely more depressing than not having a big enough dick, even if most men also have small ones, too. If only real women actually did care about a guy's heart and character, and not laughing him out of bed for being under seven inches.

    Maybe we live in two different realities in the multiverse. Cause I've never met more than two women in my life (not even two) who thought "size doesn't matter" and that the only thing needed to be a good lover in bed was communication and selflessness. If ONLY it were that simple...

    But hey, I'm past all that, now. Being single is far less depressing than being half-single.

    • @mcheetah I’m not going to argue with you. I will say that I disagree with most of what you said though. Have a great day.

    • A lot of these women you got with probably had been run through by bus loads of sportsmen so they had expectations. And/or super shallow women. But yeah, i agree with your gist. Women say it's about a man's character but very few live that way. VERY FEW. Ha ha. They always have requirements you an find in places like a bank account, resume, measuring tape, property records & so on.

    • *can find

  • Excellent opinion piece, I think most guys learn this as we mature anyways, but no harm putting emphasis on it.

    • Thank you so much @mrcommodore

  • Well said. This is so true for me too. I have never cared about size since I've never jumped into a relationship for sex ever.
    It's always been about their other qualities that make or break the relationship for me.

    • @2wheels bingo!

  • With just one caveat, I like this ‘My Take’. It is helpful for us guys to hear a woman’s perspective on penis size, and to hear that most women don’t care too much about how big or small it is. It is also very telling (and helpful) that so many of the comments from women here are saying that they much prefer the ‘average’ or ‘normal’ sized penis of about 5-6 inches erect for sexual intercourse. It is my experience that most women only really ‘love’ a penis if it belongs to a man they love. So, while this ‘My Take’ on penis size from a woman’s perspective is spot on, it does fall short in one way - it doesn’t address why men care so much about penis size in the first place. Let me try to tackle that...

    What most women can’t fully comprehend is what it means to be male, and how masculinity is so deeply, physiologically intertwined with the penis. The center of male sexual identity is, quite simply, his penis. He reached down and found it in his infancy, and interacted with it ever since, as it served to bring him pleasure and helped construct his masculine identity. That penis means an awful lot to most guys. And so, this might be hard for women to completely understand, but guys want gals to love and desire their penis because it is the most intimate and central part of their identity as a man. And some guys incorrectly assume that, the larger that part is, the more attractive they will be to women. Or that the smaller it is, the less attractive they will be. So, although it’s true (and beautiful) that women are attracted to other, less tangible and, arguably, more meaningful qualities in a man, a fair amount of ‘penis love’ for your guy goes a long way (pun intended) toward making him feel desired, wanted and loved. So yes, penis size doesn’t matter. But penis love does. 😉☺️

    Oh, and for pete’s sake, please stop calling it a ‘magic wand’ and an ‘appendage’. 🤦🏽‍♂️

    • @strongmale for the record, I show my husband’s penis a lot of love and appreciation.

    • @KatherineJ That is wonderful and beautiful. He is lucky to have a wife like you, who gives his penis so much love. ☺️

    • @strongmale the rest of him gets a lot of love too. Not just what he has down there.

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  • Wow,... simple and straight to the point (I'm sure there's some guys that will still misinterpretation what you've said here), great PSA.

    • @racskc0b thank you. And yet…. there are still guys who choose to argue with me about it.

    • And why wouldn't they, they're men, and know better then a women does. I mean sure it does seem a bit hard to believe, what with men not having vaginas, that they would know better then a women. But, they're men, so it all adds up.

  • Corollary for men:

    If she has large thighs, and you have trouble getting through because her thighs keep getting in your way of getting a good angle, and she doesn't want to adjust position to make it easier for you, then she's to blame for not enjoying it.

    She knows her shortcomings, and how difficult it is for you to overcome them. She knows there are solutions. She just doesn't care enough to make these simple adjustments. And if she tries to make you feel inadequate, when she's the one who wouldn't make even small adjustments so both could have a better time, then she's gaslighting you.

    And if she'll gaslight you over sex, even at the expense of denying herself a better time, she'll probably gaslight you over other areas of life too. It means that she derives more pleasure from being cruel and controlling than she does from actual sex, and possibly has other serious mental issues.

    Consider that a serious red flag, and possibly a good reason to get far away from her.

  • EVERYTHING matters, but it's all about the degree to which it matters.

    Right now I'm craving a taco, but I wouldn't say no to a cheeseburger. So do tacos not matter? They do, but not much.

    My cousin told me he would never in a million years date a redhead. lol

    “Is it big enough”? An opinion from the receiving end.“Is it big enough”? An opinion from the receiving end.

    Everything matters until it doesn't matter.

  • I've always found focusing on the scenario you're in yields the best results. I've found that women like to get swept up in the moment. This can range from a very sensual and passionate sexual encounter where things aren't as "vigorous" but there's lots of exploring to the times where she grabs your whole package and leads you to the bed, and you get the impression she doesn't want to be able to walk for a little while afterwards.

    Pick up on the initial cues and take it from there. And yes foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. For those of you that are nervous the first time about the performance of your dick (new lady jitters if you actually care for her) foreplay can do much of the work hell even get her off once or twice before you even really get started. And frankly when she's good and ready it feels better for both of you. Enjoy the after-sex twitches she has too, they're usually a mark of a job well done and you get to think... "I did that" lol.

  • I'm not going to divulge my size as it's not relevant. I wasn't even aware it was bigger than average until my first girlfriend saw it and she was far more experienced. I thought every man's was my size. She did make a comment about it being bigger than she was used to but as women have said on here. It's not how big it is, it's what you do with it.

    She made a point of saying that as well. She taught me how to please her and in doing so it made lovemaking for her pleasurable and as has been said, it will fit but only if you know how to please the lady in your life.

    • I haven't met a woman yet that doesn't say I'm big. But I know that's bologna. All a person has to do is look up the most common size dildo sold. To know what they really want.

  • Penis size does matter to some extent. More particularly the girth rather than the length. However, anything around the average size, will do just fine for every woman.
    But for some women, who is focused about some kink, a large penis, may be their particular kink, just like any other kink.

    • What s your kink?

    • @Nikhil_B My kink if any, is my private business 🤪

    • @dawty but I think you get what I was saying.

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  • My husband is a great father and husband but I will say that his penis is great, He has other abilities that i love about him also. I learned a lot on my wedding night as I was a virgin, Penis's get really hard, they don't bend when they are hard and they will fit but you may have to use lube. My husband is 3 inches limp and 7 inches erect and 5 inches in diameter but, I get lock jaw sometimes doing oral, It all won't fit when doing oral and it bottoms out in my coochie hitting my cervix and it hurts like a bitch. so if you aren't overly endowed, Don't worry about it. You will do great.

    • Wouldn’t it be better if it wasn’t as big if it can bang against your cervix or hurt your mouth? Sounds like it’s an obstacle. what makes it great, do you mean bc it’s his?

  • @KatherineJ

    Yet again an extremely thoughtful, interesting and informative MyTake.

    Maybe you should consider compiling a book of all these... You just might have a World's Best Seller on your hands. x

    Footnote: I know I'm wasting my time in typing this, for guys will you please, please, please read, and take on board what @KatherineJ has taken so much time and trouble in trying to explain, in very simple words, the whole essence of this subject from women's perspective.

    • @emmamary thank you so much!

    • @KatherineJ You're so very, very welcome indeed. x

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