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My definition of virginity, is that you're still a virgin if another person hasn't caused you to orgasm from any kind of sex. So even if a guy just fingered me, as long as I orgasmed I wouldn't consider myself to be a virgin any longer.
Why would that be my definition? I have two reasons:
1. I want the memory of losing my virginity to be a really good one; so if I don't count losing it until I've orgasmed, I can have a few practice tries and not have to have any bad memories.
2. Also, if you really think about it, why should having PIV count as virginity loss? After all, using a condom and BC destroy the one main reason for having PIV in the first place; to get the woman pregnant so she can have a child. So if you're PREVENTING that from happening, then why should PIV count as virginity loss, when all it amounts to is using a certain part of your body to stimulate someone else? Since you took away the main function of the sex organ, then why should it 'count' more than any other part of the body?
So those are the reasons why *my* definition is so different, and they make perfect sense to me...But, I'm curious to see: What do you think of my definition of losing virginity and what's yours?
What Girls & Guys Said
2 1I can kinda see how your definition would work.
Not too far off from mine. I once thought that virginity is lost as soon as the girl has been penetrated by a guy. After my 'first time' by that definition though, I now beg to differ.
My first time physically was a very drunken me with my ex-boyfriend, who had together with all his friends teased me a bit that I was still a virgin at 19 years old. I was getting tired of that so htat night he had a party which I took as an opportunity to get some liquid courage and just get it over with. It was a bit painful but we did it, after which I received some really sweet messages from him in the morning. Only later did I learn his friends had gotten their hands on his phone. I went to pick up my sweater later the next day when he opened the door a sliver, threw my sweater at me and slammed the door in my face.
Technically that was my first time. My real virginity in my mind, though, was lost to my current boyfriend. I think the mental virginity is much more important than a broken hymen and such.
Losing virginity to me is when you allow someone both physically as well as mentally to see you at your barest. Often that will let you connect on a whole new level as well.
Yeah that makes total sense. Being a guy I would like to think that I could give a girl the best experience first time cause it's supposed to be and is an amazing thing To experience.
I agree. My first time I was drunk and it turned out to be pretty meaningless to him in the long run. It ended up scarring me because I was always that girl that wanted to marry the guy I lost my virginity too. I wanted to lose it together with someone and I ruined that. The only other guy I had sex with was a longtime friend and on again off again bf. Twice and both times were just him on top doing what he needed to get off. I always imagined sex and losing your virginity to be this great experience where not only bodies interact, but mind and soul too. I have yet to experience that, so I kinda feel like I'm still a virgin. If that makes sense.