There is an indisputable truth: sex is the engine that drives intimate relationships. When the sex is good the relationship is very likely good. Thermonuclear sex puts all those minor annoyances into perspective and greases the relational skids.
For a couple to enter into a lifelong commitment to an intimate relationship without knowing for certain that the sex works is absolutely foolhardy. I'm a man of considerable faith but I also believe the proscriptions in biblical times against premarital sex derived from the lack of reliable birth control and scientific paternity determination. That's why being considered Jewish by birth derives from the mother's faith: everyone knows who someone's mother is. Illegitimate children were a major problem in the eyes of the patriarchs of the time so they made the rule: no sex before marriage.
For someone to buy a car with a lifetime commitment without a test drive is ultimately stupid on its face. The new University of Phoenix commercial is right on point: Drive before you buy. I feel it's just prudent and wise to find out if you're sexually compatible with your partner before you marry them. While St. Paul may have written beautifully about love, it doesn't not understand all. Romantic love is based largely on the presence of satisfying sex. There is such a thing a really bad sex. There are also innumerable hang ups, fetishes, and proclivities that surround sex. Therefore, get to know your prospective partner sexually before saying I do for LIFE!
I'm not advocating casual or irresponsible sex. I'm just saying it's something that one needs some knowledge of vis a vis a partner before committing to a permanent relationship
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