Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Ahh, yes...this topic seems to be the one that most teens and adults, or EVERYONE for that matter, seems to be fixated on. Alright, so, friends with benefits...let me tell you, I have been against for the duration of my adolesence, and now that I am, by states standards, an 'adult,' I've come to see myself, by what I've actually done.
I'm sure most gals and guys, like myself, have recieved many-a invites for that kind of a relationship...and every time I do get such a request from a man, I ponder the shit out of it. How is a relationship like that suppose to work..? I don't necessarily like these men...at all...I mean, it's not to say that these men aren't attractive, most of them are externally VERY attractive, but I find myself blocked by the virgin chip in my mind. Yes, you read that correctly, I am a virgin. The percentile of women and men like me, is very small, especially in my area, where teens become sexually active in their middle school years...or sooner...*gasp* So, this virgin-chip of mine, almost prevents me on any and all angles, from establishing any type of relationship like that. I start to question my own morality...which sounds ridiculous even as I type it...oi!
Seriously though, lets come to jesus, and admit the fact that we all get a case of the hornies...that is a fact. Its biological. It's not like we can help it; and thats why it seems to be fascinating or even impossible for some people to believe of the existence of virgins beyond the age of 18. I've had people ask me "how?" Lol. How, indeed. I just overwork myself...exercise...boring stuff to kill the case of the hornies. But, I think a lot of you may be surprised to know that I myself may have initiated a friends with benefits (friends with benefits) relationship, which I seem to be completely in denial of.
Yep... friends with benefits . I am not planning on losing my virginity to him...and I've always been physically attracted to him...but I absolutely do NOT want to start a long term relationship with the guy. Here I am, thinking the concept to death, unable to understand the actual context of how I am feeling. How can someone be sexually attracted to someone, but not emotionally...methinks it was nearly impossible...that is...until a couple days ago during a hot and heavy session in the back seat of his car. I mean shit. I have been known as the person who denied nearly all who attempted friends with benefits , stating that it was a pointless relationship status all together, and that I was never going to engage in such a relationship.
Here the fuck I am now. Starting this with this guy, and I can't stop myself. I mean, I kind of feel bad, for him; because, you see, I still have a conscience here, people! I don't want him to get attached, I know I'm not going to get attached, but something deep down inside me, right next to the case of the hornies, is telling me this is going to end in some kind of disaster.
So, essentially, I am going to cut it off. Although he may be getting his rocks off as well, and physically, its beneficial to both parties, intimacy is intimacy, no matter how many ways society tries to cut away the intimacy from being intimate, its there. I didn't understand that until my first encounter with the guy; in a friends with benefits relationships, you are sharing your body with someone else, and they are sharing their body with you. Its a give and take, take and give. If one of you already know you're not going to get attached, chances are the other party involved has already began to form an attachment...its blunt, but absolutely true.
In finality, FWB-type-relationships, are never what they seem to be. I think we all fail to see the consequences down the road when we are thinking with our Horny. lol. All joking aside, its safer, and less drama free, to simply chill out until you find someone who you are interested in, and is in turn, they interested in you.
We live in a complicated era full of computers, chat forums, social media and texting. Sooner or later, we need to see the impact of our actions on future relationships. If you're in a friends with benefits , take a moment to think about it. Do you feel really attached, or connected to this person, is the other person fairly disattached? Or maybe the other way around, like in my case, where I am actually surprisingly disattached? Don't feel guilty, just realize that sometimes, these kinds of relationships can be detrimental to your life, or the other persons life...but hey, in the off chance that you both feel the same way, graduate from friends with benefits into a defined relationship, and cut the bullshit!
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