Why does oral sex make females squirm, while men are almost stoic?

[Anonymous]

Every time I receive (good) clitoral stimulation, I want to flail my whole body because it's so intense. Sometimes it feels like I have to pee, and other times it just feels like I'm being tickled to death. I can't help but squirm and moan. When I give oral sex to guys, sometimes they moan (or grunt if you prefer) when they are about to come. However, they always stay still and comparatively calm. I've been told that I am very good at what I do, so I don't think it's a matter of it being a weak orgasm. Do guys feel this intense need to squirm but are strong enough to overcome it, or is it less intense for them than women?

[jesseray]

Men have fewer nerve endings in their cocks than women have in their clits. This means that all forms of stimulation are less intense. This is how we can walk around comfortably even when our cocks are brushing against our jeans.

No matter how well a woman gives blowjobs and no matter how well I relaxed my body, she would not be able to make me squirm except for a few seconds surrounding my orgasm, and she would have to be putting in some hard work to make even that much happen.

[Asker]

Ok. That makes sense. Thanks!

[godfatherfan]

Guys are never going to wiggle and squirm like women do (and wow is it sexy when you women do that). I know that I am doing well when she starts squirming all over. but we have less nerve endings in the penis. It is not a squirm kinda thing. when a guy gets close to cuming it is like every nerve ending is being pulled tight right to the tip of his penis. when you finally break the tension and he cums everything just relaxes..

[knotme]

If the guy is stoic, than the bj is not being done properly. He should be squirming, and grabbing anything he can reach.

[knotme]

The goal in sex is to make your partner, loss their mind. :)

[toro2]

You have very experience on it? :)

[knotme]

my fair share. *shoulder Shrug*

[Asker]

Well, guys will grab my hair or the headboard and grunt. Some will thrust towards my mouth. Maybe it's just the guys I've been with. I don't have a crazy high number or anything. They tell me it's amazing which I guess you could take with a grain of salt, but I've had close enough relationships with most of them that they could feel comfortable suggesting what they wanted more or less of. My last boyfriend had to just lay their and breath for at least ten minutes after. I mean, I feel pretty confident in the reports that it's good. They just don't flail their whole bodies like I do.

[knotme]

that doesn't sound stoic to me

[MaskofInsanity]

In my experience, men squirm too. lol

Women are generally more expressive, so maybe that's it?

[Asker]

Yeah. I think you actually get what I'm trying to say. Maybe women are more expressive because it helps to fulfill men's (p*rn) fantasies of driving a woman mad. Men can't hold back completely, but it seems like they try to take it like a champ haha.

[MaskofInsanity]

Yeah, girls know that guys get more aroused the more responsive they are, so we tend to moan and wriggle a lot. Guys would probably feel silly doing that (which sucks, cos its sexy as hell!)

[Asker]

Yeah, definitely!

[lamebabe]

Yeah, the blowjob must not be that good if he remains stoic and quiet for most of it.

[Cheeseburgers]

Not really.

[lamebabe]

In my experience, "really".

[Asker]

Let me get some popcorn lol.

[kheserthorpe]

Sex is better for women, when its good.

[Dionysos]

We grow up hiding our arousal and orgasms. We tend to be good at it. I've had to consciously make an effort to show how happy she makes me.

[Mesonfielde]

Well if it's like it is for me, it's definitely just less intense. I can't speak for everyone else, though.

[Cheeseburgers]

The clitoris by itself has more sensory nerves than the entire penis.

Not magical, it's biological.

[willshere]

I've always thought that female orgasms were probably stronger

[ImCoasting]

It's just how we are, there's no real way to describe it

[scottb80]

Probably less intense for guys.

[Anonymous]

I lay still and am pretty much silent because I do not want to disturb or interrupt her. Receiving oral feels exciting but it it is not really pleasurable on its own until it ends in ejaculation. It is that 20 seconds or so while I ejaculate while she is sucking and stroking which is what it is all about. I know my lover enjoys oral whether she has that crunching orgasm at the end ot not, but for me, ejaculating is what it is all about.