Did I ruin BJs for all my wife's friend's husbands?

Question

My wife found a group of friends that are all married like here. As usual they all gossip about random stuff.  One day i was in the kitchen making sandwiches for my son and i and and overheard their conversation. They were talking about giving their husbands BJs and hated doing it. They asked my wife about it and she quickly replied that she doesn't give me BJs and that I have told her I don't require or ask her her to give me one. She told them that my philosophy for BJs. They are that if your truly respect your woman you shouldn't make her put your cock in her mouth; especially if you kiss that woman. You cock was just touching her mouth and you kiss her. So you now have cock on your lips. That's disgusting.  anyways all the ladies heard this and tried denying their husbands BJs the next time they wanted one. Most of the woman were forced into doing it. These guys are sexist, womanizing a-holes. I've kicked most of them out of my house for mistreating their wife in front of me. The others got the hint. The only reason the woman stay with them are for the kids and the husbands make a lot of money, and prenups were signed too. Anyways they came back and were complaining that their husbands say if they don't give them what they want they will either divorce them or go get somewhere else. So the wives did it. I heard this and asked the ladies if they kiss their husband after they give the BJ. They said not right away. I told them to give their husbands a big sloppy kiss with tongue and after that tell them that their lips and tongues just touched the lips and tongue that was just touch their cock, and see how they react. They all did and now never have to give a BJ again. They said their husbands ran to the bathroom and brushed the heck out of their teeth and has never asked for one again.
So did i ruin their husbands enjoyment of a BJ or did I enlightened them via their wife.

jesseray · Accepted Answer

(1) Why do you let groups of women (including your son's mother) talk about blowjobs within earshot of your son? You should insist that they have more respect for you and your home.

(2) Your philosophy on blowjobs seems based on self-loathing. I have cleaned my cock and do not loathe it, so I do not find it disgusting to have a woman's lips touch my cock and then my lips. If your cock disgusts you, then clean it.

(3) If your issue concerns the taste of cum, then you have three solutions: you can wear a condom during blowjobs; you can sweeten the taste of your cum by eating less meat and sulfuric foods (such as asparagus) and eating more fruits; and you can confront your psychological hang-ups directly and conquer them.

(4) If the relationships are so bad that devoting less than an hour per week to their partners' pleasure seems unbearable, then their relationships have problems more fundamental than oral sex. To address the oral sex problem and not the other problems seems like beating around the bush.

(5) I doubt that the women were forced to do anything. It seems more probable to me that the men would have pursued some other relationship from the very beginning had the women told them the truth about never wanting to give blowjobs. In that case, they lured the men into relationships under false pretenses and they punished themselves through their own deception.

(6) Why would those women want to continue their relationship with womanizers in the first place? They should end those relationships and find men who make them feel so good that giving them blowjobs doesn't seem so bad in the first place.

Dionysos · Accepted Answer

I think QA is either trolling or has a serious hangup about oral sex.  There's nothing disgusting about it for me and I WANT to kiss the woman that just made me feel like a king.  I'd never ask for it either, because  of the cultural implications of telling someone to suck your dick, but I might not want to stay in a relationship where it was completely off the table.  Oral sex is awesome.  Giving and receiving.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Dude that's great! I mean I give my husband bjs but if I don't wanna I don't have to do it. It works both ways he don't give me oral unless he wants too. So I guess it just works for us. I take the stand if you can't kiss after I have sucked your dick then why should I put my mouth on it if its that gross? So with that my husband always kisses me afterwards and I always kiss him after the fact too. Why should anyone give oral if they aren't okay with having a little taste of what they taste like too? I dont think you should do if you don't like it, you should never do that! :)

Ladyegg67 · Accepted Answer

My mind is blown (no pun intended). I didn't know that bjs were disliked wow. I love giving head it's a major part of for play with me. 69ing is the absolute best. Wow just wow I learn something new every day.  Wow I can't wrap my head around this. Yes pun intended.  Seriously I'm floored. My husband said kissing after is the closest to sucking his own dick he will ever get. He has a fantastic sense of humor.  Then again over 20yrs together what's mine is his and what's his is mine.

Lilac79 · Accepted Answer

Good job!! I wish more men like you would stand up for respect for women. I'm no feminist, but we shouldn't be forced into sucking that if we don't want to. No, you didn't ruin it for them. The women didn't want to do it in the first place, they just needed the courage to say no. Your wife's example gave that to them.

Hamburglar1 · Answer

No you didn't. It was their choice. also, if those marriages are based on just sexual needs, that's not good. Why don't those guys stay singles and get a hooker, instead?

whattothink · Answer

I've never had a problem with doing it or kissing after either one of us just performed oral on the other.

islands7 · Answer

You did both.

The other option would have been to take the higher road, to elevate both sexes to an appreciation of oral sex as part of their love making, an extension of their emotional love for each other, each taking a turn as giver. Perhaps that was too much for this IQ crowd.

Azara · Answer

they should have pt no bjs in the prenup.

Moondust · Answer

Love this post. High five

Betwyn · Answer

So,  You never eat chicken wings right?

ironeddie · Answer

I don't know why. But when I finished reading this I thought it was signed "Troll"

misscocobutter · Answer

Good on you! I love this story

kheserthorpe · Answer

They should all get divorced.

Drooogie4 · Answer

I love giving them, but its voluntary.. I don't have to. I choose to.  If I "had" to...no.

Luna-o3o · Answer

Hilarious xD Lmao  Love it!

normalice · Answer

no. what ruined bj's for all of your wife's friends' husbands is the simple fact that they married girls who do not like giving bjs. If that is important to someone, it should be verified first. Just like anything else that is important.

Rissyanne · Answer

I truly dont understand why women make a big deal about giving a bj. I give my bf one every time we are intimate. He doesn't cum in my mouth..but he really enjoys it. I know women who will have a fit if you even mention bjs. To me...they are prudes and are denying their husband of pleasure.

TadCurious · Answer

All of this is just so messed up.

knotme · Answer

I enjoyed the story. NO, it has not, most of the time you kiss after oral, if you dont, that would be an implication that you find something wrong with oral, and if that is your thought; then you dont deserved oral