How to tell husband I'm into scat?

[Anonymous]

As someone in a very similar predicament I know how you feel. I recently discovered I have a fetish for waterspots/scat and I have absolutely no idea how or if to tell my girlfriend. I tried to see if I could test her here and there to see if she was into it as well but I think unless you've been horny or high enough to experience the fetish yourself you are naturally repulsed by it.

At least your man is into the farting side of it. That at least gives you a little hope that he MIGHT be accepting of it. I can see how you are reserved about it considering the comment he made about thinking you're weird if you wanted to be right there waiting at his asshole for it. But there might be hope... A couple of questions tho:

1) is he significantly older than you? If so that's a positive because A) he's going to feel very lucky dating a young girl like you. B) Older guys are more sexually adventurous as we tend to have a bit more sexual experience & as a result more open minded to people's various kinks & questions about sexuality... because we ALL face them at some point. We ALL push hidden taboos at some point whether that's as plain as sex before marriage or having a guy squat on your face and violate you.

2) how much power would you say you have in the relationship? I. E. is this guy very lucky to be with you? Could he easily get a girl just as cool, interesting & good looking as you? or is that unlikely?

3) are there other things causing tension in the relationship? or is everything else in the relationship very good?

I know those questions sound very prejudiced and misogynistic but every relationship tends to have a dominate partner & a submissive partner. If you are someone he would really hesitate breaking up with because he'll most likely never find someone as good as you again then you could probably tell him & he might feel awkward & weird at first but once he sees how turned on you get and how you love him so much that you would allow him to violate you like that... I think he'll come around.

BUT if you are on the weaker side of the relationship & you're the one that is lucky to have him then the tables are kinda turned in the opposite direction.

For my situation I feel that I am the more powerful partner in the relationship & there is a SLIGHT chance she would accept my fetishes, I feel that due to other factors that are stressing the relationship I think this would instead be the straw that breaks the camel's back.

I hope this helps!

[Anonymous]

Tell him. I would love for my girl to tell me things like this. You never know he might just get into it! Honestly I'd poop on a girl if she really wanted me to.

[Anonymous]

Ok I remember you you asked this question before you are 18 married into scat you didn't want him to think you were weird

Look there is this guy who is into poop and pee he asks girls about it a lot and he post anon like you maybe you two should get together or something

[knotme]

how do you feel about scat play and see what his response is. If positive tell him what you want, if negative oh well

[Anonymous]

**** the age is given by what your Facebook age is. Or whatever link you provided.

[Craig8]

I am going to be honest so deal with it. The time for two people to open up about who they are and what they like sexually is BEFORE they get married. I also have a problem with the fact that you bring your question on a social media site instead of seeking counseling. This isn't about playing with shit. It's about not being honest. How would you feel if your husband did the same to you and then you catch him fucking a cow. Seriously, get a professional opinion from a therapist and find out how you can save your marriage. Every relationship must be built on a foundation of honest and open communication or, it is doomed. Also, you don't even know how to edit your profile and correct your age or, find out how is suspicious and casts doubt on everything you say. Problem is, fake accounts and profiles are on all websites so, you could some 16 yo boy hiding behind Anonymous. I think you do need help but first, become a mature adult and know how and what you want to say or ask BEFORE posting it. Again, if you were over 18 you'd already know how to write a draft so the final version gave the best impression of you instead of a moron who no doubt is concealing much more shit from hubby. Or, look me up and we will take a walk on the wild side. (Must prove over 18)

[Red_Arrow]

You say you don't expect him to ever act out these fantasies, but you've always wanted to try it. Which is it? You don't expect to act out, or you do want to do it?

Well, you have told him now in your letter. If he comes home, at least you will know he is willing to talk about it. On the other hand, a letter is all one sided and you had no visual cues from him, so you may have gone on with something grossing him out that you would have known to stop if you had done this face to face.

Bottom line, these are things that newlyweds should not surprise each other with.

[drumr4lyfe]

I'm the kind of man who prefers if a woman would just tell me these things, without beating around the bush. But not all men are like that.

I'll paraphrase Gabriel Iglesias from his recent special. "Have some note cards, and have each of you write down five question that the other must answer to be mutually exclusive." (Obviously you two are already mutually exclusive, so I suppose this could be for getting a deeper understanding of the other.) "Once that is done, have a video camera ready, have each person drink 10 shots of tequila - or alcohol of your choice - wait 35 minutes, turn on the video camera, press record, and let the date begin!" Word your admittance as a question and ask as one of them, and then the next morning, you'll see how he reacts and know what to prepare for when you tell him.

[Travick]

I have the same desires on scat play and piss ( Not smeared all over our bodies but to know we have each other in us ) and when I was married years ago I would love for my wife to be like you as we would have a great match. Instead we had a no fun marriage and after 17 years it was a divorce. We should have discussed all the pig sex type desires ( they can be so much fun acting out in some but not all cases unless we share agreeing on them) and made a pack that we firsts just explore and share all sex ideas and maybe later agree to act on them

[Volleyball_N_Surf]

It would be one thing if he didn't know much about you, but you don't have to explain who you are as a whole person.

Tell him you are into it and tell him it isn't a deal breaker if he isn't interested.

When he forgets your birthday he'll be glad to fart to make it up to you ;-)

[bifus]

It's good to be fully honest with your partner about what your fetishes and fantasies are. As long as you're dating someone who isn't a judgmental prude, they shouldn't be bothered by something wild.

I would imagine odds are low that he shares this fetish, but maybe knowing it turns you on peek his interest. It's not something I'd ever want to do, but then again I've never had something a partner wanted to try that they weren't able to talk me into doing.

[shacodraco]

Omg wow I clicked on this question because I thought the title said "how do I tell my husband I'm a cat" but I was in for a big surpririse once I started reading the question... personally I think that is fucking disgusting but it sounds like your husband might be into it so go for it?

[Socal99]

I think you should just tell him in a joking way or just be straight honest with them that you enjoy scat play how far does the scat play go that you think you would do. Do you want him to shit on you in your face or on your body do you want to do that to him and would you want him to fart in your face or during sex. Sounds really hot I know a lot of people don't accept it or think it's weird or disgusting which it can be but I think it'd be hot with you.

[RedEagle8668]

You really need to talk to him about it. Not doing so is going to lead to you becoming frustrated because you don't know. If you talk and find out he's not in to then you know it's not going to happen. Who knows, he might be willing to experiment with you.
Good luck.

[iamnotalizard]

Maybe sit down and talk to him about both of your fantasys and turn ons. Ask him if he has any extreme, different ones, then tell him yours. He loves you, so I doubt he would judge :B If I got told that I'd think it's weird but it wouldn't change my opinion of the person

[Curiousonlots]

Hi. I know you have had some negative and positive responses. Firstly I want to tell you that you must believe that there is nothing wrong with you for wanting to indulge in this act. Yes it is a difficult act to discuss and admit that you are into, but do not be ashamed. I will keep this simple. You have to tell him. I know that is scary and it may end your marriage, but then again, it may not. He may entertain the idea. If however he says he does not want to indulge then your marriage is over anyway because you will always have this urge, these needs to satisfy your urges and undoubtedly this will lead to more sneaky behaviour down the line. I hope he does entertain it but if he doesn't, go find yourself, explore your urges and hopefully you will find a new love in that process.

[thehermit]

My dear Anonymous, everybody is different and I cannot tell you what will work on your husband. It all depends on the extent of your fetish and whether he is selfish and self centered or unselfish and cares about what you want. I have had this " kink " all my life and have dealt with exactly what you are dealing with. I think if you start out by simply asking him if you may go into the bathroom with him, that might be a good way to start. Let me know how it goes.

[Applefan1]

Hey, I know your question is really old just wondering how it went admitting your fetish to him. I might have some advice if your interested. :)

[Anonymous]

I have a similar predicament, except I'm on the male side of things, my girlfriend didn't develop the pee fetish on her own, but she originally had a thing for spit and cum and I informed her that pee is sterile. After that she opened up to it and found she liked it herself. Although when I told her I had a foot fetish she was very clearly repulsed by it but was still willing to go through with it. She also gave me a grossed out look when she caught me sniffing my finger after fingering her asshole. She love anal and I have eaten her shit without her knowing it. It appears you've been through something similar and I'd like to hear your advice. I kind of wish my girlfriend was kinda like you (as in having that fetish, she perfect in every other way and wouldn't change a thing).

[ShavenRaver]

Just go for it. It's good to have honest discussions about sex and fantasies. You may find that he likes scat too! Good luck and have fun

[AidenBlue]

You got married at 16? I don't know where to even start with this one. Good luck!

[princesswitch]

Oh wow. I don't know... maybe you should drink with him and tell him when you're super wasted and if he doesn't take it well you can blame it on the alcohol later? That's hardcore man, lol.

[Anonymous]

Ditch him. Use me. I would even go as far as shitting in your mouth 👄. Or even slamming some of my own shit up your ass cheeks. Are you ear the DFW? Also are you hot as f : like at least a 7 1/2 - an 8?

[blondfrog]

Just tell him I doubt he will leave you for telling him who knows he might even get turned on by that.

[gandolph3]

this post is over a year old, just wondering if you have been successful or changed you mind. let us know