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How to tell husband I'm into scat?

I've been with him for two years and a few months into our relationship I found that I have a scat/fart fetish. I am afraid to tell him about it. He loves me for me, that is obvious, but what if telling him this changes that? Once he asked if he could pee in me when we have sex somedat and I said yes (I was into watersports that time, but he didn't know thar either). Watersports actually led up to me finding I enjoy panty pooping, watching people shit, fartinf, etc. One time in mid-sex he said "I wouldn't even care if you farted right now" and that made me cum hard. I've told him after that a few times that I wouldn't mind if he farted during sex. He said jokingly "I think you want me to!". I came out to him liking when he farts and finding it hot and he said "as long as you don't want to put your face down there!"...ugh. How do I tell him? I don't expect him to ever act out these fantasies (except maybe the farting during sex) but I've always wanted to try it. I don't want to scare him. Please advice would help!!
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Oh, I AM 18, please ignore the fact it says "under 18". I think I fucked up the birthday cuz I just made this account and don't know how to fix it.
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  • As someone in a very similar predicament I know how you feel. I recently discovered I have a fetish for waterspots/scat and I have absolutely no idea how or if to tell my girlfriend. I tried to see if I could test her here and there to see if she was into it as well but I think unless you've been horny or high enough to experience the fetish yourself you are naturally repulsed by it.

    At least your man is into the farting side of it. That at least gives you a little hope that he MIGHT be accepting of it. I can see how you are reserved about it considering the comment he made about thinking you're weird if you wanted to be right there waiting at his asshole for it. But there might be hope... A couple of questions tho:

    1) is he significantly older than you? If so that's a positive because A) he's going to feel very lucky dating a young girl like you. B) Older guys are more sexually adventurous as we tend to have a bit more sexual experience & as a result more open minded to people's various kinks & questions about sexuality... because we ALL face them at some point. We ALL push hidden taboos at some point whether that's as plain as sex before marriage or having a guy squat on your face and violate you.

    2) how much power would you say you have in the relationship? I. E. is this guy very lucky to be with you? Could he easily get a girl just as cool, interesting & good looking as you? or is that unlikely?

    3) are there other things causing tension in the relationship? or is everything else in the relationship very good?

    I know those questions sound very prejudiced and misogynistic but every relationship tends to have a dominate partner & a submissive partner. If you are someone he would really hesitate breaking up with because he'll most likely never find someone as good as you again then you could probably tell him & he might feel awkward & weird at first but once he sees how turned on you get and how you love him so much that you would allow him to violate you like that... I think he'll come around.

    BUT if you are on the weaker side of the relationship & you're the one that is lucky to have him then the tables are kinda turned in the opposite direction.

    For my situation I feel that I am the more powerful partner in the relationship & there is a SLIGHT chance she would accept my fetishes, I feel that due to other factors that are stressing the relationship I think this would instead be the straw that breaks the camel's back.

    I hope this helps!

  • Tell him. I would love for my girl to tell me things like this. You never know he might just get into it! Honestly I'd poop on a girl if she really wanted me to.

    • This is probably the most helpful thing on here. I just did the elementary-school thing and wrote him a letter. I'm going to put it in his truck for next time he leaves. I couldn't even do it in text.

    • I know that would be hard to say. I hope that goes well for you. It's always hard bringing up taboo subjects.

    • I strangely feel a huge weight lifted off my chest (no pun intended). I hope he would kind of explore it a little.

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  • Ok I remember you you asked this question before you are 18 married into scat you didn't want him to think you were weird

    Look there is this guy who is into poop and pee he asks girls about it a lot and he post anon like you maybe you two should get together or something

    • nah, if my husband doesn't like it there's always p*rn ;)

    • Hello, I trust you're doing well. After some time, I am 31 years old. Well! Truth be told scat play truly turns me on very much :) Although my experiences are limited to a few instances limited only to my exs. I genuinely find it intriguing. If it's not intrusive, may I ask about your experiences? I would love to hear some good news :)

  • how do you feel about scat play and see what his response is. If positive tell him what you want, if negative oh well

  • **** the age is given by what your Facebook age is. Or whatever link you provided.

    • I signed up with email, and that has the correct age. SO I guess I.need to contact administration

    • I had to look up what 'scat' meant. Um, gross IMO.

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  • I'm the kind of man who prefers if a woman would just tell me these things, without beating around the bush. But not all men are like that.

    I'll paraphrase Gabriel Iglesias from his recent special. "Have some note cards, and have each of you write down five question that the other must answer to be mutually exclusive." (Obviously you two are already mutually exclusive, so I suppose this could be for getting a deeper understanding of the other.) "Once that is done, have a video camera ready, have each person drink 10 shots of tequila - or alcohol of your choice - wait 35 minutes, turn on the video camera, press record, and let the date begin!" Word your admittance as a question and ask as one of them, and then the next morning, you'll see how he reacts and know what to prepare for when you tell him.

  • Hey, I know your question is really old just wondering how it went admitting your fetish to him. I might have some advice if your interested. :)

    • I have not told him yet. I know, it's silly. I would LOVE advice.

    • How far do you want to go with this. Do you want him to fart during sex, watch him poop and hear him fart? or is it strong than that.

    • oh geez lmao the second one

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  • You say you don't expect him to ever act out these fantasies, but you've always wanted to try it. Which is it? You don't expect to act out, or you do want to do it?

    Well, you have told him now in your letter. If he comes home, at least you will know he is willing to talk about it. On the other hand, a letter is all one sided and you had no visual cues from him, so you may have gone on with something grossing him out that you would have known to stop if you had done this face to face.

    Bottom line, these are things that newlyweds should not surprise each other with.

  • It would be one thing if he didn't know much about you, but you don't have to explain who you are as a whole person.

    Tell him you are into it and tell him it isn't a deal breaker if he isn't interested.

    When he forgets your birthday he'll be glad to fart to make it up to you ;-)

  • Omg wow I clicked on this question because I thought the title said "how do I tell my husband I'm a cat" but I was in for a big surpririse once I started reading the question... personally I think that is fucking disgusting but it sounds like your husband might be into it so go for it?

  • It's good to be fully honest with your partner about what your fetishes and fantasies are. As long as you're dating someone who isn't a judgmental prude, they shouldn't be bothered by something wild.

    I would imagine odds are low that he shares this fetish, but maybe knowing it turns you on peek his interest. It's not something I'd ever want to do, but then again I've never had something a partner wanted to try that they weren't able to talk me into doing.

  • Oh wow. I don't know... maybe you should drink with him and tell him when you're super wasted and if he doesn't take it well you can blame it on the alcohol later? That's hardcore man, lol.

    • I have been into this since a teen started of fapping into anal porn. graduated into scat. probably watched every brazilian japanese and german scat video. no in my 30s paying Asian escorts to shit on me

  • You got married at 16? I don't know where to even start with this one. Good luck!

    • I didn't say we got married then , I said we've been together since then.

  • cool story, bro

  • I think you should just tell him in a joking way or just be straight honest with them that you enjoy scat play how far does the scat play go that you think you would do. Do you want him to shit on you in your face or on your body do you want to do that to him and would you want him to fart in your face or during sex. Sounds really hot I know a lot of people don't accept it or think it's weird or disgusting which it can be but I think it'd be hot with you.

  • Maybe sit down and talk to him about both of your fantasys and turn ons. Ask him if he has any extreme, different ones, then tell him yours. He loves you, so I doubt he would judge :B If I got told that I'd think it's weird but it wouldn't change my opinion of the person

  • Have you had any luck with this yet? If your husband cares about you, he is likely more willing to help you explore your interests and curiosities independently of whether or not he has a similar interests.

    You can bring it up as a joke to see how he reacts. In fact, you can joke as if it's HIS idea and that you might consider letting him do this if he's extra nice.

    As for his statement, “as long as you don't want to put your face down there,” he was likely self-conscious and not against the idea on principle or anything.

    You can always work up to it by starting low and going slowly. Heck, tell him that you're embarrassed to poop around him and would like his assistance to get over this. Have him start to come with you when you poop. Once he does it for you, you can encourage him to let you join him while he poops.

    Trust me, there are LOTS of ways to introduce taboo ideas with one's partner. If nothing else, you could always tell him that you have a few unusual interests/kinks/fetishes but feel too embarrassed to bring them up. He'll likely try to get you to open up about them. You might be pleasantly surprised.

    Let us know what happens.

  • Just tell him I doubt he will leave you for telling him who knows he might even get turned on by that.

  • None of this is true.

  • Makes my fetish look boring

  • Fkn disgusting. not into that.

  • You really need to talk to him about it. Not doing so is going to lead to you becoming frustrated because you don't know. If you talk and find out he's not in to then you know it's not going to happen. Who knows, he might be willing to experiment with you.
    Good luck.

  • Just go for it. It's good to have honest discussions about sex and fantasies. You may find that he likes scat too! Good luck and have fun

  • I might be able to help you. Pm me.

  • this post is over a year old, just wondering if you have been successful or changed you mind. let us know

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