Why do men need or pull away after sex?

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I'm not really the close type. I just have sex and hope the guy will want to continue having sex with me as well as a friendship. But recently, I had sex and this guy pulled away like immediately. I called him once yesterday and today so I said I'm not calling anymore b/c I don't call people period. So I'm moving on and maybe another guy will come into the picture and replace him. But why do guys pull away after sex? You could be cuddling, kissing, etc and he's giving you the vibe that you two are connected but then he pulls away the next day. I read something about guys wanting independence or something?

Answer 1

witzelsucht | 245 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

You know that the male orgasm triggers a hormone that makes them sleepy, and this is said to result from evolutionary reasons, but I don't think women have a similar mechanism. I try not to fall asleep like that with my SO and try to cuddle, but I just get too sleepy.

But if the dude does not call the next couple of days and you feel you are being ignored, that's your cue to move on to the next guy waiting in line for your charms. Never mind that stuff about independence, men are programed by evolution to gravitate toward the female. Girls should have as many men as possible to choose the best one, I feel.

In other words, it's not you, it's him.

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Answer 2

Metal189

Yoda

guys want you to show you care. call him, text him whatever...we want to see you want us (if you do). the question is, how much, is too much? and basically the same rule applies to women, as it does to men, typically you shouldn't be calling or texting more than twice in a row

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Asker

+1 y
Ok so I don't do that. I'm trying to not come across as clingy b/c I don't call people...ever. But why do I need to show you guys I care if you pull back with no explanation?
Metal189

+1 y
because we're most likely pulling back, due to your reaction
Asker

+1 y
No, there was no reaction for him to pull back. We had sex and it was a normal day, just he didn't call or anything after to say if it was good sex or not. You guys play too much
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Metal189

+1 y
no, why should we do it first, why can't you? you are pulling away, so we do
Asker

+1 y
Well he did it first. I tried to call him to converse with him and he didn't talk to me today or yesterday. One call each day is enough. He pulled back and I don't know why. It's not always the woman's fault.
Metal189

+1 y
its not always the womans fault, but its not always the mans fault either
Asker

+1 y
Ugh, you're no help.
Metal189

+1 y
you're none either
Asker

+1 y
Shut up you mocker lol
Metal189

+1 y
no, you
Asker

+1 y
you are such a kid. you suck!

Answer 3

Asker

Ok so I don't do that. I'm trying to not come across as clingy b/c I don't call people...ever. But why do I need to show you guys I care if you pull back with no explanation?

Answer 4

Metal189

because we're most likely pulling back, due to your reaction

Answer 5

Asker

No, there was no reaction for him to pull back. We had sex and it was a normal day, just he didn't call or anything after to say if it was good sex or not. You guys play too much

Answer 6

Metal189

no, why should we do it first, why can't you? you are pulling away, so we do

Answer 7

Asker

Well he did it first. I tried to call him to converse with him and he didn't talk to me today or yesterday. One call each day is enough. He pulled back and I don't know why. It's not always the woman's fault.

Answer 8

Metal189

its not always the womans fault, but its not always the mans fault either

Answer 9

Asker

Ugh, you're no help.

Answer 10

Metal189

you're none either

Answer 11

Asker

Shut up you mocker lol

Answer 12

Metal189

no, you

Answer 13

Asker

you are such a kid. you suck!

Answer 14

1cubby1

Xper 6

Are you giving your sacred vagina up too easily? Guys will do anything to have sex and it is your job to make them earn it. Date a few times a find a connection that isn't just physical. Develop the relationship you want (friends, bf, w/e) that you mentioned your wanted and then get intimate. Don't be intimate and then try forming a relationship.

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Answer 15

Keyspirits

Guru

Haha u got played! He juz use u for that reason and leave. Simple and plain. After he get what he wanted, there's no physical attraction left in him. Guys luv to experience many holes so he left to find another one. Hoppers are everywhere, genuine people are perrty rare these days. Guess the playa left ya..learn crom ur mistake. Toughluck!

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