A bunch of questions about sex...specifically blowjobs?

[Anonymous]

Obviously, I'm not well-versed in sex and the flow of things. I don't really understand how things go from making out to oral to sex...how does the flow work? I really don't want things to be awkward on dates, so I am just gonna be straightforward and ask a few questions to you guys that I'm confused/insecure about. I don't want to make a fool of myself in front of guys by being nervous and not understanding how to "flow" into it, or by creating awkward pauses or being/moving strangely. * How do I know if a guy wants sex and not just a blowjob? * If a blowjob is going to lead to sex, how do I tell? Will he pull me up, or hint at it? * If it is going to lead to sex, should I not let him come during the blowjob? Isn't everything pretty much over once he comes? If I do need to stop mid-blowjob...then how do I do that without it being awkward? * When and how do I initiate a blowjob... or will he? *When should we put on the condom before actually f**king so it isn't an awkward pause during everything? Does he expect me to put it on, or will he? I am horrified that I'll do it wrong. * How will I know when he wants to stop foreplay and go into the sex? Will he motion toward it? I know it's about just "acting natural", but I am so awkward and I suck at "reading" people. I'm not losing my virginity or anything like that, though I AM very inexperienced when it comes to the actual thing, and I am horrified that I'm going to screw up and be mocked, or even worse, make the guy miserable during everything and make him unattracted to me. I have enough trouble finding guys that are even attracted to me, so I don't want to screw it up in the bedroom. I want to come off as confident and expeirenced, not...this.

[summera7]

Girl, your asking all these questions, but try asking yourself what you want. What turns you on? What position feels good? Fast or slow? Nothing will make you seem more confident and experienced than knowing what you want, and showing it. If you don't know, pretend! You'll figure out eventually. He'll be happy either way, I guarantee it. Don't be afraid to come up from giving head and kiss his neck, whisper in his ear if he has a condom. If you don't want to have sex, and he pulls you up, push him back down on the bed and tell him you want him to cum in your mouth. If you really don't care, and want him to lead, tell him, but make sure you still seem like you're enthusiastic about it. Tell him how much you want him, and that he can have you any way he wants. In terms of transitioning without anything being awkward, dont take your hands or eyes off of him. The moment right before sex is always amazing, it's near impossible to feel awkward if you're truly turned on. While he's putting on the condom, get behind him and rub your hands down his back, moan, kiss his neck. Whatever. If you still need extra help, maybe play music throughout to avoid silence :)

The most important thing is that if you're not enjoying it, you're doing it wrong! Sex should be fun or intimate or naughty, never ever stressful. You're worried what he will think of you which is natural, but I'm worried what you think of yourself. You are a sexy mother fucker! And it'll be fine, I promise <3<3

[rotinaj10]

Solid advice

[Torrie]

1. My bf will ask me for a blowjob or will just go right for sex.
2. Sometimes oral can be used as foreplay. My bf normally will grab the condoms or tell me to get on top if it's just foreplay.
3.Some guys can go more than one round, so it really depends on the guy.
4. I feel like it just kinda happens naturally, but sometimes he'll ask.
5. Whenever he is fully erect. I put the condom on sometimes and sometimes he does. If the condom doesn't roll down easily, you either put it on the wrong way, or it's the wrong way.
6. I feel like you just kinda know.
If something goes wrong, it's always best to laugh it off. No matter how experienced you are, things can and will go wrong once in a while. Just try to relax as much as possible.

[Hornychap]

Firstly, I would find it a turn on if a girl was inexperienced (eg not knowing how to put a condom on). I think the only reason why a guy would want an inexperienced girl is if she is not willing to be adventurous in bed. By the sound of things you are very keen to please him so he is a very lucky guy. He will almost certainly want a blowjob and sex. Maybe you could start will a blowjob and if he cums, tell him you want him to eat you out. That will give him time to recover for sex and will get him hard again (nothing gets me harder than when a girl cums while I'm giving her head). If he doesn't cum during the blowjob you could stop and say "I can't wait any longer I need you inside my pussy". Putting the condom on is tricky. Need to make sure you put it on the right way. Probably best to let him do it. Maybe when it's time grab one, put it in his hand and say "hurry up and put this on I need your dick in my pussy". You could then play with yourself or him if he's not already hard. As for positions that is really the guys problem. If he wants you in a certain position he is going to have to tell you or move you. If you have watched p*rn you will probably rock his world anyway because he will have probably watched the same stuff and want you to do that. Like I say though I would find it a big turn on if you were honest and told me you weren't very experience and just go with the flow and see what happens.

[AustinMan]

I could go question by question but here's the net: let him lead and follow. If he wants you to go down on him, he'll probably give you some indicator. You can always start to pull him out and if he doesn't stop you, get down there and go for it. Enthusiasm is the most important factor in a great bj. If he wants sex, he'll let you know. If he doesn't it may be that he's too shy but when he gets to know you better, he'll let you know. You could always ask him while you're having a drink, just hint that you're up for it.

[gonyr]

we want both. Always. Do whatever you want. Sex isn't all about doing what we guys want you to. You have a say

-depends. I'm sure every guy is different. It also depends on what you want to do, not just him

-dirty talk during it. Tell him you want him to fuck you or say something similar. This will also help with needing to stop. If you do need to stop, you can also just hj for a bit

-unless he starts forcing your head down I doubt a guy really can initiate a bj on himself. So it's on you. If your making out, start heading down there, he will go nuts

-definitely use a condom. Put it on before you have any penetration. He should know how to do it.

It can happen naturally. You can also talk during sex. It doesn't have to all go by instinct. You can tell each other what you want.

Update: see the last answer

[jamiexoxo]

* How do I know if a guy wants sex and not just a blowjob? he always wants a blowjob * If a blowjob is going to lead to sex, how do I tell? Will he pull me up, or hint at it? forget sex, swallow
* If it is going to lead to sex, should I not let him come during the blowjob? Isn't everything pretty much over once he comes? yes!!! take his cum in your mouth it's far more intense & have him eat your pussy, while the engine room re-loads his Orchis for round 3 pussy sex...
* When and how do I initiate a blowjob... or will he? He'll likely have difficulty initiating a blowjob on himself, so i'd go just swallow that beauty, How many times? 5 times a day,
*When should we put on the condom before actually f**king so it isn't an awkward pause during everything? Does he expect me to put it on, or will he? put the condom on whenever suits both & yes practice putting the condom on with your mouth.
* How will I know when he wants to stop foreplay and go into the sex? Will he motion toward it? don't worry he won't, i like to hold a girls head to guide her rhythm & depth i can go ;-)
Could i suggest watching a bit of porn? just to get the pace & flow of erotic sex & get a few tips,
try not to over think it either, you always have the upper hand, guy's will do anything for blowjobs x

[joshshows]

just enjoy it and dont think so much about all that stuff...it will happen how it happens...and im pretty sure HE will initiate stuff...just follow his lead...and no matter what...he will like it...PERIOD...he's a guy and your going to give him some nookie...so trust me, no matter how much you think your screwing it up...YOU'RE NOT!

[joshshows]

oh...and definitely dont stop in the middle of the blowjob...until he cums...and make sure you swallow it all gone...guys LOVE THAT

[Amit_a]

There is standard set of practice. ..go by flow...don't think much of it

[Wolfwarner99]

Go with the flow, if you're getting into it, virtually anything you do will be okay, weather you give him a hand job, grind on his dick suck his dick or fuck him, if you're ready to advance then he definitely will be, if he wants to advance (which he usually will) he pry won't say anything but he will pry hint weather it's obvious like pushing your head down to his dick or if he just keeps pushing his hips into you or something

[Anonymous]

A lot of it is instinct but don't be afraid to ask what he likes and tell him what you like.