My boyfriend stepdad saw me naked, telling my boyfriend may cause more relationship problems between them?

[Anonymous]

my Boyfriend really dislikes his stepdad and chooses not to even call him that but calls him by his first name. He came into his life when my boyfriend was 14 and they have had problems ever since. He and I came into town yesterday for his moms birthday we stayed at their house and there has been very little communication between the two of them and what little conversation was between the two of them was mostly negative. My boyfriend loves his mom but can't stand to be around his stepdad and he was telling me last night how much he hates him and wants to punch him in the face. I tried calming my boyfriend down not letting things get to him and we would only be staying one more night. Today is his mom's birthday my boyfriend got up early this morning and went to the store before I got ready to get his mom the cake he ordered. While he was gone I hopped in the shower and started getting ready for the day. The room we stated in at his moms house has a shower and bathroom in it so we had our own, when I got out of the shower I dried off and hung the towel over the shower curtain and walked out of the bathroom and into the bedroom naked thinking no one would be in there and there was his step dad standing in the room right next to my thong and bra I had laid on the bed and I could tell that he had moved them. He saw full frontal view of me naked , he scared me I put my hands over my boobs and vagina and it was like he was still trying to look at me. He acted like nothing was going on and just nonchalantly walked out of the room and said sorry. I could so tell he was in their on purpose he had to know I was in the shower and he was messing with my underwear. I did not tell my boyfriend about this yet because I don't want to ruin his mom's birthday because I know my boyfriend would be pissed. Even if I tell him afterwards it will only cause more problems between the two of them. You think I should keep this to myself or tell him? I just don't problems.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

The problem is the step dad. He sounds like a complete asshole and your boyfriend is correct to hate him so much. Your boyfriend probably noticed what kind of guy he was from the get go. For whatever reason his mom refuses to see it.

You are completely right. The guy was just waiting for you to get out of the shower. He saw your clothes on the bed, obviously heard the shower and the water on... waiting for you to come out. Plain and simple. Then he just continues staring while you're hurriedly trying to get yourself together. Shame... villainous.

Fuck that. Tell your boyfriend ASAP. Fuck his mom. Her dumb ass should know better than to get involved with such a douche bag. If you want you can just explain to him how you don't want his mom's birthday ruined, just like you explained to us, but I wouldn't hide it from him. If anything it'll show him that you're more worthy of trust and that he has to watch out for that asshole even more - which he does, because who knows what else that bastard is liable to do? He obviously has no shame and he's just a dirty old bastard. For all you know he may try to creep into the shower with you the next time you're alone.

Just thinking about it gets me all pissed off. I feel like ending that old man.

[Asker]

I didn't add this into my question but when I was taking a shower I had that sixth sense feeling like someone was watching me. There is no door between the shower and the bedroom it's just a walkway and the shower curtain is clear plastic. He could've been peeking around the corner watching me take a shower for all I know.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Tell your boyfriend. The girls on here are sitting around telling you not to say anything. All that does is sow mistrust. Don't be THAT girl that's misleads, lies, and plays games. A lot of guys hate that. We'd rather just know. Like I said, you can try convincing him to remain calm. Each guy is different. I, personally, would listen to you out of respect for you coming clean to me right away, as a favor to YOU. And yes, that's absolutely vile. So now he was peeking at you through the shower curtain? I ABSOLUTELY BELIEVE IT. Trust me, I'm not one to jump to conclusions but I mean this is like common sense shit. He shouldn't have been in your room in the first place.

[Asker]

I really really hope he wasn't watching me in the shower. I may have been doing something personal for myself in there that's only for me and my boyfriend to see

[truthbeknown]

Ok, what happens if you tell him and he does physically assault his SD? Now he is charged and may face jail time. Who knows? If you know their relationship is so volatile, why add fuel to the fire? I fully understand you feel violated, and your privacy was infringed upon. You have the need to tell someone as you feel this guy should get into trouble. Even if you tell his mom, that could totally back fire and she may resent you. Some things are better left unsaid. No one was hurt, except your pride maybe. You already know this guy is total douche bag. I would say nothing, but for sure watch your step around this creep!

[Paris13]

Being he feels this strongly about his step dad, and you have made this quite Obvious he Does, And it Is his mom's birthday, don't say anything. Let sleeping dogs lie.
Yes, his behavior was Rude, disrespectful And------purposeful, no doubt, but it's best to keep quiet, then to unleash a mad dog who could end up 'punching him even More in the face.'
Might I suggest, since it's also Obvious he has his naked eye set on something More tasteful than your 'thong and bra,' that you and your other half rent a motel room the next time you come to town. This will keep the peace and the old bull dog at mom's... from licking his choppers.
Good luck.xx

[Asker]

Thank you that's good advice about staying somewhere else next time I just hope his mom would understand why

[Paris13]

With the way her son feels about his step dad, it would definitely be an open and shut case. I know you feel violated, any girl would, but it's better to be silent, than to stir up a hornet's nest that could have many repercussions and hurt feelings. What happened to you was awful, embarrassing, but let This be a lesson learned in the future that before anything More would occur, as you know now this man cannot be totally trusted, this better to avoid it.xx

[lumos]

Tell his mom first and foremost. Maybe not right now, but in a couple of days. She deserves to know what a creep this guy is. Seriously. You don't need to tell your boyfriend though. Things might turn real ugly if he finds out, which could potentially be dangerous (since he's already pissed at his stepdad).
But yeah. Talk to his mom. Seriously. She needs to know.

[helloeveryone123213]

My boyfriend dad walked in on me one time when I was getting changed. It was embarrassing

[icantwait]

Uh that's f'ing creepy
Will cause massive problems if you say to your boyfriend. Um maybe tell his step dad you are not okay with that and I he does it again you will tell his family and the police. Bet he was sniffin your panties
Ugh..

[ArabianPwincess197]

It was also your fault 1) should have locked the door. 2) it wasn't your place so you shouldn't have walked out without the towel. Especially when its being shared with someone etc

[Modernhippy]

she actually has a good point.

[ArabianPwincess197]

Thankyou

[abundantlyrich]

Tell him when the bday is over.

[Citizenkirk]

The way you described it, the guy was perving on your undergarments, and then you, in a most distasteful kind of way. If that's all he did, than maybe not mentioning it too your boyfriend is the way too go, if you believe he might become violent with his stepdad. If he has made no advances towards you, and has done no additional creepy Norman Bates crap with you, than if damage control is worth keeping that too yourself, than that may be your best option. If you feel irredeemably violated, but fear a violent altercation if you say anything, then perhaps choosing a time and place in which a reaction from your boyfriend may be less extreme, or have less extreme consequences, from lack of an opportunity too vent his rage on his stepdad, might be an option. Unfortunately, I don't think I am qualified too tell you what the right course of action is, for you too take, and am not even sure the suggestions I provided are even appropriate for your situation. I only know that you described a potentially volatile situation where you, and these other people, could come too harm if things are as bad as they sound from this perspective I am reading things from. If that's the case, than maybe advice from someone in law enforcement, if you have a friend or aquantance in that profession, who has experience in these situations when things go south real quick.
All I can say definitively, is that it sounds like that's a situation you should not allow yourself to be put in again, anytime in the foreseeable future.
What this man did just not okay, that's for certain, and you should not give him the opportunity to behave that way in your presence anymore.

[Terryrocks]

Just keep it to yourself, nothing serious happened, for god sake how can you even ask such a question?

[Asker]

How could I even ask such a question? I could tell it wasn't an accident. It was like in a creepy way and I could tell he was messing with my underwear.

[Terryrocks]

I know but telling your bf would be very lame..

[Asker]

I don't really understand your theory. No more comments are needed from you

[ledfoot64]

I would tell his mom maybe she can talk to him if not tell your bf and if he knocks his step dad's head off then good for your bf

[Peter05]

If he really hates him that much then you should not tell him, or you can cause some serious problems, you want someone to end up in hospital?

[ResBanana]

Tell his mom..
And after that tell him that his stepdad saw younaked. But don't tell him yet what you think about it. The purpose thing. Just tell him the facts

[Anonymous]

Report him that is sexual harrassment