Just venting, why do guys have it so easy when it comes to sex x (?

A guys first time is almost guaranteed to be an amazing experience. A girl has to go through the pain of being pushed into and ripped open. For the first few times. A girl is sort of expected to (or the guy REALLY wants it) swallow cum and let the guy come in her mouth. A lot of guys try to get the girl to try and deep throat. As if having your dicks in our mouths wasn't good enough. Girls hardly ever cum from sex. We have to shave constantly. arm pits, legs, pussy, and crack for some girls, a guy could just trim every now and then and have it not be an issue. Sex doesn't stop hurting for a while for a girl. A girl feels bad rejecting a guy when the guy is in the mood and she isn't. Sex only lasts until the guy is finished. Its almost like masturbating with our body. Were still expected to do (or guys would really like it) sexual favors while were on our period, "Blow job week" Some girls take fake hormones to trick their bodies into thinking theyre pregnant just so the guy doesn't have to wear a condom (among other things. Like no periods and not getting pregnant :p but at an arguably high cost) 'I can't feel anything with a condom on' I know these things dont apply to every guy, im just venting. A lot of stuff is unfair when it comes to sex :/ I like having sex with my bf and I like giving bjs, but I feel like guys don't know the troubles we go through just to please them. Feel free to comment your opinions aswell
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And one of the com enters just brought up a point. Gynos Girls have to get probed and scraped and fingered by a doctor regularly. I've heard some will stick a finger up your ass to check for things too. Imagine having a vag, having something pushed
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(2/2) In there, and then pushed OPEN, and then having a long thing scrape at the deepest part of your vag. More of a lady problem than a couples problem, but still. It ain't easy being a female :(
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  • OK, every time my girlfriend and I have sex I always make her cum at least once. After she has had at least one orgasm I usually take my time to cum myself so she can really enjoy the feeling and the results of her orgasm. I take pride in making her orgasm more than once and she knows most women are lucky to even receive one, so she is very satisfied. Yes I do prefer her to be shaved clean in her vagina area, but she also likes going down and giving me blowjobs the most when I am clean shaved myself. So, I am usually typically very well groomed all over and I have no hair down there. As a result, my girlfriend loves sucking my dick and does it regularly because I make her orgasm all the time and I really enjoy going down on her. Not to mention, she does enjoy deep throating me, I do not make her do it either. Sometimes if we are both tired we will just 69 until we both cum. And it would be a lie to say that the first time my girlfriend ever swallowed was not a result of me asking. She had only been with one other guy and had never done it before, but after that she has continued to do it except when she is in the mood for me to cum on her body in different places which she enjoys as well.

    Do we use condoms? Nope, neither of us enjoy them at all. And before you go and give me the STI and potential pregnancy speech, STOP! We have been together for three years and we will be getting married soon as I am getting ready to propose to her very soon. We love each other very much and are completely monogamous. She is not on birth control and we have been using the pull out method for over two years now. Yes I know it is risky, but it has worked out very well and I have never cum inside her vagina. If my girlfriend is too tired for sex, I try to be as understanding as possible and she always makes it up to me.

    As a guy, I am sorry it is painful when you first start having sex and I feel bad about the gyno part as well, but that is not my fault or the fault of other men.

  • Sex was never designed to be cheap. The guy "Thrusting into you, tearing and stretching you" should be the man who has spent year (s) getting to know and love you. He will know better than to mindlessly hump your vulnerable body. That is something your "Boyfriend of two months" would do. He doesn't care. He never invested the time to get to know you.

    There is another aspect to it that you do not understand. A woman has the ultimate ability to control her desires, and make sex something amazing for the man. Without her getting into it, without her actually enjoying it, I hate to break it to you- but he will not, either. He'd be better off with his hand. Almost no guys will admit that, but it's true.

    As far as the trouble you go through, some men are fully aware. Some men understand and respect women, holding them on a high pillar. Women have it difficult, in almost every way. Don't think we are all oblivious, some of us, very few of us, get it. We know. And it means the world to us that you would show us affection. We understand that it takes a lot of work on our part to be worthy mates, be men who you want with all of your earthly heart.

    We will not tear into you if you are a virgin. We will only respond when you say. If it takes two weeks, we will not hurt you. You are treasured to us, and your enjoyment is paramount.

    But we are few I am sorry to say. Not many ware willing to endure the temptations of having sex outside of marriage. Or, taking the time to get to know and love a woman, in celibacy. The months, and years it can take to fully bond with her.

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  • I don't think that girl is pushed into sex. Maybe yeah, but I think if guy is not able to wait until the girl is ready, then girl is not pushed into anything. She has always a possibility to dump him and that's what girls should do. No one should do things that she is not comfortable with in order to please a guy (at least when it comes to sex).

    • I mean like your cuddling and he wants to have sex but you're just not in the mood. Hell say 'okay' but you can just see it in is face that he's dissapointed. That hurts.

  • I agree with some of these points. many can apply to both men and women though. Just remember not to do anything that you don't want to do just because a man wants you to

  • You forgot guys treat going down on us as an occasional thing to try or don't want to do it at all but we're still expected to always give bjs

    • and thats why you don´t date douchebags.

    • Seems like that's 99% of men then

    • Exactly ^ and exactly v

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  • I've given waaaaaay more orgasms then I've received. My wife had one out first time.

    I've taken care of birth control.

    Sex lasts till were finished? Yeah that sucks. We can end up spending most of the sex trying NOT to enjoy it too much so we last for you.

    And I've taken some significant pain for the sake of a better sex life.

    Pick better men. And if you can't enjoy sex, figure out and fix the problem.

  • Its almost like masturbating with our body." XD I died laughing when I saw this!!

  • I'm sorry that's your sex life.

  • Not all guys are in the demands of what you vented trust me
    i want a girl whose vagina is hairy, i hate shaved, bald vagina's
    i want a girl who likes to be pampered, all i ever demand is making
    the girl feel good , give her full body orgasms and so far never found
    that girl that i would like to have.

    • I've posted another question today about age and hair preferences. I'm sticking to guys around my own age (20's) and almost all of them want it shaved lol

    • Good for you !!!

  • I must say til i reached around maybe 30 i suppose i had some of those mental thoughts of sex but from 31 i would say my thoughts changed for example saying cunt in front of a girl now is horrifying to me and being crude is just so insulting to ladies but you just have to learn these things

  • A girl is sort of expected to (or the guy REALLY wants it) swallow cum and let the guy come in her mouth.

    So what a guy has to go down on a girl and it takes longer than blowing a guy usually. Plus not every guy expects you to swallow its nice sometimes.

    A lot of guys try to get the girl to try and deep throat. As if having your dicks in our mouths wasn't good enough.

    Deep throat is ok if the girl is up for it if not no big deal.

    Girls hardly ever cum from sex.

    Do girls have to always cum? It's not our fault nature made you that way. Are you gonna complain about having periods too and bleeding every month? And getting moody and having cramps?

  • a lot of problems you mentioned are result of having to much douchebags (probably even all of them to some extend). even the first time doesn´t have to be painfull, if you have a caring partner. the first time can be horribly awkward to guys too. i really pitty you for the period though XD wouldn´t want to have that.

    • I've heard that it doesn't have to be painful my entire life and i told that to my guy but it made no difference. He went INCREDIBLY SLOW. We used lots of lube. As he slid it in centimeter by centimeter I could feel myself tearing. He actually didn't even get it all the way in until the third time we tried it (three different occasions/ days) "Oh if you were turned on and if he was gentle you should stretch but not tear you hymen" BULL.SHIT. I believed that my whole life! Granted he was 7 inches and I could snugly fit my hand around him, but still >:p After he got it all the wah in though and thrust SLOWLY for a few minutes (which also hurt) I got used to it and it was actually pretty pleasurable. For a while after it was always difficult to get things started, and getting it all the way in was still a bit painful.

    • yeah i guess some hymen are quite narrow... don´t know if it could be helped by extended foreplay or going even slower like maybe not even penetrating completely the first time. but it can be painfull for guys too. for example a friend of mine tore his penile frenulum the first time he had sex.

    • Wtf ...

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  • Same reason why you get people from South London voting BNP: Because the world is a strange, random place.

  • It can still be awkward for guys at first too. They usually have to do all the work and worry about performance anxiety and self control. Girls pretty much just have to show up and lay there. Plus sex is easier for girls to get than it is for guys. Guys do ask a lot of the girls though, with the swallowing and the blowjobs. But for the most part I feel like it kinda evens out.

    • Sex would be easy if the girl were out for a one night stand, which most are not. Its usually the hot guys and girls who get sex easy. Not every girl. I know j wasn't one of them. I'm shy and I could never approach a guy like that. I've been told 'you could get any guy you want' but I didn'twant a gross one night stand. I wanted to do it with someone who liked me. Guys make themselves seem so pathetic that they would jump at any opportunity to have sex with a random girl.

    • You being shy is totally fine because you don't need to approach. They'll come to you. A shy guy is gonna have some problems though. At least in my experience, i have to approach and be rejected again and again before I get accepted by someone. So in bed, it's nice to feel like I have the power. No one should be forced to do anything they don't want to do of course, but you can see why some guys might be like that.

    • Problem is I don't like being approached by guys because all they want is sex -.- I want to like someone as a person before things get serious. I like being friends first. Girls aren't guys. Just bexause sex is offered up doesn't mean we want it.

  • Don't speak for us all lol. We aren't the "giving" sex. I'm sure many of us feel rejected if a guy denies us sex. Get over yourself little girl.

  • Its Very very fast and not amazing more like, give me 5 min and we go again xd

  • When your boyfriend asked you out you should have said no and considered becoming a lesbian.

  • but girls can get sex easier than guys can since girls don't have to initiate or escalate anything with a guy, and most guys will never say no to sex

    • Are guys so sex-crazed that they'd do any girl that asked? That's not what most girls are looking for. And if a girl can go out and get a guy to bang, then there's an equal amount of guys and girls getting some. :P Stuff like that is usually reserved for the 10/10 girls and guys.

    • ya but guys have to know how to get it, girls don't need to know how to get it since it just happens out of thin air for them

    • I hate having to initiate