My boyfriend think's he is inadequate in bed because he can't make me orgasm. But he isn't. He's anything but that. What can I do, say, or tell him?

[Anonymous]

We had this "fight" about sex. His feelings are hurt because he can't make me orgasm. But no other guy could either so it isn't him. It's me. I don't know why though. I mean I can make myself orgasm, it's just that other people can't. I love him very much and I don't want him to think that I have sex with him just because he wants to. That is clearly not the case and I want sex just as much as he does. I was thinking of writing a letter to make him feel better. Any thoughts of what I should say in this letter?

[RedRhyno]

Don't write him a letter. He needs to hear more about what you love about him. Go up behind him when he isn't pay attention, wrap your arms around his neck, give his ear lobe a quick lick and a nibble and whisper to him in your most seductive voice how you were just thinking about something he does in bed that you love. Keep letting him know that you are loving what he is doing and encourage him to do it more. Maybe even moan a touch louder for him. Do not by any means start faking orgasms, that leads to all sorts of nasty trust issues. Maybe get him to do whatever you do to make yourself cum. Guide his hand and get him to do the motions you normally do. He may even make you cum. At the very least he will have a better idea on what he needs to do. Having something to work on will make him feel better. Good luck with this, I know how tricky a situation this can be.

[cruze13]

Time and patience you both can't get discouraged. I never was into oral being givin to me and when I met my honey it was over its a must now. Introduce toys, talk dirty take advantage of him. Im not always into gettinf my self off I always tell my guy that im here to please and make you happy and I also do a lot of online reading to find out new ways to spice things up. Try and have a heart to heart with him, devour his mind body and soul and let him know that you love him and you want to see him happy and it shouldn't matter if you orgasm or not I mean that would be my approach. But toys can be alittle scarey at first but try and see where he can get you talk dirty play roles.

[Oddhonesty]

I have the same issue because I'm overly sensitive to others touch. We've had a talk and I simply made a point in saying that sex is satisfying even if there isn't always a orgasm. Also you could try masturbating while having sex it usually turns guys on and it feels great for him when you orgasm while He's in you.

[Annymous8]

Does he know that no other guy hasn't made you orgasm?

[genericname85]

can you orgasm on your own?