Why do I become extra horny during certain days at a stretch?

[Anonymous]

First things first. I'm a 28 year old straight guy with a decent career. My looks are above average, I'm quite friendly and have a good sense of humor. And a virgin too. Before you conclude that I'm a loser, I'd like to affirm that its not the lack of opportunities or a religion thing. On an average, I jack off 2 to 3 times a week. Started it kinda early when I was just 11 (don' know if that's abnormal). I sometimes go a couple of weeks without masturbating, when I'm stressed or have some issues. Nothing of concern, I know. But likewise, there are some days on which I get extremely horny, and masturbate for 2 to 3 times a day. Usually, these bouts of 'extreme horniness' lasts several days at a stretch, and then everything returns to normal. Currently I'm going through one of those 'extreme horny' phases, but I'm quite worried because this time, it has lasted longer than usual (8 days and counting). I masturbate twice a day on working days, and 3 times a day on weekends. Previously, the longest this phase lasted was 5 days at a stretch. Even now, its not at all affecting my ability to work at office, or any other aspect of my life negatively. But still, it feels extremely awkward and uncomfortable (mentally, not physically) to be jacking off as often as I'm doing. Earlier I never bothered much because after a few days, everything returned to normal. But this time, it has been 8 days and there are no signs of getting back to normal. Please help me out. I'm really worried about this. I just want to get back to my usual self of not having the urge to jack off more than 2 to 3 times per week.

[saccharose]

Well, there are few reasons of masturbation one of them is that when somebody is nervous or stressed out they masturbate to feel better and relax their mind and it helps sometimes because excess of masturbation creates deficiency of folic-acid and zinc which actually are related to emotion control as well. I mean one will get more emotional when there is a deficiency of these minerals which means less stressed out and more emotional. Secondly, masturbation helps some people to get more sleep or easy to get to sleep because after all one is burning calories and ejaculating sperms which eventually decreases testosterone levels for certain period of time. Now about your condition, there are always two chemicals (sorry I don't remember the names anymore) in the body which works side by side. One of them is desire and second is satisfaction. Desire increases when we see something exotic or sensual and then when someone masturbates that desire remains the same although level of that chemical which deals with satisfaction increases and that game goes unless someone stops from doing that for at least 8 weeks. Through that those brain chemicals will get back to their normal levels. This is the whole science which I know of, I hope it will help. Because its up to you to get normal, nobody else can make you do it, maybe visit some of your relatives for few days or go to some new place with friends that will change your environment which will divert your mind from masturbation. Good Luck

[Asker]

Wow, that so so informational! Thanks a lot for taking time out to provide such an insightful opinion! Much appreciated!

[saccharose]

My pleasure :)

[pedro28]

don't worry about these supposed phases... we humans are not constant creatures not are we static... we change very often, just like how you can't always feel happiness... this is normal and happens to all of us.. some people are much more on the extremes than you but this is normal.. I have phases where I do some days more than others and some days where i don't at all...

[Asker]

Thanks for your reassuring answer! I'm mighty relieved! I just hope I get out of this 'phase' sooner rather than later.

[pedro28]

my pleasure... I assure you this 'phase' is nothing to worry about... instead of focusing on it being a phase see it as a continuum of your yearly sexuality... what you're going to is very normal, it just varies slightly from others which is normal because no 2 people are 100% similar..

[CuriousNobody]

Don't think about it, probably just a phase because you stress about your work or other stuff...
And maybe, one of my friends told me they think about or watch stuff that stuff really disgusted them to stop them from masturbating...

[Asker]

Actually, in my case stress actually prevents me from masturbating too much. Anyway, thanks for your answer. Much appreciated. I'll try to follow your suggestion of watching something gross, and see if that helps!

[TheLastGirlScout]

It's just normal. if you're not getting sexual satisfaction from an actual partner it's probably not as easily sated.

[Asker]

Yeah, I think you have a very valid point. I'm demisexual, and I haven't yet found a woman with whom I can connect on an emotional and intellectual level.

[TheLastGirlScout]

Hey, if you don't feel that close then that's up to you. As long as you're happy with that and it's not becoming an emotional issue or hang up.

[TheLastGirlScout]

when you say "intellectual level" what do you mean exactly?

[Asker]

Well... I'm considered to be quite an intelligent person by people around me. Although I'm not really looking for a super-intelligent woman, I'd definitely prefer someone with with whom i could have conversations which are both meaningful and entertaining, rather than the usual girly dram queen stuff (like shopping, clothes, crushes, heartbreaks etc.). I've realized that when i have conversations with guys, I would have found it so fulfilling in minutes but with girls, even after talking for hours I feel that I'm at the same level as I was before the conversation started. Its not that I never want to talk about the girlish stuff occasionally, but most girls I knew would make such kind of talks their top priority.

[TheLastGirlScout]

sounds like you're talking to completely the wrong girls! most of my female friends are intelligent and engaging individuals who can talk about wonderfully in depth topics.

[Asker]

How I wish there were more such women over here. I have come across a few intelligent and engaging women, but unfortunately they were not interested in me romantically (I don't know the reason for that). So you see, I have to find someone who is engaging, AND also interested in me. This is a pretty tough ask.

[TheLastGirlScout]

I understand where you're coming from, do you socialise outside of your normal group of friends much? Evening classes or hobby/fitness groups are great ways to meet a good mix of people. Sorry, I'm giving you advice about something you didn't ask about... I'll shut up!

[Asker]

No no no! I appreciate the fact that you're taking time out to help me! And I also know very well that the long term or permanent solution to my masturbation problem is by getting into a committed long term relationship which could eventually lead to marriage (so that it eliminates or at least reduces the need to jack off). I have been involved in a couple of relationships too, but they just didn't work out. I'm 28 now, but I became sick and tired of not being able to find someone compatible, that I gave up on women and settled for masturbation as my only means of sexual release (because i don't prefer hookers or friends with benefits). Regarding the part about socializing, I rarely socialize apart from my family and closest friends (who are very few). Not that I wouldn't want to, but I'm just not getting such opportunities. Since i reside in a third world country where such groups aren't common, I don't know of any avenues through which I can find those groups.

[Anonymous]

You have to control it though or you'll end up being a nymphomaniac.

[evellion]

Any chance your "phases" occur sort of monthly?

[Asker]

Nope! Its more like these phases occur 2 to 3 times in a year. I know you're trying to establish an analogy with a woman's periods (probably being sarcastic), but please don't. I'm already worried and stressed due to this issue, and I'm not really in the frame of mind to appreciate any ikind of sarcasm.

[TheLastGirlScout]

I think she is relating to hormone fluctuations which can occur in both men and women, and not being sarcastic at all.

[Asker]

@evellion I'm not really aware of hormones and stuff, so my sincere apologies if you weren't being sarcastic.

[evellion]

Oh no worries. I was talking about hormone fluctuations. Does it occur regularly at all though or is it just random?

[Klaatu51]

well probably it's just a phase. sometimes i feel masturbating twice per day for about a week in a row... and sometimes i've not had a masturbation for a full week again. nothing to worry about :-)

[Asker]

Thanks for your kind answer, which relieved me a lot!

[ledfoot64]

it is normal but if you do not want to be a virgin no more go on line and find someone that is looking for NSA that might help also I am not beingrude about this comment a buddy of mine did that and he got calls from all sorts of women

[Asker]

What's NSA, if you don't mind me asking?

[ledfoot64]

no strings atatched

[Asker]

There lies the problem. I'm demisexual, so its impossible for me to get sexually attracted (and hence, have sex) with any woman if I don't have an emotional and intellectual connection with her.