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How to relax during sex so it goes in?

Me and my boyfriend haven't I guess "officially" had "sex" we've tried a couple times and it never fully goes all the way in. It's really frustrating for me and him. I really want him to go all the way but i can't get myself to not tense up my muscles as he's trying to put it in. I try to relax, stay calm but it hurts i really can't do it. We do some foreplay but it never seems like I'm wet enough. I do get wet, but i feel like our foreplay could be better. We also tried using lube too. The problem is def more so me. I want to make him happy and myself as well an have full intercorse. Any tips on relaxing or how to stay calm and take the pain?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • If you're felxible enough, bring your knees to your chest at time of penetration, it should make it easier for him to put it in. Furthermore, before you start take three deep breaths to ease your nerves. You should undergo at least 20 minutes of foreplay before hand, including fingering (if you can) or general outer-pussy play. And I know you said you'd tried it, but I can not stress enough how important lube is first time round. Put your arms above your head during and before to allow for easier breathing, which may calm you down. If your boyfriend is on the wider side, try breaking your hymen before intercourse, which will ease the pain. Good Luck

    • How do i break my hymen? Im scared to do that! Thank you though!!

    • Have you ever inserted a finger or any foreign object into your vagina before?

    • You don't have to answer haha. My advice would be to use a finger and lubricant (water based) and play with yourself until you feel comfortable to insert a finger. Do so slowly, as it will probably hurt a little. Gradually build until you can insert 3 or least 2. Don't be scared if you bleed, this is natural. Just have a towel handy to stop from getting blood everywhere. This will make sex a lot easier and more enjoyable. Good luck

  • You ought to discuss this with your family if you feel comfortable with that, or with your gynecologist. There is a little pain because you're rupturing a membrane, but if it's that bad there could be a problem.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Krep going with the foreplay until the moment that you can't stand not having him inside you RIGHT NOW. Our bodies are meant for sex, so your body will tell you when it is ready.

    • I hope my answer wasn't rude, but we've all been there. If it is painful because he is pushing up against your hymen, just have him wait a moment or two, and then push himself in. The first time or two might hurt, but after that, it becomes yummy.

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  • Try a more relaxing fore-play, such as a sensual massage with aromatic oil. This will probably both relax and arouse you and it might help.

  • Lots of foreplay. Loosen up by just touching (a massage will do wonders) and kissing then slowly take it from there by letting him finger you. His fingers will stretch you out a bit and make it easier for him to penetrate.

  • "some" foreplay isn't enough :3

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