Anyone here into fat humiliation?

Question

Ok, so, I've been overweight my whole life. Not like super huge or anything but at least chubby always. I used to hate it but I never managed to lose weight for good. I was really ashamed of my weight and didn't want to date anyone or anything...

Then I met a guy who was really nice but he used to tease me a little about my "dieting success" and thick thighs. It wasn't anything mean, just cute. He used to pinch my cheeks and call me a little piggy, then he always said "just kidding baby" and hugged me. He made me feel incredibly sexy, the way I never imagined I could feel. And then i noticed i found it quite hot what he said.

We broke up a long time ago, and now I think I'm really fine with my weight and everything. I don't even try to lose weight anymore (although I don't wanna gain either). I've started to crave someone calling me fat, describing my fatness, shaming how I've let myself go, measuring me and being disgusted or shocked... that kind of things. I'm wondering if there is anyone else into this?

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sawno | 2.8K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

Should i mention your rediciously fat? How disgusting you are? And how shocked i am by that? No i really shouldn't.
Even though the above may have made you feel better for a split second it could have damaged you in the long run (Sorry for that). I don't think its a healthy thing to go trough because i highly doubt you actually crave being called fat. Its something you have gotten used to and since your boyfriend gave you attention about your body and someone you loved commented all about you it gave you the idea that you really want this.

But think it trough! Should i call you fat? Should i shame you? Or should i tell you you are actually a very beautiful girl? Should i tell you how lucky i am to be with a girl like you and how much i adore that body? Which one would you like most? I think its something for you to think about. To think about why you want this so badly rather then trying to find someone to continue the trend. Now if you thought about it for a while and you still want to feel free lol.

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Asker

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How do you think it could damage me? I remember I felt really bad when my boyfriend teased me about my weight but at the same time it felt, hmmm, like it turned me on. I don't even believe any guy could *really* like my body, I don't think fat is attractive at all... Maybe this is really f**** up, I don't know...
sawno

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The thing i noticed with being teased that even if you know its a joke or people doing this because you asked them to its still going to mess with you without realising. It may hurt you or make you more insecure in the long run.
Asker

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Well, yeah, I know. For example I'm really bad at singing and if my friends or family tease me about it I feel very insecure. Maybe it's not so good then. But I still kind of wish I could experience it.
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sawno

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Are you into being called fat , humiliation or being degraded in general. Safest way it would be something that you won't permanently feel insecure about. For example someone shaming you for screwing something up you can easily do better next time.

Again if its your thing i am not saying you should. Just be sure its something you want and know the risk i just mentioned.
Asker

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Hmm that's a good question. No, I hate to fail at things in general, and if someone brings it up it's terrible. I actually like to hear I'm good at things, and there are lot's of things I am. Like at school, a good listener, helpful... so i think it's only the fat thing then. I don't know maybe I have turned it this way because I feel so terrible that I've failed at being attractive and losing weight? Maybe I think I'd get what it takes if I'm humiliated enough about it? I'm not sure. I remember though that the only time I lost 15 pounds was in middle school when the guy I had a crush on said aloud I was disgusting and fat :( it wasn't nice at all, but then I felt so bad I stopped eating just to prove everyone wrong...
sawno

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It doesn't really sound like you really want this to me. You dont deserve the shaming unless you absolutely want it. Could it be that you want to be called what you feel?
Asker

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You might be right. I kind of feel I don't deserve a good guy... Besides that one boyfriend, I used to have one who never said ANYTHING negative about my body. He always said I was beautiful and gorgeous etc. But he wasn't that good other ways, he cheated on me with my friend... Actually all of my boyfriends have cheated on me and done crappy things to me. Somehow I'm addicted to that. I'm not attracted to guys who are nice to me.
DudeGuyMan

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So you get off on being told what a fatass you are? You are fat, saggy tits, hanging belly, fat ass and you get off on being told the truth? Cool. If it gets you off, you like it and the dude gets off it it, who the fuck cares what anyone else things? Go be the dirty fat duck we know you are.

Answer 2

Asker

How do you think it could damage me? I remember I felt really bad when my boyfriend teased me about my weight but at the same time it felt, hmmm, like it turned me on. I don't even believe any guy could *really* like my body, I don't think fat is attractive at all... Maybe this is really f**** up, I don't know...

Answer 3

sawno

The thing i noticed with being teased that even if you know its a joke or people doing this because you asked them to its still going to mess with you without realising. It may hurt you or make you more insecure in the long run.

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Asker

Well, yeah, I know. For example I'm really bad at singing and if my friends or family tease me about it I feel very insecure. Maybe it's not so good then. But I still kind of wish I could experience it.

Answer 5

sawno

Are you into being called fat , humiliation or being degraded in general. Safest way it would be something that you won't permanently feel insecure about. For example someone shaming you for screwing something up you can easily do better next time.

Again if its your thing i am not saying you should. Just be sure its something you want and know the risk i just mentioned.

Answer 6

Asker

Hmm that's a good question. No, I hate to fail at things in general, and if someone brings it up it's terrible. I actually like to hear I'm good at things, and there are lot's of things I am. Like at school, a good listener, helpful... so i think it's only the fat thing then. I don't know maybe I have turned it this way because I feel so terrible that I've failed at being attractive and losing weight? Maybe I think I'd get what it takes if I'm humiliated enough about it? I'm not sure. I remember though that the only time I lost 15 pounds was in middle school when the guy I had a crush on said aloud I was disgusting and fat :( it wasn't nice at all, but then I felt so bad I stopped eating just to prove everyone wrong...

Answer 7

sawno

It doesn't really sound like you really want this to me. You dont deserve the shaming unless you absolutely want it. Could it be that you want to be called what you feel?

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Asker

You might be right. I kind of feel I don't deserve a good guy... Besides that one boyfriend, I used to have one who never said ANYTHING negative about my body. He always said I was beautiful and gorgeous etc. But he wasn't that good other ways, he cheated on me with my friend... Actually all of my boyfriends have cheated on me and done crappy things to me. Somehow I'm addicted to that. I'm not attracted to guys who are nice to me.

Answer 9

DudeGuyMan

So you get off on being told what a fatass you are? You are fat, saggy tits, hanging belly, fat ass and you get off on being told the truth? Cool. If it gets you off, you like it and the dude gets off it it, who the fuck cares what anyone else things? Go be the dirty fat duck we know you are.

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AustinMan | 41.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Influencer

You go, girlfriend!! I'm not into it but I can see where it's coming from. I was very unhappily married to a very heavy woman for 27 years so I'm not the guy to try this kind of S&M. The really good news is that God seems to have created a corresponding kink for all of us. Good luck finding them.

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Answer 11

Anonymous

I have a normal weight but I don't know I have something and everytime after I eat, no matter how little, my belly looks like I'm pregnant and I had a boyfriend who made me feel bad about it (he just said I look like I'm pregnant, not in a cute way) so yeah I actually started to feel fat.
Now.. you shouldn't really care what other people think.. if your weight doesn't affect your health then I don't see a problem, you can be beautiful without looking like a model or i don't know which hot girl you know. You said you don't wanna lose weight, then don't. Be careful not to eat too much and that's it, enjoy the food lol it's the worst not being able to eat what you want.
If someone really loves and cares about you it's really not a problem. And remember everyone is beautiful, people just have different opinions and some of them are just mean.

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Answer 12

KBob93

Guru

You're an emotional masochist. What you like pertains to BDSM. Humiliation is an aspect of that.

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Answer 13

kheserthorpe

Master

Finding humiliation sexually arousing in some contexts isn't that unusual.

Do you think you want the guy to REALLY think it, or do you actually want a guy who likes your shape, but enjoys teasing and shaming you as foreplay or during sex?

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Asker

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I don't really think it needs to be anything sexual, I just feel I'd enjoy being humiliated and teased. I think it would feel better if he really hated my body, not just playing. This sounds really weird now when I'm writing this, I must be messed up or something lol :D
kheserthorpe

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Would you want him to just strip you, and be disgusted, and point out where you were fat? Or would you want him to then compare you to thinner more attractive girls who had taken care of their bodies?

What about making you use certain positions, or snort like a pig, or only certain sexual acts because of how fat you are?
Asker

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More the first. Not snorting or things like that, it wouldn't be nice. I don't think I even associate that much sexual things to it. Like I fantasize about a really tough, fit good-looking personal trainer who checks my body fat percentage, asks really shocked how much i actually eat to look like this, makes me work out yelling i'm a lazy fat whale :D

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Asker

I don't really think it needs to be anything sexual, I just feel I'd enjoy being humiliated and teased. I think it would feel better if he really hated my body, not just playing. This sounds really weird now when I'm writing this, I must be messed up or something lol :D

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kheserthorpe

Would you want him to just strip you, and be disgusted, and point out where you were fat? Or would you want him to then compare you to thinner more attractive girls who had taken care of their bodies?

What about making you use certain positions, or snort like a pig, or only certain sexual acts because of how fat you are?

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Asker

More the first. Not snorting or things like that, it wouldn't be nice. I don't think I even associate that much sexual things to it. Like I fantasize about a really tough, fit good-looking personal trainer who checks my body fat percentage, asks really shocked how much i actually eat to look like this, makes me work out yelling i'm a lazy fat whale :D

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BertMacklinFBI | 7.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

sounds like you've discovered a fetish you're into now. and no im not into it.

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NoblesseOblige

Guru

No. I sometimes do this to skinny fit girls. Then we both laugh.

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Panzer103 | 238 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

Not me personally, but I've only had the negative fat comments.

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youdeshihou

Xper 3

Oh god yes, this is a dream of mine. I'm a switch so I'd probably want you to humilate me because I'm into fat girls or because no one would date me but a fat chick at the same time tho.

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ALittleDuckling

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Sounds kind of more fucked up than anything I've heard.

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rthomas43

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A friend of mine was with a black girl that wanted him to humiliate and degrade her racially and treat her like his slave.

I think that's more fucked up. Lol
GingersBurnTogether

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Lol, that's really messed up.
ALittleDuckling

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That sounds pretty fucked up but just something about fat humiliation really bothers me.

Being a slave is a fantasy, but being criticized for something you actually are?
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Asker

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I don't fantasize about being a slave. I still want to be my own person and smart and funny and all the things I am. I just find humiliation somehow turning me on. But I agree, its probably really f***** up...
ALittleDuckling

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I'm saying you're not fantasizing about it so it is disgusting because it's a reality for you, not a fantasy.

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rthomas43

A friend of mine was with a black girl that wanted him to humiliate and degrade her racially and treat her like his slave.

I think that's more fucked up. Lol

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GingersBurnTogether

Lol, that's really messed up.

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ALittleDuckling

That sounds pretty fucked up but just something about fat humiliation really bothers me.

Being a slave is a fantasy, but being criticized for something you actually are?

Answer 25

Asker

I don't fantasize about being a slave. I still want to be my own person and smart and funny and all the things I am. I just find humiliation somehow turning me on. But I agree, its probably really f***** up...

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ALittleDuckling

I'm saying you're not fantasizing about it so it is disgusting because it's a reality for you, not a fantasy.

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Jcordero97

Xper 1

I know what you mean, unfortunately there isn’t a term for this. Message me if you wanna know more

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Cubbiefink706

Xper 5

you dont deserve this

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spiffy11 | 53 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

I think that's hot and sexy

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Athleticbroo

Xper 6

Blow me you fat piece of shit

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Anyone here into fat humiliation?

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