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Pros and cons of paying for sex?

What are pros and cons of paying for sex? Are you agree or disagree on paying for sex.
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Disagree on paying for sex.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It's a slippery slope.

    Pros:
    1. You can also get to have sex with someone who might be out of your league in real life.
    2. No fuss of dating, mind games. You pay the fee, you get sex, simple.
    3. Potentially a more skillful playmate than regular girl
    4. You get to walk away after you are satisfied (i. e. no string attached or you pay for her to leave as some like to see it)

    Cons:
    1. Once you started, it might change your sex life forever that you might not be able to have a normal relationship because you get used to having the variety you get from seeing sex workers.
    2. It can get expensive pretty quickly and you need to make sure you can restraint yourself if it even become a financial burden (heard stories that people actually took loan from banks just to sustain their need to see sex workers).
    3 You might actually feel a sense of loneliness or emptiness (no pun intended) after each encounter, because ultimately no matter how good the time together with the sex worker is, you will have to part ways once your time is up.

    Speaking from someone who has been there done that. All this is assuming it's legal in your country and the worker has been tested regularly for STDs.

  • Pros:
    Easy sex
    Experienced partner
    You don't have to worry about getting her pregnant
    If you have been tested you don't have to wear a condom
    STD free (if you go to the right place)
    You get to take your pick of a line up
    Don't have to worry about her feelings
    You can have any fantasy you want

    Cons:
    Expensive
    Social stigma
    She might be "Loose"

    Realistically, the only negative with paying for sex is the social stigma, and cost.

    Women will try to discourage you because for the most part sex is the only leverage they have over all men. If paying for it becomes easy, legal, affordable, and normal then they lose their power over men.

    It's actually much safer than sluts at bars, there's no ambiguity, and if you don't want a relationship you never have to hear from her again. If you can afford it, and take a safe route, then yes; do it. If you have to go in to the sketchy areas of the sex industry then steer clear.

    • Cost? Where I live, I pay $80 for a quickie, not too much. Social stigma? You want people to control you? Do what you want to do.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Pros
    -You get the sex whatever time/day you want.

    Cons

    -You risk the chance of being arrested.
    -You wasted a whole lot of money when you could have gotten it for free.
    There are tons of women looking for casual sex as well, you just have
    to know how to talk to women.
    -Since prostitutes have sex with hundreds-thousands of guys by their career end you
    risk a high chance of getting an std.
    -You get hooked into paying for sex and that's all you want to do instead of
    establishing an actual relationship with a regular girl.

    • If you wanted to be ironic you are safer in a brothel than you are hanging around those "tons of women looking for casual sex as well"; in actuality you're paying pretty much for the safety versus the absolute risk of STD ridden populations with no testing whatsoever and no regulation whatsoever. Casual sex is FAR MORE RISKY than organized prostitution. Kind of odd that came up.

    • That's your opinion that you're entitled to. However, I do not agree with it. If you think a woman that has had sex with thousands of men is cleaner and safer than a girl you've probably dated (or are considering to) then you have backwards thinking. Regular women get STD checks. So do some women that work in a brothel. Lets just say the prostitute were to get an std test and come up clean. During that day she does one of the clients and then he condom breaks. Lets just say she now has herpes or hiv. She's still going to say she is clean because of the test she took, during this time she is able to pass on her std/sti to some of her clients. This is all too common, and happen. But they keep this under the radiator to not discourage anyone because they are money makers.

    • And whose to say a regular girl looking for what you are, will not provide you a safe environment?

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  • pro: unwanted pregnancy can be reduced when talking percentages
    con: condoms and pills are NOT 100% effective
    unwanted pregnancy can occur
    STD can be transmitted

  • Why don't you find a friends with benefits? There is nothing wrong with that, just make sure that you both are on same page so there's not hurt feelings

    • You act like it's easy to find attractive girls who just put out because they're bored and don't expect anything more

    • I'm pretty sure I never said that, no it isn't easier for you men, it's a lot easier for us to get sex then men

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I don't agree with it but I wouldn't condemn someone who went that route.

    Pros:
    No bullshit, get right to it.
    You don't have to risk spending time with someone who is really boring, and keep wondering if she's willing.
    You can have the session however you want since you're paying. You're the "customer." If she's not willing, you can find someone else.

    Cons:
    Legal issues
    Many of them are drug addicts. You're can be supporting the drug market.
    Many can catch STDs and lie about it.
    Many girls/guys will disown you for life if they find out.
    You can risk psychological issues like guilt and such having "resorted" to paying because girls won't accept you.
    Her/His performance will be faked and you'll walk out knowing she just did it for the money.

  • Cons

    Disease
    Money
    Pimps who take all the money.
    being caught in a police sting.

    Pros
    Getting caught in a police sting. Then hopefully you wouldn't be so stupid to pay for sex again.

    • What about doing it legally?

    • Going to a brothel? Sure that would take the pimp and police out of the equation. But anything I've seen or read these places are very expensive. Because you're paying for the girls and the owner is getting a cut. Because he/she is running a business. So there are business expenses too.

  • I disagree with it. I think it should be shared with someone you love, not just a cheap thrill

    • I broke up recently and not ready for another relationship need to be single for a while.

    • It doesn't mean you have to go to a hooker

  • You're only ALLOWED to pay for sex if your wife was assumed to not satisfying you in bed.

  • Sex is not only about the "mechanics" of physical satisfaction but it also has a huge part which is emotional, also for men. Survey suggest that many men visiting brothels regularly see the woman they sleep with (which is normally the same, or at least a very limited number) like a partner. After getting to know each other, many sessions end in long talks about life, etc. I have many men coming to my counselling sessions and telling me that they fell in love with a prostitute.
    This emotional part normally can't develop properly in paid sex sessions. Therefore you're missing out on a lot of what makes good sex.

  • Pros: Sex
    Cons: No one actually wants to fuck you of their own volition.

    • -I'm clean and std free! I've fucked women who were escorts and I've used a condom every time!

  • Pros = you get sex
    Cons = you have to pay for sex when you can get it for free

    • Sex is rarely free. If it's at a bar you have to buy her drinks, if it's a date you pay for her meal, if it's a gf you're always buying something for her. The sex industry is just a direct version, the relationship is more indirect, but you're definitely still paying money for sex in a sense

  • Presuming it is safe and organized there are no cons to playing for sex.

    I guess the expediency of service is a pro?

    • The more I think about it the better this idea sounds.

    • Stds.. there are plenty of stds u can catch with a condom on.

    • Thus why you'd go "safe and organized" as in a brothel.

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  • Pros: Well, you get sex

    Cons: You may well be supporting an industry that exploits and abuses people.

  • try being a 45 year old single male. never had a girlfriend, no relationship. bitter and jaded from DECADES of rejections, brush offs, and cold shoulders from women. oh women have no problem giving advice, but they won't give him a chance. technically I am still a virgin. if it wasn't for lapdances in strip clubs, I'd have NO contact with women. women make me feel ugly and a monster.

    • Then I shouldn't fret for still being single aged 22. (sorry to hear)

  • Well I think you should do what you think is right. But be careful. And yes there are girls who don't need to go on a date to have sex with you. I am one.

    • How to find girls like you? Girl I know all want relationship and date.

    • Really? Well to be honest with you my friends are like that as well. Most girls will want to get to know you first. I am like this because I have a strange fetish. I like being treated as a professional since I am interested in what guys want in bed. Most guys keep a lot of things from their gfs.

  • Hmm

    Pro: its easy

    Con: expensive, higher chance of getting sick from sexually transmitted diseases and you can get arrested

    All in all its your choice.

  • when you buy a girl a drink you're technically paying for sex aswell

    • Well you're gambling that she'll have sex with you. And that she's std free. And that she's not lying about her boyfriend's existence. And that it's not just the alkahool talking too so their is no awkward regrets.

    • Not really, cuz if you buy a female a drink she has not guaranteed you sex.

    • This is why I'm celibate

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  • Pros
    -You get sex

    Cons
    -You might get an std
    -She might be a murderer
    - You might get arrested

    • In some countries its legal and they have health certificate so your cons don't work there.

    • Well if that's the case then do whatever you want it's your life.

    • Didn't decide yet to for it or not want to hear more opinion first. So do you think there would be another cons?

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  • just think about the man your parents would want you to be, look at the question realize that you should just stick to redtube

    • I just had a bad break up and think not ready to start another relationship. So its an option for me right now.

  • if you have a girlfriend u could have lots of sex w/out having to pay them each time
    but paying for u would a variety each time...
    One requires commitment
    other requires money...
    I don't know about you but i got a lot more commitment than money

    • Just broke up.

  • I don't really disagree with the idea, but I'd never do it. I'd only have sex with a girl to show her I love her cause I know how important sex is for girls

  • I know i am going to get in trouble here, but the REAL story is that a guy pays for sex, whether it is a hooker or GF. Each one costs money to be with. Each could have an STD. The GF is going to cost money AND time.
    The hooker doesn't require a date, which involves flowers, dinner, and a movie, say,$100. You might get kissed or have sex IF you are lucky. The hooker might charge $50, and you WILL get your rocks off, every time. NOT saying at all that regular girls are hookers, just that GF'S cost money too.

  • If your body happens to think she's a suitable mother biologically, you're screwed.

  • Pros - You get sex.
    Pros - Your partner has more than likely been tested and often.
    Pros - Your partner will insist on safe sex.
    Pros - You don't need to worry about psycho stalker behaviour or tricking her.
    Pros - She will have skills most girls will lack.
    Pros - She will do whatever you want (provided you can afford it), no matter how kinky or degrading.

    Cons - If you want more than just sex, tough.
    Cons - If it's illegal, you might be arrested.
    Cons - If normal women find out, they will hold it against you forever.
    Cons - It's expensive.

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