I think, being he had time to think, that in between the laughs and the giggles, he got thinking Seriously that if you both continued rumbling between the sheets It could become More than what he really wants and what he is really ready for. I surmise he grew cold duck feet and got scared And 'Disappeared' into the murky waters. This bird is no exception to my golden egg rule. Now it appears it is an 'Awkward moment' 'from this situation' that may not be able to return to the way it used to be.
The best and the Most you can most likely do at this point is at least ease some of the tight tension, and have a long talk with him. If you have know one another this long and were this close, maybe this will help bring things back to--------The way we were...
And if he doesn't want to even Work to bring things back to what was once a close friendship, then maybe he is what I call now a----Fair weather friend.
Good luck. xx1 0 0 0Thank you for your advice! I see that most of the answers I get, even from guys, suggest that he might be into me more than what I thought. The problem is that I am really scared as I have suffered a lot recently because of friends/crushes letting me down so my only goal now is not letting him harm me :(
I don't like his behavior, and I still say he may be scared to do even friends with benefits... And with everything so 'awkward,' he may be feeling it could go further, never anticiapated it.. He was fine at first, then had this change of heart... I hope you both can talk it out, get to the bottom of it... xx
You're so very welcome... Hope he comes around.. What a way to end a good friendship because of no lines of convo and possible misgivings... xx
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Honestly you have made an error first off when you stopped talking to him and waited for him to converse first he could have just as easily assumed much like you did that because you chose to not initiate any more that you have lost interest in him. witch most likely made him nervous because not only are you a friend to hi you are someone that in my opinion he dose have feelings for. the best way to get and answer to the ever looming question is to be as direct as possible go and tell him your feelings and ask him his. yes there is a worry that he may not like you in such a way but at least you will be able to move on from that point and hold on to the friendship. Rather than lose him all together. Also if he dose feel the same as you then it all works out.
1 0 0 0I thought my mistake was writing to him in first place as nothing had happened!
o that was just the continuation of the same mistake advancing itself to new levels. my question to you is what do you really want is it him or isn't it?
What I'd like is to continue having a relationship without commitment -he's just got out of a long relationship and we both have some major worries in mind at the moment, so not ready to commit at all. This is what I was trying to achieve, to keep it casual but keep it alive, while I had the feeling he's killing any chances that something might happen again.
It could be. Could be that he doesn't know how he feels, and is worried about your friendship. He might also be into you, but either involved in something else, or maybe afaid of commitment. That last possibility seems to be an often used justification for leaving, but it's true in some cases.
Simple answer is: Talk to him. And think about what you want. Do you want him?1 0 0 0I would also like to talk to him but in the past I have always been the mature one by taking the responsibility of the talk and was always left with nothing. I noticed that he has kind of started an immature "power game" and I just see a deja-vu where I don't know how to play by these stupid rules. By "power game" i mean: he took over the organization of the dinner for which I was in charge and put himself in the privileged position of choosing the location and the participants: the result was that it was only couples + us and a single (girl) friend of his, which made the dinner even a bit humiliating for myself coz i felt like put in competition with the other girl for his attention. I totally understand him not wanting to show up at the dinner as a couple but that was an asshole's move, he does have single (male) friends who could have joined as well and he could have told me to bring anyone.
It doesn't seem like he wants what you want. It also sounds like he's actually quite comfortable manipulating you, which isn't a very good sign.
I totally agree with u on the manipulating point. However I don't know what I want yet so I doubt he might want the same thing unless he is clueless just like me :P
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