My roommate is dating other girls at what point should I stop having sex with him?

[Anonymous]

I'm 25 years old finishing up my last year of college and I have a male roommate. One night several months back we started getting flirty with each other which led to us having sex. Afterwards we talked about it and both agreed we would just have sex for pleasure with no strings attached. The last few months now we have constantly been banging each other's brains out every chance we get, everything from tying each other up to him coming in my mouth and even having sex in front of other strangers on a live WebCam. During all this he has dated other girls before which I have no problem with because like I said there are no strings attached and he can date anyone he wants to and so can I. well my only concern is the last 4 weeks he's been dating the same girl pretty regularly but he's been coming home and banging me every night even on nights he goes out with her. I've met her a couple times when she has come by our house but after she leaves we end up having sex. I don't really know if the two of them are having sex or not nor do I really care but At what point does it become cheating? Do I continue having sex with him until he tells me they are in a committed relationship or should I stop now? I do love having sex with him but I don't want him to be cheating on her with me. At what point do I say no more?

[halafax]

I have to applaud your concern here. No one wants to be that person, their s/o or the person they are dating is screwing someone else.

Personally I would have a talk with him and see what is exactly going on with this chick. Because if he is getting serious with her then you ought to know. You dont want to end up being called a homewrecker or whatever it is you would be for screwing this girls bf. Even though its him coming home to screw you.

Talk to him, if anything maybe you should tell him you aren't comfortable with him doing that. Mostly because its not cool to the girl.

Though I have to wonder what goes through your head when he comes home from going out with her and has sex with you. I mean you are just him release, maybe thats all you want, but that can't be a happy feeling on some level

[Asker]

I don't guess anything is really going through my head, the relationship we have really is just for sexual pleasure and I have no feelings for him other than just a friend. But because he is my friend I don't want to be a homewrecker you were speaking of. I guess I need to figure out if they are just friends hanging out or if they're trying to start a relationship

[halafax]

Just ask him dear. Worst thing he says is that he is just hanging out with her, worst worst is that he is cheating on her with you. But asking is better than trying to play detective.

[Asker]

Yeah I think you're right, thanks babe

[halafax]

*tips hat* no problem, my pleasure, and good luck

[Supertriston]

Sex is overrated to me. Technically, it already is cheating. Cheating is defined as "Having sex with someone else whom you have no relationship with while in a relationship. To do sexual things to someone else while in a relationship." So yes, it's been cheating the whole time no matter what "Condition's" you set for it. At 25 you should, seriously, know this by now.

[Asker]

Who said he was in a relationship?

[Supertriston]

Doesn't have to be in a relationship. Having sex with a lot of people and, technically, being in a PARTICIAL Relationship, is cheating.

[asker6041]

this is more his problem than yours, unless the seriousness of his relationship IS getting to you. Is it maybe?

[Asker]

No it's not getting to me I just don't want to be a home wrecker. I want to look out for the girl because I wouldn't want to be that girl whose boyfriend is going home and having sex with other girls. My thing is I don't know if they're just friends dating and going out and having fun or if they're looking at a serious relationship in the future

[asker6041]

can you just ask him? Espcially since it's not getting to you. I mean, if you can have live with him, be friends with him and have sex with him you can ask him this simple question right? PS He has THE LIFE haha!

[AustinMan]

If you practice safe sex and it's not a problem for you emotionally, I see no reason to stop. But practice safe sex every time.

[BruceIsmay]

Stop now... who knows what he's picking up and giving to you. Plus... he should care about you and not sleep around.

[Anonymous]

sounds like this guy is living the LIFE!!! lol
if u r happy whats the problem. like u said NO strings attached