How many people have you slept with? & How old are you? I'm worried with mine.

You can go anonymous. Anyway, I've slept with over 30 maybe less and i only just turned 18 a week ago. i basically got raped when i was 13. i won't go in to detail... and i also have been battling depression for so long and i really crave sex a lot. i know 30 is A LOT and i know its crazy but now I've come to realise its bad, and i want to settle down. but with all those 30 guys, i only slept with them ONCE. except for 5 guys which i slept with twice or more... but you know, i really can't change my past.. and i really really hate myself for it i cry almost every night thinking about it. I've tried killing myslef 3 times maybe more and thats one of the many reasons why. im planning to go get checked if i have any diseases and stuff. i really dont even know as to why i crave so much sex. i usually crave it whenever im angry or think about bad things in the past especially about my family... anyway back to the question. How many people have you slept with? & How old are you?
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  • 1. I lost my virginity at 11 and I've had more than any average person for sure - I don't have a count of it but the number will be exponentially high compared to your numbers
    2. Exponentially high even with having a serious 4 year steady relationship in college & 10 year marriage & a gf till recently of 6 years where I never had sex outside relationship/marriage :)
    3. I tend to have a lot of sex for various reasons (a) when happy (b) when low
    4. But never can do it when if it ever comes to a point when I think less of myself, it's always feels good and no regrets. I enjoy it then and later
    5. Diseases you must always check for and practice safe sex
    6. your having sex with many guys seems to stem out of a psychological issue probably related to the rape thus somewhere low self esteem that may be in a subdued level in your heart & mind else you'd be enjoying and relishing the experiences even after you've had them rather than feeling this way
    7. I'd say get yourself counselled else you'll destroy yourself mentally in the near future
    8. There's nothing wrong with you as a person, I'm sure you are very good at heart but you need this sorted immediately
    9. Nothing wrong in having multiple sexual partners but only so long as you enjoy it then and later, not feel the way you are now :)
    10. I'm 43
    11. Also that casual sex / ONS often is my way of venting out anger & frustration - my logic is (a) it's pleasure (b) it doesn't harm / hurt anyone (c) it provides temporary relief and feels good later too - guess that's the same with you too but the way you think is different i. e. you don't relish or enjoy doing it, you are rebelling / protesting by mentally hurting and torturing yourself by doing this - there is a difference :)

  • How many people have I slept with? I can't count them on one hand.

    How old are you? I'm 21.

    I know some girls who have been raped and now crave a lot of sex. That's a recurring thing. I'm not going to lie and say I know why, but my guess is that you were underdeveloped mentally and since you had sex before your mind could fully mature it physically thinks you should have sex consistently. How many guys you have sex with isn't that big of a concern to me. It also makes sense that you crave sex when you think about bad things and are angry, because that's how you felt when you were raped probably or at least how you feel about it now. Your physical brain thinks that that sex is supposed to happen when you're angry. Dramatic events can have that affect. Again that's just my 2 cents.

    I personally don't care how many guys a girl has slept with. I usually don't even ask. You shouldn't worry about having a high number. Yeah getting checked for diseases would be a good idea.

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  • Aw... that's so sad... I'm sorry to hear to were rapped : ( I've heard a lot of people that were rapped go on to be sexually promiscuous... so maybe that's why your number is higher... and maybe you crave sex because it helps you feel close to another person and makes you feel desired? I don't know... only you do... but that's a guess (from what I've learned in school... i'm studying psychology)...

    You are right... it's in your past and you can't do anything about it... but learn to accept yourself... and I'm sure once you find a guy you love and that loves you back it won't matter how many people you slept with. Don't think you are any less of a woman because of your number... you did nothing wrong... just make sure you are safe.

    To answer your question... my number is 30... have been with only one guy since the age of 28 and we are going to get married this year.

  • I'm eighteen and I've slept with fifteen guys and three girls. I enjoy sex a lot and have no regrets about my number and neither should you. I too was raped and I went a bit crazy sexually after that which is a perfectly normal response. Number shouldn't matter anyway. The only thing I see wrong is it seems you are having sex as a coping mechanism which is bad. After I slept with three guys in a week I thought to myself that I needed to stop having sex until I was doing it for the right reasons which I did. I get checked for STD's every three/four months just in case and I think it's really smart to be checked at least twice a year when you're sexually active with multiple parters. But yeah, in those months I didn't have sex I learnt my self worth and learnt to love myself which has helped me sexually as well as to be open to a relationship or more connection.

  • I'm sorry to hear that has happened to you. And like someone else has mentioned, I think you should seek a therapist. Im not saying its to the extreme with you, but I would hate for your depression to worsen in to something harmful :(

    Me, I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18, almost 19. I'm now 21 and I've had 7 partners. I'm not proud of it, because of the number and the fact I was never in a relationship with any of them. I only did it to feel something, which I never really did. One of the guys, I truly liked and even after having sex , I felt bad. I wish I could feel some kind if emotions when having sex. I enjoy the thought of it, but not the actual thing.

  • I wish people wouldn't always say it's BECAUSE of the rape. I hate that shit so much. It happened to me repeatedly when I was a teenager, and I have slept with 1 man by choice.
    My best friend, I met her because she went through some crazy shit to, she was sold into sex at 12 by her adult "boyfriend" and she's had 3 guys by choice.

    You don't turn into a whore because you got rapped. It's either in you or its not. Do you know how many women a week get rapped? If this was what happens to rape victims, there would be a ton more women who sleep around like that to.

    • You have to understand that people are different. Something may affect you a certain way that doesn't affect others. Also, there ARE a ton more women who sleep around like that.

    • I know. I felt kind of heartless after I sent it tbh. So many people, when they hear you've been raped, they think they can do what they want or that you're going to want to sleep with them, and it's because of that kinda bs. Or what about kids who are badly behaved? When those kids who are bad go out and rob people and stuff like that, it's because of their crappy childhood usually, but they aren't excused. a lot of young men right now are sitting in jail, and it all started when they were kids going through neglect or abuse. Why are they bad, but the girls who sleep around are excused? You can't make stupid decisions then blame it on some other fucked up shit that happened. Those people who did that shit, girls like me and her, we didn't have a choice, but after you've got a choice. She chose to keep being used and abused, it just makes me angry sometimes. And men love girls like her. Some men look for victims just for sex

    • I'm truly sorry for saying you're a whore. You're not. You're a victim. I understand why you did it, trust me. It wouldn't of been hard for me to go that way to. I just get so mad. All those guys who just fucked you after, 30 of them, they're no better than whoever raped you. You're 18 and you've slept with 30 by choice. And you know I'm 99% sure they could tell you were vulnerable, and these kinda guys they just see that as a bonus coz they ain't gotta work as hard with you. They're abusers to. I don't care if you chose to sleep with them, your head wasn't right, and it's usually obvious when a girl is fucked up like that. Didn't have the right frame of mind, it's no better than talking a vulnerable child into sex and saying they chose it. Until you stop being a victim, you're always gonna b a victim. End your cycle and you'll help other girls. If all, girls didn't do that, those 30 would of never seen you as easy sex how they all do with girls who get raped.

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  • you're using sex as a coping mechanism and you need to address that. Forget your past, move on. You don't have to tell anyone about it because it's your business but you do need to find a way of dealing with your emotions. I suggest you find some counciling, if you can't figure this out on your own there's no shame in getting a little advice, but you definitely need to get a check up, for your own peace of mind.

  • 17 partners, 26 years old.
    Good for you for getting checked. Safe sex FTW.
    Have you sought out therapy? They don't shame you for your behavior in therapy, do they?
    Considering that you're crying so much and you associate sex so strongly with negative things, speaking to a professional who can help you unpack what you've experienced should be beneficial.
    If you can't find a good therapist, talk to a women's shelter counselor or someone on a rape crisis hotline. I volunteer at one, and I can tell you it's our job to listen to you talk without shaming you, expecting victims to act in a certain way, "diagnose" you, lead you to the course of action we wish you would take, or do anything other than act as a sounding board and help you to really see ALL your options.
    I'm assuming you live in the U. S. This number is a good place to start:
    1.800.656. HOPE (National Sexual Assault Hotline, run by RAINN)

  • I'm 23 and have had sex with 18 people. However, I do not regret any of them and am not ashamed of my number.

    You should definitely get checked. Its irresponsible that you haven't already. You also need to stop having sex as a coping mechanism. You should stop feeling embarrassed over it because it can't be changed. You should consider speaking to someone about it.

  • I am 24 and have only been with one guy. 30 is a lot for someone your age. I think you're using sex as a coping mechanism to deal with your rape. I would definitely suggest getting an STD panel done and then maybe seeking out a psychiatrist or counsellor of some sort to help you get better. Good luck. :)

    • Downvoted your comment. Ignore, please.

    • @creativ3 That's okay, happens a lot.

  • You should see a psychiatrist/counsellor. You have issues that need sorting out that could ruin a relationship later on, especially if you crave sex when your future partner isn't around.

  • Tons of guys
    and im 20 now
    Yes I was raped at a younger age tons of times... and yes I been checked and no deaeses in me im glad :)
    I slept with tons of guys before and I have been checked and no deaeses in me and they were all checked too
    but im not proud of myself I was a wreck like drinking and smoking and other stuff
    and well I turn my life around ever since then and I have..
    a awesome bf and pregnant by my bf too :)

  • One girl, she is my fiancee, and I will be 19 in February.

    • I didn't know you were a lesbian. Cool.

    • Read my profile :P

    • Damn it girl. You wrote a book for your profile. LOL!!! I thought you were white in your other pic. I then see this one and thought you were Asian. Both were wrong.

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  • I'm 34 and I've slept with a total of 13 people. (8 between 27 and 34. Then 5 between 16 and 27.)

  • I'm 33 and I've had intercourse with 18 different guys so far. And I just realized that's an average of one different guy per year since I lost my virginity.

    What exactly is it you're worried about? Risks of STDs and/or pregnancy?

  • I am 24, I've slept with roughly 10, and hooked up with about 20. And a few of them I slept with several times. Yes, you should see a counselor. When you crave sex, its hard to develop lasting relationships. And I am sorry about your experience when you were young. Please seek help, and I wish the best for you

  • 18 and 2 people. Too many lol

  • It's become psychological from your rape. I'm sorry that happened to you. Therapy might be helpful, sweetheart.

  • You need a counsellor or therapist to walk you through the experience and deprogram yourself to use sex to block or associate the neg. past to it. It's not the actual sex act that is bad but having all the wrong reasons to have sex. It was a temporary quick fix for you but until you sort out and release the past.

  • 15 and 1 guy haha

  • I'm 20 and just slept with one girl

  • sorry for your tragedy. thats horrible. I have no clue how many I have slept with. . but the most in 1 day was 3 woman. . If I had to gues At least 40.

  • 18
    And my score is zero :)

  • Thirty is too much for me, but there's plenty of men who don't care at all. Comes down to preference.

  • Im sorry that happened to you :(
    Maybe seeking some help will help.

    I am 21 and still a virgin.

  • just over 30 and i had as much as you if i remember well.. abbt 30.
    for a gal turned just 18, i think its a large number... is it all straight sex , with nor 3sums or orgies?

    if u hv sex to fight negative emotions i guess u need a psychiatrist or professional help. U r having sex to fill a void. but it will not help.

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