My boyfriend [29/M] is not interested in sex with me [26/F]?

[Anonymous]

I want to share about what happens with me and my boyfriend recently and it makes me really sad. It makes me upset to have a thought that my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me. This is the first time I've experienced this kind of unwanted, unattractive. My boyfriend and I were online friends for about a year, we talked about everything and anything that came to mind and we really like each other. About 2 months ago we finally met, it was so nice to finally met him and everything seemed wonderful at first and we had sex 2-3 times in probably the first 2 weeks. Then after weeks, we spent almost every night together without sex. I didn't notice anything weird at first, I thought he just wanted to show me his respect. But now this really bothers me a lot because we've only been together for almost 2 months and now he makes me feel unwanted. Is it normal to have sex less than 4 times per month? I know sex isn't everything but sometimes when he is sleeping, he will grab my hand to touch his penis or take off my clothes unconsciously. Last week, he kissed me and called another girl's name while his sleeping, I understand dreams can mean nothing but after he woke up he didn't show any signs that he wanted to have sex with me. I've tried, I get on top of him, I try to give him oral sex and touch him but he will push me away from his pants. I am embarrassed of it now and I'm afraid to touch him because I don't feel like he likes my body. I feel very bad, I feel ugly, I feel fat, and I feel I'm not attractive... I feel sad every time I think of it. Now I even wonder if he really cares about me... What did I do wrong, I am confused.

[Tractorbeam]

You probably should have realized something was wrong when you didn't get sex 2-3 times on the first day. and again on the next day you met. 2-3 times in 2 weeks is like starvation. 4 times a week would have to be a minimum.
If his sex drive is that low at only 29, the future is not looking good. I doubt that he finds you unattractive. He probably wouldn't be there at all, if that was the case. I doubt that he's got another girl somewhere, either. You've done nothing wrong, and it's not your fault. Some men just don't have much sex drive, and I think we'll be seeing more of this in future because of chemicals in the food chain. Male hormone levels are reducing world-wide at about 1% per year, and have been for a long time.

I think it's time to find another man who can bang you every day (at least once), and keep doing it until he's 50 or 60 years old. They are out there.

[Asker]

Yeah... I should have noticed that on the first few days we met... Maybe I just don't want to be the suspicious girlfriend and ask him if he has another girl waiting for him somewhere. And now I don't have courage to bring up the question to ask him if he wants me with my low self-esteem. Maybe I'm just not attractive enough for him.

[CrazyAK]

Its either he has something wrong down there, like maybe he's embarrassed about something (infection etc..) or he's just lost interest in you I'm afraid :(

[Asker]

Thanks, It's just that the feelings that he doesn't want me really hurts me a lot.

[Execu]

He's one of dem queer-o-sexuals. Seriously thats odd.

[Ihav2fart]

HAHA my troll side of me wants to pound it! but i must refrain from doing so.

[Execu]

haha

[All3n1v3rson]

Yes it is normal. I've gone 2 months without it. You just need to relax I'm sure he will get bored and come back. He is most likely just taking a break as sex is tiring

[Asker]

He haven't had sex for the past 10 months, and I knew he wanted to have sex. :(

[molan]

I's normal after years of marriage, not after just two months.

[Anonymous]

When he called you another woman tell him go fuck her but I bet
he is fucking her