Masturbating to the thought of someone else? I don't know why!?

[Anonymous]

The past two times i've masturbated, i've thought of someone else rather than my boyfriend. It's making me feel so guilty. Of all things, it's a girl that I was thinking about as well. I'm straight and have never been with a woman. I don't know why I lusted over her the past two times during masturbation. Does this make me a bad person? :/ I feel so guilty. What is odd is that i've never once talked to this girl before, she's someone random off of GaG...

[truthbeknown]

Totally normal. Lots of people think of others during masturbation, including those of the same sex. It is just in your head, perfectly safe, just a fantasy. The thought of someone else and someone of the same sex is just to heighten the excitement factor. Fantasies are totally normal and healthy because it lets our imagination enjoy something out of the ordinary in such a way that nobody gets hurts, or even has to know, because it isn't real. I fantasize about other people, including other men, all the time too. Try not to let those thoughts make you feel like your are cheating or bisexual. You just have an active and healthy imagination!

[AustinMan]

No reason to feel guilty for thoughts or fantasies. Maybe you're getting to be bi. No harm in that. I'd just let in happen and if things get more intense in your fantasies, then it may be time to examine what's going on but until you put your fantasies into action, leave guilt out of it.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say it makes you a bad person, but maybe just that you're not that attracted to your boyfriend? I know that I've masturbated thinking about someone else when I have a boyfriend, but that's because I've never dated a guy I've thought to be too attractive (I'm desperate... I take whoever will have me =( ). You could just be bicurious as well. But I don't think this makes you a bad person =)

[Asker]

I'm very attracted to my boyfriend. We've been together for almost 4 years now, and he is everything I could want, but these thoughts just randomly decided to occur one day. lol :)

[05Jueey]

Don't even worry about it. I do this all the time, about guys and girl, and I'm also straight. My bf does it too. Are you committed to your bf? Do love him? THATS what's valuable

[Asker]

Yes, 100% committed and love him very much!

[05Jueey]

Aw please don't allow yourself to feel guilty. Fantasy is a beautiful pleasurable thing

[marissab101]

Masturbation is private. In your privacy... you are allowed to fantasize. Enjoy and don't feel guilty. You have done nothing wrong.

[Asker]

Thank you for your input, I appreciate it :)

[islands7]

Normal!!!((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((

[Red_Arrow]

You are allowed to have private fantasies that are just fantasies without feeling any guilt.

I do not know why you would think about a woman. If thoughts of a guy intruded on my masturbation fantasies, it would kill the mood instantly. No interest in same sex. None at all! Perhaps you are bi or at least bi-curious.

But most people have masturbation fantasies about someone other than their SO. It could be from a picture in a magazine or from the internet. It could be someone they know. It could be their wife's best friend. As long as it does not become an obsession and you don't publicize your private fantasy, it is just a sex aid. Enjoy.

[anonymousxyz]

Just because you've never been with a woman doesn't mean that you're straight. Maybe you're bisexual?

[Asker]

I don't know, i've never really thought about being with one. This is happened all of a sudden. When I start masturbating, she randomly keeps popping into my thoughts. Other than that, i've never really ever thought about being with a woman.

[anonymousxyz]

Of course you haven't because you have declared yourself straight so I mean I would think deeply about what you are without any preconceived assumptions. What do you think of when you think about the girl?

[linahh]

Oh honey of course you are not a bad person! Just enjoy yourself, you can fantasize about anything you want, there is nothing wrong with that.

[xXBerserk]

Which girl do you masturbate to from GaG?

Its normal though

[Asker]

Lol i'd rather not say who is it

[aureisumus]

It is a natural feeling that most people of both sex's get every now and then, maybe because this is the first time its happened is why you question yourself, well don't, you are who you are , and what you want to be, and fantasies and dreams are just our subconscious way of heightening our pleasure, by fantasizing something you most likely couldn't and wouldn't do, and its also alright to question yourself on whether you are straight or not, you may at future time want to explore that side of you, and because we are conditioned by our environment, and our parents in our main view of life, plus also by our peers and friends, we can think independently, and follow a desire in fantasy, because sometimes the subconscious reads what we may want to do, and there is nothing wrong with that, as we always are curious about things that are seen as taboo, which coming full circle means the excitement aroused by the subject, makes your self pleasuring more satisfying.

[TheEnding]

I don't think you should feel bad about it. It's your mind, you should be free to fantasize about whatever you want.

[Torque]

no reason to feel guilty, we all get crushes from time to time; doesn't mean you don't love your guy or anything. and i can't speak for all guys, but maybe he'll even find very arousing the idea of you masturbating to a girl, or telling him about these fantasies you have with this chick.

[Anonymous]

He'd probably be super turned on to hear your masturbating thinking about a girl. I know I would be.