Does buying a sex toy in a sex shop ever make you feel uncomfortable or dirty, especially when the attendant is the other gender?

I went to a sex shop yesterday to find myself something I can use after a long day of school and I'm in my dorm room feeling in the mood. Normally I would just use my boyfriend but we broke up about two months ago and I really just don't have time for dating other guys right now. I have a good girl personality and I was a little bit nervous about going there and even more nervous when I walked inside. I walked in and I was the only person in their other then the guy that was working the desk which gave me that much more anxiety. He asked if he could help me and I said I just wanted to look around, when I made my way around to the dildos and vibrators he approached me and asked me if I was looking for myself or for a friend, I told him it was for me and he started telling me about the vibrators and which one he sells the most. I was pretty nervous and wondering what he was thinking of me, we talked for a few minutes about one particular vibrator and then I told him I would get that one, he brought it to the front desk took it out of the package and turned it on for me and about that time another guy walked in and I'm pretty sure I turned red from embarrassment. The guy that checked me out said, use it tonight and if I don't like it bring it back tomorrow and he would give me a 50% discount on a different one. After that and with sweaty palms I left and was just thinking , is that guy going to imagine me using this later for his own pleasure? Does it ever make you uncomfortable going into one of the stores? I know this guy probably deals with this every day but for me it was my first time and the guy probably knew I was about to go home and masturbate with it. I don't know maybe I'm just overthinking it, like I said I'm kind of a shy good girl.
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  • Actually, you probably would have felt even more uncomfortable if there had been customers in there when you walked in. Harder to shop around without them watching you. (Or thinking they are watching you.) The sales people there rely on selling products to keep their job and make a living. Most have good knowledge of them and are glad to help. I was buying a vibrator for my girl once and the sales girl asked a couple of questions, gave some good advice, then turned it on to ensure it was not defective. It was strange at first, but within moments I was comfortable and realized she could give lots better advice about it than I could guess on my own. Of course the guy who helped you did not have first person knowledge, but sounds like he learned as best he could so that he could help others.

    Of course the guy knew you were going to masturbate with it. That is what it is for. You are a woman and just like about every other woman you masturbate and you were buying a vibrator. He ain't stupid. Just be at ease. Every guy on the street that sees you would guess that you masturbate, and you know the same about guys. So what. He was just doing his job and apparently well.

    The one thing I wonder about is returning the product if you are not satisfied. Does that mean it ends up back on the shelf? EWWW!

    • No he didn't say I could return it he just said he would give me a discount on another one

    • "The guy that checked me out said, use it tonight and if I don't like it bring it back tomorrow and he would give me a 50% discount on a different one." Bring it back means return it.

    • O I see that now, I meant to type " come back tomorrow" but anyway I ended up keeping, it worked well.

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  • Used to. Now I go up to the hottest girl in shop and ask her the most intimate questions about different toys. I'll pick up a vibrator and ask her how she uses it, not 3rd person. It's sexy asking a woman if she likes riding a vibrator on her g-spot and often she comes, or asking her if she prefers to use on her clit & g-spot. Most of them or very pro about it and having a good looking woman holding a fuck toy in her hand while she tells you how she rubs it on her clit first until she's really wet and then pushes it, " just a small way up my pussy" is total tun on.

    To better answer your question- with another woman- and stores are almost always staffed by women. She will usually be very professional and make you feel very relaxed. I disagree with buying online unless you know what you're doing. Another woman will tell you what you need to know and make you feel vey comfortable. If you do buy online, only buy from top brands-don't buy "clearance".

    The brand Lelo has very well made and sell designed vibrators. A few that work on top for this times when you're not comfortable pushing an 8" vibe up your pussy, they are molded so you could use them through your panties or even w/ light pair of slacks. BTW, I think it totally hot when I notice a sex toy in a woman's purse.

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  • I was super uncomfortable when I bought my vibrator. I met with my BFF and she helped me find one but when I went to check out we got the male clerk and she couldn't help but tell him " this is her first one" the guy smiled at me and I felt a bit uncomfortable. So I feel your embarrassment.

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  • I think it's probably normal that you felt the embarrassment you did. But once it was all over, you really do have to admit that you were just a customer in a store, and you were treated well by the store clerk. You bought a product that a lot of other people buy to make themselves feel good and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

  • buy them online. Saves embarrasment.

  • when i was 16 my brother made me buy condoms at 11pm from a nearby grocery store. the chinese guy was closing and gave me a weird look when i asked for it but i got em :P

  • Lol that's so awkward

  • I went in looking for, of all things, a prostate massage unit. Try THAT for the first time as a straight guy talking to a salesgirl half your age!

    To her credit she was completely professional and gave me good pointers about how to judge the quality and power of such things. Then again, I'm a dirty old perv and it's hard to embarrass me after all these years.

    I think it was easier buying it from a girl than it would have been buying it with a dude behind the counter.

  • if you think thats awkward try going to a brothel hahahahaahaha

    • I've been window shopping in Amsterdam and Frankfurt, but I've never actually closed the deal. That would be insanely weird.

    • actually im just joking. first time is awkward. then you get used to it.