GIRLS ONLY: Would you do this with your boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Ok, so I've been going out with this girl for a couple of months. We are both 19 years old and both agree to be abstinent, but love to push the limits without actually doing it. Well, we decided that we want to take a bath together, it came up in conversation but that's besides the point. We will be doing it at her house in a couple of days when her parents leave. As I said before we both know that it won't go as far as "stick going in hole" but all else is fine. My question is, girls, what do you expect from a guy in this situation? What do you expect to happen first, do you guys both undress each other? Then what? And what if I already have a boner before we get undressed? Will that be awkward? The tub is one of those long narrow tubs, so how would be be sitting in it? Should I let her sit on my lap? What if my bomber gets in the way? And what exactly do we do in there? In my eyes if this was a perfect world I wouldn't mind her sitting on my lap and not being weirded out by my boner and we could just explore each others naked bodies underwater without having sex, or just calmly cuddle underwater. So again, sorry if I totally give all of this info at once, but as you can see I'm trying to get into a discussion with an experienced GIRL (not guy). So please, leave LONG paragraph answers and don't answer if you're just going to leave one sentence replies. Would love to chat about this and hopefully it goes well for me! :)

[isueke]

this really cute, anyway u should ask her if she is ok with u undressing her. it doesn't matter what u do ur gonna get a boner and she will notice it. haven't u guys fool around ( just touching) b4? try to stay calm if ur not then is awkward and try to make her comfortable. no cuddling or have her sit on ur lap.

[Locaaaa]

I mean I think she would know that you r gonna get turned on. I think she would actually be happy with it. Cause that means u think her body is beautiful. In what position? Ask her what she would feel most comfortable in. I would like to sit in the lap. Who cares about the boner

[Asker]

That's hot! Ha I mean it's just a bit awkward because we've never been naked in front if each other before but that would be so cool if she does actually like the boner. And position wise my bath would be against the wall and I'd be facing forward and she would sit on my lap, the same way I'm sitting or perpendicular. So the boner isn't weird? Good idea about asking her. What position do girls like?

[kittykatg]

Try sitting across from each other. Just take the time to relax and enjoy the intimacy of the moment.

[Asker]

Good idea. I've never been naked in front of anybody before let alone my girlfriend, and same with her, she's never been naked in front of anybody before let alone me. It'll be so odd to see each other like this but again so awesome. Just the feeling of us both being exposed! I'm looking forward to it! Ok, so once we sit across from each other, then what? Talk about stuff? Explore each others bodies?

[kittykatg]

Just talk about life, have a nice bubble bath. Don't touch each other because you will have sex, because, well, hormones and being virgins.

[Asker]

Hmm, good idea. Oohh now I'm getting excited :D I can't wait to be with her while we are both naked hehe are you sure it'd lead to sex? We both can control it and have since. Have you ever been in this situation?

[kittykatg]

Taking a tub together is much more intimate. I'd be wary.

[Asker]

Ok, I'll see how it goes. Besides this, do you have any other ideas? Like besides taking a bath, but somewhere along the lines? Sort of like the "I'll show you mine you show me yours" game?

[kittykatg]

No I think those are very childish.

[CarlaDiaz]

She must know you'll get a boner and she'll be turned on too. You could also tell her what would you like to happen and see if she wants the same.

Don't overthink this and it will be okay

[Asker]

I was thinking the same thing! I mean I just thought it'd be weird to have to jutting out and poking her :P maybe she'll like it though! Do women like it?

[Asker]

And what do you mean ask her what I'd like to happen? Like lead it? What exactly should I say? Since you're a woman, what would you like to hear your man say?