Should I stop masturbating/watching p*rn?

[Anonymous]

At the age of 11 I started to masturbate to p*rn, and in the years that followed I've watched things that are so extreme I don't want to think about them. I feel like it's bad for me, so I want to stop masturbating to p*rn, and maybe even completely stop masturbating. This because I heard it mentally changes you, and may even make it easier for me to get a girlfriend. I'm at one week without wanking now and I've noticed that I started to get morning woods and random boners/boners from looking at girls. I was wondering if this is just all in my head or if it's really a good thing to stop watching p*rn or even stop jerking off. Will it in some way make it easier to get a girlfriend?

[Dionysos]

Guys can get desensitized from watching a lot of it and beating off a lot.
Abstaining for a while can undo that.
It can also make you more eager for companionship, but there's a thin line between eager and desperate.

You don't ever want a prospective gf to think you're desperate or even that you're too eager. The sweet spot is an image that says you like her and you'll take what's offered, but you don't want her quite as much as she should want you.

Don't freak out about being a young dude and beating off a lot either. We all go through that phase. Some of us never really leave it. In other words it's normal.

[Asker]

So basically you're saying that it's not a good idea to stop masturbating because it will only will me a creepy needy guy? Would it be be better to jerk off once in a while but just without p*rn?

[Dionysos]

Whatever works is the right answer. Only way to find out is to experiment some I guess.

[DarkEmblem]

You will have to deal with it that you masturbate. Because you actually do have to masturbate sometimes, or you will get blue balls. Since your seed has to refresh and all. You could just try masturbating less. And morning woods is incredibly common. And I do not really think it will make it easier for you to get a girlfriend.

[Encolpius]

You would only get blue balls if you intentionally made yourself aroused without release. If you just don't masturbate, that alone won't cause it.

[DarkEmblem]

Hm weird, a friend of mine went to the doctor, and told me he could get blue balls if he didn't masturbate. Guess I have been badly informed.

[DollFace565]

I wouldn't never masturbate again that is not healthy. But maybe until you find other things to help you climax just take a little break from the p*rn.

[Asker]

That "little break" might not be so small as you think. Assuming that those other things you speak about are things with girls, I don't think that will happen any time soon. The most spectacular thing I've ever received from a girl is a friendzone-hug, and I doubt it will get much better for me before I go to college. You might be right though.

[DollFace565]

No I mean masturbate without p*rn. Your imagination. Or maybe to the sound of a woman's voice talking sexy. Thats not hard to find online. You have to desensitize yourself to p*rn with may take some work

[Anonymous]

It's unpopular to say this in today's secular, sex-crazed society, but p*rn is very damaging, especially to someone so young (I know this from experience). It twists young people's minds and gives them false expectations of what real sex is like. It will greatly distort your views of women. They become mere objects to use like sex toys. The longer you watch it, the more deviant your tastes become, because what you're used to becomes boring and less arousing.

[Opinion Owner]

I started watching p*rn around 11 or 12, but back then, it was just scrambled soft-core TV p*rn, followed by a few nude pictures and movie clips when the internet first took off. I can only imagine how bad it is for kids now, since they can easily find hardcore p*rn in vast quantities at the click of a button.

[Asker]

Good point. I tried getting off to imagination but it takes me ages to come, probably because I've never really done any sexual stuff with a girl so I can't imagine what it's like (well, at least I know it won't be like porn). Is there anything I can do to make it easier and more enjoyable?

[Anonymous]

Only if you want to.

"Will it in some way make it easier to get a girlfriend? "

LOL. No.

[Asker]

I don't know what exactly the video I saw said about it. I think it was that it makes your body "realize" that if you don't masturbate you will need a girl or something like that... But yeah, that sounds quite needy, and now that I think about it, it actualy sounds like bullshit.

[Opinion Owner]

Good lad. You know, jerking off regularly stops the hormones from plaguing your brain and making you believe that sort of crazy bullshit.