My boyfriend treats me like an object rather than a person?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend treats me as though I'm an object to be had rather than a person. I've confronted him about it a number of times, but instead of it completely going away, he just changes the manner in which he treats me, still like an object. For example, he used to treat me like I was a dog or some kind of other cute furry animal. Every two seconds, he'd be patting my head and saying "aww yeah, look at her. She's so cute" in a high pitched voice like you would use to talk to a baby or puppy. I spoke to him about that and it stopped, but other things got worse. He's always been a horny guy, but it got to the point where every single time he touched me, it was in a sexual way. We never just hugged to hug. He hugged me so he could press his junk up against me or so he could touch my boobs. Whenever we layed together, he would always start humping me or feeling me up. And when I say he did this whenever he touched me, no matter what, I mean it. I confronted him about that too, but he sort of just rolled his eyes and told me that he didn't feel he was treating me that way and instead blamed it on the fact that I have depression. I love him despite all this, but I am considering a break unless I can figure out how to communicate this to him in a way he'll understand. Advice please!

[OldDinosaur]

You have not learned to drain him. Want to make him docile? Bang his brains out and then when he is finished do it again until he is docile! I know this sounds funny but he probably simply has a higher sex drive than you. Let him know you can take more than he can give. I think that is really what is going on. The head patting get's old and is childish, he can stop that but the rubbing on you all the time issue is all about his sex drive.

[Asker]

Haha the only problem with this is that he can only have sex once a day. We've tried doing it more than once, but he can never cum the second time around, so we don't really bother trying anymore.

[26ukdude]

Yes you need to change your boyfriend, the petting bit made me laugh becuase my stepdad treats my mum like a small fluffy animal sometimes.

But I can see how it would annoy you and the constant sexul stuff would get very annoying, in fact its bordering on harrassment. So tell him one more time and if not say you might have to leave him

[ArabianPwincess197]

Time you changed your bf then

[CrazyAK]

Can't have everything in life, I'm sorry but you really can't change people it doesn't work. You can't change his sexual motives and habits its how he is :/

[yaddayaddayadda02]

And yet you are still with him. Interesting.

[jointhepatriarchy]

Get a new bf who respects you. I don't get why women stay with these horny guys that treat them like this, and then say I am the one who treats them as a sex object because I say they shouldn't sleep around. Crazy. Quit trying to change these jerks and find a decent guy.

[Luludatdopegurl]

He sounds like a real dick

[Anonymous]

Breaks are death sentences to relationships... I really do think it's probably the depression. Depression makes us think things we don't normally think, just look at Robin Williams (oooo, too soon?)

[Asker]

He thinks that too, but I've had it long enough to be able separate what my depression is telling me from what is actually going on. And this is all physical things happening. It's not like he's saying things and I'm reading too much into them or something...