My parents had sex in MY ROOM!!! I'm angry and I feel very disrespected?

[Anonymous]

I go to college and come home on the weekends to spend time with my parents. I was just going to drop off my stuff in my room when I hear weird sounds. My door was closed but I knew what was happening... Angry I pounded on the door yelling "WHAT ARE YOU TWO DOING IN MY ROOM!!!" They stopped suddenly and I could hear them quickly putting on their clothes. I walked out into the kitchen and waited for them. My dad came out mad saying "You should really let us know when you're coming home." And I said "You two shouldn't be having sex in my room! I mean really! That's disrespectful!" My mom and dad then told it was their house and they could do what they wanted in it. I shouted "That doesn't make it okay! It's really gross what you did!" They then started giving me an excuse that it was natural and the urge can come quick. Pissed I told them they had their own room to satisfy their urges and that I'm staying over on the weekends anymore. My parents them said that I was being ridiculous but I just left in the middle of their sentence. I may be considered a brat but who does that seriously! YOU HAVE YOUR OWN BED!

[Anonymous]

I really don't care if it is their house... They have all the other places in the house to have sex, including their own room... It's not even the room that's the problem. It's the fact that they had sex in the same place that you sleep. If you had your own house and they came over and you had a guest bedroom and you had sex in that bedroom as they arrive and walk in on you having sex on the bed that they are going to be sleeping in, they will be disgusted. Usually a child may have sex on the parents bed because generally speaking the parents bed is bigger and much easier to have sex on and if you're going to bring someone over you want to be as comfortable as possible... Most children have twin size beds... You don't really hear about parents having sex on their kids beds because they already have a big nice comfortable bed. Even if the child had a queen size bed or one close to that size you still wouldn't see parents have sex in that bed...

A lot of people fall under the belief that children should respect their parents no matter what.. but respect can't be demanded.. It can only be earned. By demanding respect you may make the child compliant, but they don't truly respect the parent. If parents want their child to respect them then they should be respectful towards their children. Part of that respect is not having sex in their room or on their bed. And by giving the child a room, the parent is respecting that that room is the childs own private space. Everyone needs some privacy. I don't give a fuck if it is their house..

My mom wouldn't ever just go into my room even though it was her house. Why? Because she had respect for her children. Our rooms, even though it is her house, is our own private corner. And to defile that private space for the child is extremely disrespectful. If you had moved out completely (no belongings in the house) then it's not your room, but as long as you still have things there.. it's your room and they should respect that.

[Asker]

Praise be! Your word the truth! This is why I'm mad. It's almost as if they did it in my bed on purpose...

[Opinion Owner]

A lot of the older people grew up believing that you have to respect your parents no matter what, but our generation knows that respect goes both ways. I don't care if my mom is my parent... If she wants me to respect her then she has to respect me too. Her being my mom does not give her a free pass and make me automatically respect her. Her being my mom just makes it easier for me to forgive her if she does disrespect me. But respect is not given... it's not demanded.. it is earned. And it goes both ways. I'd be just as pissed if not more pissed if I was you. If they give you the room and say "it's your room". Then it being under their house is irrelevant. It's your room. I'm not going to give my son an ice cream cone and tell him that it's his and then halfway through take it from him and eat it and when he cries tell him to get over it since I'm the one that paid for it. Same thing in my book.

[RichardBoehner]

You should bring a guy in their room and fuck him on their bed. Make sure he jizzes all over the sheets and shit. and then just leave it there. when they ask about it tell them now you know how it feels

[Asker]

Another reason I pounded on the door was so they couldn't enjoy the finish.

[Panzer103]

Such a beautiful opinion. I want to cry. /applaud.

[AMilano]

Bit of a biased BA, ain't it?

[Opinion Owner]

Not best answer... Most Helpful Opinion. Big difference.

[Asker]

And I get to choose AMilano. And no one else for this question.

[saccharose]

Girl I am with you on this one. It is pretty bad, I mean they shouldn't have done that. After all we are humans we should act like it too instead of banging where ever we want. That being said, now about you being pissed I would have been too if I were you but you know if you think from their point of you then they thought they were alone, also they are humans and they can make mistake too. You are right that their should be limitations and boundaries which they clearly lacked here. Anyways, I advise you to forgive them, after all they are your parents and no matter what they have done, still they were their for you their whole lives, they raised you. So, a single mistake no matter how big it is should not overcome the effort of almost two decades (I don't know how long they have supported you so I am assuming two decades here). Take your time, cool down and when you feel like that you are ready to forgive them then please do, but do not take too long to do so, they will be hurt, they love you and for them you being hurt is them being hurt. Good Luck :)

[Anonymous]

i 100% agree with you. i'd be disgusted, and pissed off if i found my parents having sex in my bed. i dont give a fuck if they pay for it or if you're only there on the weekends, it's still YOUR bed that YOU sleep in. a parents job is to give their child everythng they need, so it then becomes the childs belongings. that's ridiculous to say "ITS THEIR BED" no it's fucking not. its your bed, that you've slept in for years. your parents bought you clothes as a baby, if they started wearing them it wouldn't be okay. and it wouldn't be acceptable to say OH THEY BOUGHT IT SO IT'S THEIRS. its fucking ridiculous. people are being so stupid about this. how do they not see anything wrong with that? your parents probably got their disgusting sex juices all over your bed. like what the fuck? have some respect? they obviously expected you to come home on the weekend so they shouldn't get it on at that time. they shouldn't get it on in your bed at all, but especially not at that time. it's clearly not transitioning into a guest room if you still sleep there every single weekend. it's still your home, and your bed, and your private space. it's so disrespectful that they just go in and have sex in it. most normal parents would keep your room exactly the same for you, and not touch it or go in it at all. thats at least what my mom did when my brother left for bootcamp when he joined the marines. that's the decent thing to do. anyways, sorry people are being dicks on this question. i understand where you're coming from.

[PandaRexRawr]

It's disrespectful in my opinion, what if it had been another family member like an aunt or nephew etc, I highly doubt they would just randomly have sex in that room and when they found a used condom in the room or something they'd totally just be like "Our house, our rules" No, it's gross. Yes, it's natural to have sex, and yes people can get aroused quickly but jeez, take it somewhere private and not in someone else's space that is for them to relax, sleep, etc even if temporarily. If the place you were staying had an extra room you gave to them to use and KNEW they were coming over, you wouldn't just be like "Well, better get some p*rn and masturbate here or something". There are boundaries when it comes to stuff like that and clearly your parents overstepped them and knew they did something wrong since they came up with petty excuses like "the urge comes quickly".

[SillyQuirks]

When kids leave for college parents take advantage of that freedom - walk around naked probably, have sex where ever they'd please and yada yada...
Heck, they probably had sex on the table before too. lol

It is natural. You shouldn't have had to see it but you are grown, don't expect anyone to cover your eyes anymore towards reality.

[Asker]

I didn't see it. There was a closed door that I pounded on!

[SillyQuirks]

Still. Just mature up a little. One day when you are married and your children leave - you will probably be doing the same. Nbd.

[Asker]

But isn't that disrespectful to your kids?

[SillyQuirks]

It can be viewed that way but it wasn't intended for you to know... No one says, "Hey. I had sex in your bed.". It is completely normal... Violated, perhaps... but normal.

[Asker]

And it was normal for me to act the way I did.

[SillyQuirks]

Not really... I think you overreacted but you aren't me or anyone else who disagrees with you. Move on from it

[Asker]

I think they overreacted their urges when they just Had to have sex in the room and bed I'll be staying in that night. It looks bad when they had all of the other rooms but decide to use the bed when you'll use it. Did they do it on purpose? I wonder. That's why I got really mad.

[Asker]

I'll get over it but I want them to know I'm mad and the reason why. I'm venting for the most part.

[KandleGuii2]

Saw The Title & Had To Red The Story But iWould Feel The Same Way, iWould Be Heated...

[theothgrl]

Um. They have probably been screwing in your room way before that. Seriously. Parents screw every where and they hide it well. Parents= sex ninjas

[Lovergirl1561]

While yes it is completely gross and rude especially if they know your coming home on the weekend, They may have done it just to piss you off, I don't know and I think you handled it very well your point was valid and while yes it's their house if your still living there even if only part time they should respect your space which is your room

[AustinMan]

Hello!!! It's their house. All of it. They pay the mortgage. They assigned you that room and when you're there they respect your privacy. When you're gone, it's theirs again. Maybe they were role playing that he was sneaking into his gf's room and having his wicked way with her. Next time, turn around, go outside and call them. They were just having fun. There was no disrespect. No stop making it all about you.

[MaskedSanity]

Truth be told, it IS their house and they can bonk wherever the fuck they want.

It's not your room. It's a room your parents have set aside for you. This room does not belong to you and never has.

You'd have more grounds to cry, if you actually paid for it.

Sure, annoyance is understandable, I'd be pretty upset too, if somebody rubbed nasties in the same room I lived in.

But ultimately, your parents are right. It's not a big deal and you are overreacting.

[Asker]

But I'm still upset. :( I feel they have no consideration to how I feel. Do why should I?

[MaskedSanity]

You did move out, so calling prior to turning up would have been a good idea. Did you expect them to sit there knitting all day once you were gone? Parents don't stop having sex just because they had a kid or reached a certain age. In fact, they probably had sex in every part of the house. Going by that logic, you might as well be pissed off and grossed out by the whole house. I know me and my boyfriend had sex in every room of our house. Your parents are just as human and entitled to have sex as any other person.

[Asker]

I'm entitled to express my feelings too. Can I ask for a bed free from parent sex?

[MaskedSanity]

Sure you are and you're welcome to ask them, but they're not obligated to comply. In the end your parents own the house and their rules apply, no matter how unfair it may seem.

[Asker]

Good thing I'm not staying there anymore.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

every room in that house is their room. call me when you pay some bills there. you don't even live there anymore they've probably fucked in every room in that house. that is pretty disturbing but u have no right to talk to them like that when ur techinically a guest in their house and ur name isn't on the mortgage

[Asker]

So when I get my own house I can fuck in the same room for my parents the same day they visit and will sleep in they will HAVE to be okay with it because it's my house my rules right? I think they would act that way and leave too because it is disrespectful. Just because you own something doesn't mean you have to be a d! ck about it.

[ImagineRelease]

The fact your parents are still having sex is a GREAT thing. It means they have a strong connection so much that they're not all up in your life about every little thing. It just happens they're in your room, and while I hope not, possibly in all your amazing VS purchases. But I'll show how that as a joke helps heal this between you all.

seriously, I'm sorry you're mad, forgive your dad for his BS excuse you should have called. It's a cover, not a true blame. It's just a reaction because it's hard to explain why he's shagging her in your room.

I would say to send them a text and say as much of a shock as it was to see you're glad to know they're still close and and understand it's just an awkward situation for everyone so we drop it. and make a joke like "And I don't care if dad wears the good stuff as long as it's not stretched too much lol" This will soften it, it will blow over.

Think of how many girls have had sex in their parents beds. Make peace with it. You can message me directly too, I don't mind. I love awkward situations.

[MadeInAmerica]

Maybe it's because I'm a parent I don't see the big deal in it. The whole house is theirs and your only there on the weekends. I doubt that they did that when you regularly stayed there. I've never had sex on my children's bed though (why would I on a twin when I have a CA King in my room) so as someone stated make them wash the sheets ask for them not to do that again. The excuse was lame about you calling though, because it being home you should be able to come whenever.

[noneoftheabove]

Its also polite to let them know

[EpicHam]

Well they did have sex to make you so.. eh...

[Aizou]

Hah that's actually funny, not the sex part of course
but how you dealt with it (leaving them like that) because
it's exactly how I used to do, when people disrespects me
they need to feel pain, not physical, but emotional. ^.~

Don't drag it out for too long or it may
come back to bite you in the butt. ^.~

[isaynononono]

You should be glad your parents still have urges and really seem to love each other. Using your room must have been just for the fun and getting out of the routine. Calm down! Do not ruin a house filled with love with such bitterness!

[Asker]

And they should be happy their daughter has balls to stand up to authority figures when she feels wronged. We'll forgive each other but I'm still mad at them.

[Popnlock]

I know how you feel... One day I came home from school n my bro tried to stop me from goin in my room n says his friend n girlfriend are inside fuckin on my bed n I was like wtf... I was so pissed... Buts it's not like I had the option of sleeping elsewhere so I just had to live with it... You should be happy it was your parents and not some strangers -.-

[Asker]

True. But it's bad in other ways too. They are supposed to care how I feel but then they do it in my room.

[musicbrain5]

And? You moved out to go to school. You're bedroom is no longer yours once you move out. They can do whatever they want in it.

[Asker]

But then why do they keep it the same for me to visit them on the weekends if it's not technically my room. It's rude. And they did it on my own personal sheets and I know they didn't have time to wash them.

[wonder444]

Get over it, grow up. They probobly had sex on the damn table you eat at to. They can have sex where ever they please it s their house and they are adults.

[Asker]

Okay since they're adults and it's their house can they have sex in front of their children? or even with the windows open or people over. It's disrespectful. What if I had sex in their bed?

[wonder444]

no it's not you came home unannounced. Stop acting like a spoiled little brat , if you don't like it you can always get a place if your own.

[Asker]

They had no consideration of my feelings and That's why I'm mad. I stay at their place to give them company.

[wonder444]

No you acted like a child by banging on the bedroom door screaming , having a temper tantrum like a toddler would, so in return your father treated you like one a scolded you. An adult would have left and came back later to discuss it like a grown up, but I see you are definitely not one. If it was me and you acted that way you would of been leaving the house with whatever belongings you had left in the house. Who the hell do you think you are, your parents deserve respect , you are old enough to know better than to act that way.

[Asker]

Who the hell do they think they are to disrespect me by having sex in a room they have said is mine and on my personal sheets! They are old enough to know you shouldn't have sex on someone else's bed. They acted like desperate teens trying to get any private room to have sex in without taking consideration of the other person's feelings. I'm glad I got even with them by saying how I feel.

[wonder444]

I think you are a selfish little brat that needs to grow up. Your parents seem to have a great relationship, and keep things exciting. You wouldn't have known if you didn't come home at the time. I hate to tell you, you aaren't hurting anyone but yourself. When things go wrong in life it's your family that is there for you. Everyone is grossed out by the thought of there parents having sex , it's how you handled it. If you would of reacted like an adult your parents would of probably been more embarrassed and not mad. Their anger and lack of concern for your feelings has to do with the way you reacted. It's not what you say but how you say it.

[Asker]

Well what do they say to me by having sex in my room when they have their own? Couldn't they be selfish? I mean why did they have to have sex in my room? Fun? If they are going to be disrespectful like that I am going to act like that. Couldn't they've handled their urges like adults and not have sex in someone's room when someone else is going to stay there that night? Maybe it was karma I came home to know what they were doing. By having sex in my room they set things up to hurt themselves as well. Parents aren't always right. And They should be proud their daughter has courage to stand up for herself when wronged. I'll forgive them but I'm still mad. Because I feel they had no consideration for my feelings and a privacy they have given to me. You can't take back what you give. What if they caught me having sex in a bed they would sleep in when my parents over to my house? Actions speak louder than words. And they basically said we don't care it's your room. Which is wrong.

[cw909424]

That is wrong... it's your room and they sould respect that and not go in it or even have sex in it!!! thats ridiculous

[kheserthorpe]

I can see why you were grossed out, its a natural response.

On the other hand... it's their house. and you're transitioning to that being a guest room. It's not going to stay a shrine to you forever.

As for your parents, be glad they're marriage is still good, i know you don't -want- to know the details, but so many marriages out there are in bad shape if they're even still together

[Mesonfielde]

Technically though, I don't see why they would use her bed instead of their own. Especially if they are expecting her to come home.

[misscoffeehead]

Wow! Burn the bed!! Haha
understandable how it hurts you, but the parents had an urge, they wanted a quicky.. Sleep on the couch or buy new bed linen etc

[Roarke]

lol my question is, in your youth, did you ever have sex in THEIR room.

I knew a couple who's daughter did this, and they turned around and did it her room, and TOLD her about it. They were overall a close family so it was all in good fun.

In your case i'd have to say, if you think of your room as some kind of shrine, best you start cutting a few apron strings.

[Asker]

I never did but I'm reconsidering now.

[Roarke]

lol just be sure you tell them you did.

[Red_Arrow]

How many times as a kid did you crawl into their bed to sleep? You know, the bed they fucked in all the time? Didn't hurt you and you noticed nothing. Though I understand what we have been programmed to believe about what is proper, what is reality is no big deal, now as back then.

[kambo_trick3y]

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