Accidental Fuck Buddies?

[Anonymous]

Okay, so this is how it began... me and this guy use to be really good friends... like best friend type. But we never talked outside of school. Inside of school we were like best buds we were always together to the point were people thought we were boyfriend & girlfriend. I really liked being around him. Then one night we had sex and it was totally unplanned and then after that we were still good friends in school and everything was normal. We didn't really talk about our feeling with eachother we kinda just acted the same. But then occasionally we would have sex. But the thing is we never hung out of school or talked outside of school unless we were gonna hook up. Then once school ended we didn't talk over the summer which was pretty normal considering we talked in school; like school bestfriends only. One day over summer I called him just to saw i miss him and that we dont talk much anymore, but he kept the conversation short and said he was tired. Now it was really late at night so maybe he was tired. But I didn't want to seem clingy so I told myslef I want call or text him until he does first cause I figured if he wanted to talk to me he would. But he never did. I later saw him at a party and we didn't talk or look at eachother at all. The only thing we did was hug when i left but thats cause I hugged everyone when I was leaving so i wen to hug him to and say bye. But he didn't look at me at all he just hugged me back. Should I just leave him alone? Or should I call him and ask why he doesn't talk to me anymore? Like I said we never discussed our feelings before and we never talked out side of school but since the school years over we just dont talk is that normal or if he really liked me would he have tried to talk to me or is he waiting for me to call him frist. I mean some of his friends tell me he still brings my name up in conversations so does he still have feelings? PLLEAASSEE HELP P. s we haven't talked in like 3 months since school ended

[Peter0]

I think you could stand a conversation along the lines of "Hey, X. I know we haven't talked about this before, but we've been good friends in school for a while, and then we've done this sex thing. It'd be good to see where we are with that, if we want to keep doing it, if we're both okay with what we've been doing, you know, that sort of thing." [ awkward pause ] "so... I've enjoyed the sex?" and go from there - awkward as it will be ><

But he's the one you need to be talking to about this :) Maybe he's not interested in going any further, maybe the sex was just casual fun for him... but he'll have a better idea than anyone else.

[AustinMan]

Just see how he is when you see him in school. It sounds to me like he enjoys your company and the sex but isn't going to pursue a relationship.

[DivaMonae]

Accidental fuck buddy? I find it pretty hard for him to "accidentally" fall into you with both of your clothes off, pull out, and repeat. Or you accidentally fall onto him, both nude, and constantly repeat... But anyways

Unfortunately, it does seem like he used you or is ashamed of you. Unless he has a girlfriend now or some other really good excuse he's a total tool.

If I were you I'd demand an answer and tell him about his self... but remember the truth isn't always the answer you were looking for and sometimes hurts.

Good Luck...

[BeardedDude]

Myth Debunking Lesson: No such thing as "accidental" F-Buddies, sex is a choice between two people, unless its rape, unless his dick accidentally went inside you by pure and simple chance then you two didn't accidentally do shit!

[Greenwood101]

Kinda sounds like he used you for sex, either confront him about it or move on, or try to re-establish a friendship with him by sending him a heartfelt paragraph about how much you liked him before he started to ignore you, it may open his eyes

[mrluckydog]

Yup you became a piece of a** to him, that pretty jacked up to not even look at you. Every girl that I ever slept with I would still to this day sit down and talk with.