My crush has a gf but flirts with me hardcore every day. Does he want something with me? Do guys believe in being just friends or is he after sex?

[Anonymous]

If a really close guy friend (with a gf) flirts like he's getting paid to with me every time we're together does that mean he wants me but for some reason isn't making a move on me? He says he hates cheaters but I think emotionally we are already a couple. Our friends seem to know we have a thing even tho we never talk about what "we" are. We have no problem saying we love each other all the time. I can live with just being friends and I've tried to get over my crush but he keeps it going, so I figure he likes it too. I just wonder if we both want more but are afraid to risk what we have now? Do guys friend zone girls? He never ever calls me bro or dude and loves to say really dirty stuff to me about his sex life and asks me about what I do in bed and what I'd like, etc. He touches me a lot, flirty not pervy, and I lean over him so he gets a free boob graze. The other day he was tracing his index finger up and down my forearm and it made me do hot for him. Is he doing this on purpose to turn me on? Could this just be friend stuff? My other guy friends don't try that stuff with me and everyone at school seems to know I'm his. We joke about charging each other with sexual harassment but I said that's only if it's unwanted touching and he just smiled. Any time we talk we stare deeply into each other's eyes and there's nothing we can't talk about... except whatever it is we are involved in with each other and what we want out of it. How can I tell if he wants to get physical without asking him directly? We haven't had a chance to really be alone in private or I would have tried to kiss him or something already. I am brave enough to make the first move if I ever get a chance. Do you think he's waiting for me to move first to take the pressure off him? Is all of this sex talk just friendly curiosity? The touching feels hot not friendly, to me at least. Am I reading too much into this bc I want humans want him to want me?

[ClassyB_tch]

What about his girlfriend? I get it, you like him and it sounds like he likes you, BUT, maybe before moving forward with this you should figure out what he wants from you. Just ask him. If he wants to be more than friends you should make it clear that you aren't going to be a homewrecker so he needs to break up with her if he wants you. That's what I would do anyways. I can't imagine doing that to someone. If she loves her boyfriend, being cheated on will probably hurt her a lot and make her look at love and trust differently. I've seen so many people get serious trust issues after being cheated on and it affects ALL of their future relationships. So, think of everyone in this situation, not just yourself.

[ButterflyXkisses]

You should just kiss him. Even if his girlfriend is standing right there. Better she know what's going on between you two anyways. Maybe she'll even like to watch.

No but seriously, crush or not, go find your own man. Just because he's acting like a little tramp doesn't mean you have to enable him or join him. Cheating is never acceptable, it does horrible things to the spouse cheated on, it's not a prideful thing to say that you took somebody else's man, and really, who WANT to be a home-wrecker?

[thetundrawolf]

He may ahve started it, but you are entertaining it and egging him on by not ending it.

Let me ask you, he says he is not a cheater, yet he is cheatign emotionally, with you. That makes him a liar. And a cheater.

How would you like it if he did the same thing when he is with you? (You are his girlfriend)

Because he will. This is the irony of a woman, who helps take a man from his current mate/gf/w/e, thinking though he was unfaithful with his ex, he will somehow be faithful with her.

He won't. You are flirting with a cheater, who will in turn, cheat on you, if he ever leaves his current GF.

[BeardedDude]

His girlfriend is going to be upset at you. I would say it wouldn't be the moral thing to feed his flirtatious behavior.

It sounds like he does want sex. Sounds like a good old fashion 'player'. Even if all you want is a fling this is the type of guy who does these things to mutiple women.